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There is a war going on.  It isn’t between you and your spouse. It is right between your ears!  Your brain is at war with itself. Well, to be more accurate, there are two parts of your brain that are constantly at odds with each other, both looking for different things. And the part of […]

You try to show love to your spouse. . . and you get nothing in return.  You try to let your spouse know how much you love your spouse. . . and you get nothing back. Let me say that I do not think it is alright to be in a relationship where none of […]

Sometimes, it is helpful to have a mental image or idea in mind, to help you navigate spaces. Marriage is an idea you don’t fully understand until you are in it. Unfortunately, there is plenty of time to make mistakes, all while trying to figure it out. We forget that training for marriage only happens […]

I admit it.  I am an information junkie.  If I am interested in something, I read and read before taking action. Sometimes, though, when something big is in front of us, we forget that last word, “action.” You can study, read, cogitate, agitate, marinate. . . and do nothing. Oh, sure, it can feel like […]

Maybe you have heard these lines: “Love should just happen.” “This is just too much work.” “I’m not feeling it, so it must not be true love.” “I just don’t feel the attraction/excitement I used to feel.  Something is wrong.” Have you ever been told something so many times that you begin to doubt yourself?  […]

I heard it for the first time the other day.  It happened when a client was telling me about feeling discouraged. That word, “discouraged,” hit me. Dis-couraged.  To lose courage. We can be discouraged, losing our courage.  We can be encouraged, taking courage in.  And we can act courageously — act, in spite of fear. […]

You want to save your marriage.  But it feels like you are “stuck in the muck.”  You can’t get moving. It may feel like paralysis — nothing will move.  It may feel like frustration — pushing against something, but with no progress.  It may feel like the engine is revving, but you are stuck in […]

Every marriage starts with such promise, such expectation. Remember that day?  You promised to stick together through good and bad days, rich and poor days, sick and healthy days. And you knew you would. Then, things began to deteriorate. But do you remember that time when you believed, “Not us.  We won’t have problems.  We […]

There is a plethora of marriage advice out there.  Much of it promises to save your marriage.  Some of it is good.  Some is fine.  And some is dangerous. The other day, I was reading an article by someone, proclaiming 3 words that would save your marriage. That caught my attention!  And then, it caught […]

What you do to save your marriage is important. But HOW you do it is crucial. Over the years, I have coached many people to approach their efforts to save their marriage with 3 very clear mandates. I have come to refer to these as the 3 C’s of saving your marriage. This is not […]

Kaizen is the idea of slow, constant change.  It revolutionized the Japanese auto industry, and can be applied to your life.  You can look for those places of growth, opportunities for change.  They don’t have to be earth-shattering.  They can be gradual. Today, I have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.  Rhoberta has worked […]

Do you have a plan to save your marriage? Not an idea, floating around in your head. But a plan. Written down. I have been asking this question for years, especially when someone tells me their marriage isn’t turning around. 90% tell me they DON’T have a plan.  I tell them, “that is the starting […]

Your spouse told you your marriage was in trouble. You responded. You did your research, perhaps found some information, and decided to save your marriage. Now, you are beginning to wonder, “Is this marriage ever going to improve?  Will it turn around?  Can I save my marriage?” Sometimes, people put forth some effort and see […]

I’ve asked the question many times:  “What is the foundation of a strong marriage?” I usually get the same response:  “love.” In your mind, please now hear the “Buzzzz” sound, indicating that answer is wrong! Please understand:  I am not opposed to love.  I deeply love my wife.  I do not believe that a loveless […]

I hear the same question over and over, “How do I save my marriage?” It’s a great question.  But there is something else you need to ask first:  “What’s my why?” In other words, WHY are you wanting to save your marriage?  This is the starting point. That single question is fundamental to your process, […]