Save The Marriage Podcast | How To Save Your Marriage | How To Stop Your Divorce

Do you find yourself trying to convince your spouse to work on the relationship? Do you try logic and rational facts to “help” your spouse see your point? Do you find yourself begging and pleading, trying to get your spouse to change his or her mind? Do you notice that these strategies fail?  Do you […]

In last week’s article on New Year resolutions to save your marriage, I started with “forgive more.”  That struck a nerve.  Some people loved it. . . but many sent me letters asking, “why should I have to forgive?”  Ironically, my point was that forgiving frees the forgiver. After the first couple of emails, I […]

The Holidays are stressful.  Even under the best of times, we can find ourselves stressed and down.  But when a relationship is in trouble, the pressure can feel overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be.  Don’t lose the Holidays.  Take back the meaning of the holidays and discover your reserve of strength. Regardless of what […]

E + R = O That is the equation — the equation that can help you transform your marriage. Can it save your marriage?  Perhaps.  But that equation will certainly change YOU and the outcome. On this week’s podcast, we explore how this equation can change your marriage and transform your life. Find out why […]

Fear.  It is a primal emotion. You can’t turn it off, and sometimes, it seems like you can’t even turn it down! But letting your fear take control, that is a different matter.  While you can’t stop fear, you can keep fear from ruining your chances of saving your marriage.  You can learn how to […]

Last week, I presented a special edition podcast on how to deal with an affair.  It was mostly aimed for the person that suffered infidelity.  But I had a number of people ask, “what if you are the one that committed the affair?”  So, here is a podcast aimed at answering that.  What do you […]

When people give their reasons for problems that lead to divorce, they list money, children, in-laws, religion and sex as the top 5.  Money is the only reason listed consistently above sex. Why is sex such a huge issue for couples?  Is it really about sex, or is it something else? We are surrounded by […]

Is your marriage threatened by an emotional or physical affair? Do you find yourself scared and unsure on how to deal with your spouse’s extramarital relationship? Are you wondering if you can recover from infidelity in your relationship? In this special audio podcast, I cover your plan for addressing the extra-marital relationship, whether it is […]

They were bitter, angry, and pointing the finger at each other.  Whenever I tried to get them to make a shift, they quickly reverted to blame. I had to find a way to make a shift. And then it occurred to me — one little exercise that transformed their marriage.  Here is the interesting thing:  […]

Let me ask you one simple question:  who is the enemy of saving your marriage?  Is it your spouse?  Is it someone else?  Is it something else? The answer is crucial.  Answer it wrong, and you will find yourself constantly struggling to move forward.  More than that, you will only increase the resistance from your […]

Can your marriage be saved?  Let’s look at a couple of measurements that will help you determine how difficult it may be. Do you know about boundaries and standards?  Many people confuse the two, and if you do, you can cause problems in your relationship. Let’s talk about boundaries and how to set them.  And […]

Fear, resentment, habit.  All reasons why we hide.  And we hide more the more important the relationship.  The intimacy may scare us, the scars may hide us. But if we want to heal a relationship, especially a marriage, we HAVE to show up! In this week’s podcast, I examine the reasons we hide, and how […]

Is your marriage infected by the “zombie virus?”  Do you find your relationship to be the “walking dead?”  Are emotions lost and connections missing?  Do you and your spouse respond to each other with “zombie grunts?” The infection can be stopped.  You can fight the infection and heal the relationship. Don’t allow the big 4 […]

Have you ever noticed that your mind runs pretty much non-stop?  Try NOT to think, and see how long you can do that. The problem isn’t that you keep thinking.  The problem is how often you forget that you are thinking.  You confuse your thoughts with reality.  And that’s when the trouble begins. . . […]

Fear.  It is the enemy of your efforts to save your marriage.  We all have fear.  But how much does fear get in the way? In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, we explore how your fear of abandonment can destroy and undermine your efforts. But more importantly, we explore some ways to […]