Save The Marriage Podcast | How To Save Your Marriage | How To Stop Your Divorce

“Jack” was dancing around my office: pacing, sitting, jumping up, sitting down, pacing. . . . Jack’s wife just revealed that she did not want to stay married.  22 years of marriage.  Gone.  Jack was in panic mode. “What do I do?”, he repeatedly asked. To be honest, Jack had already done a number of […]

“James” and “Tina” are like many people who have contacted me over the years. James and his wife had been struggling for years.  Arguments, fights, and conflicts had cut into their love for each other. While James believed there was still love there, he knew it was buried deep for both of them.  James spent […]

We all have hidden agendas.  We all play games.  And these are not “fun” games.  They are mental games. The problem is, in every game, every hidden agenda, every ulterior motive, there is manipulation and indirectness. It may work for salespeople, attorneys, and politicians.  But it rarely works for spouses and friends. When someone is […]

Several times a week, I get an email or a phone call with the same question, “I want to save my marriage, but can I do it?  I don’t want to try unless I know I can.” In other words, “I don’t have confidence, and until I do, I don’t want to take action.” I […]

You want to save your marriage.  Your spouse seems to only want to destroy it.  That is a pretty common scenario for people who visit my website. And so, I often have the question asked, “Should we separate?  Will a separation save my marriage?” Can a separation save a marriage? Short answer:  yes, it can. […]

Maybe your spouse said it.  Or maybe you’re feeling it:  those feelings just aren’t there. No tingles, no butterflies, no desires.  Is it you?  Is it your spouse?  Were they ever there? Those feelings of attraction and romance are not well understood by most people.  So, when they aren’t there (or are at least in […]

You have arrived at that point.  You know you are not doing all you can and being all you can be.  It is time for a change. Perhaps with hat in hand, you sit down with your spouse and let your spouse know, in your most sincere and concerned voice, that you know you have […]

I admit I was a magician in my younger years.  But I never did much with mental magic (tricks that make you think I am reading your mind).  And I never really got into hypnosis (although I do love a good performing hypnotist – nothing like a person barking on stage!). Which is why it […]

Life is change.  Relationships change, we change, the world around us changes. Yet, for the most part, we humans resist change. Let’s assume you have now listened to my series on What Happy Couples Do Differently.  Let’s further assume that you think it might be even a good idea to move in that direction. That […]

Life is going along.  Everything seems to be fine.  But under the surface, things are not good.  You just didn’t know it yet. Then comes the “shake-up.”  You discover things are not going well.  Your spouse is unhappy, frustrated, and angry with the situation. From here, I can predict the direction.  At a certain point, […]

Happy couples are no different than unhappy couples.  They have similar backgrounds, same jobs, same income levels, and same interests. But they do some things differently.  And those differences in how they do conflict, connection, and companionship, make all the difference. Changes in action lead to changes in trajectory.  That leads to changes in outcome. […]

Success leaves a trail.  If you want more of something, take a look at those who have what you want. In this podcast series, we are examining what happy couples do differently than other couples. Last week, we looked at how happy couples deal with conflict differently. This week, we examine five ways happy couples […]

This week, we start a series on what happy couples do differently than other couples. Success leaves a trail.  Experts have been saying this for decades.  If you want to get somewhere, look at people who have gotten there.  What do they do differently?  How have they managed to get themselves there? Happy couples are […]

Did you know there is a science to bonding? “Bonding” is what happens when people arrive at the place where they are so connected that they want to be together forever. Here’s the problem:  many people think they have successfully bonded — but they aren’t!  The proof is how many marriages get into trouble. But […]

Do you find yourself chasing after your spouse?  Do you keep wondering why your spouse is so cool, distant, aloof, and emotionally unavailable? You may be pursuing your spouse, and in unhealthy ways.  In fact, your spouse may be running away faster and faster, because your spouse is feeling the pursuit. Why does this happen?  […]