The Art of Charm

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #27! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: The past may be the past, but it's the best indicator of what's to come when that friend with a troubled history becomes more than just a friend. A healthy, balanced group dynamic needs more than one person reaching out to make plans -- especially if you're that one person. If you feel guilty for making profit on something you used to give away for free, ask yourself this question: would you buy it? Are people more interested in being right than they are in finding the most correct answer? Is it hard for you to admit when you're wrong? Want to avoid feeling manipulative when drumming up business among connections? Dig your well before you're thirsty -- build your network before you need it (and be prepared to give before you take). Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-27-why-does-profit-make-me-feel-guilty/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Thinking big and acting bigger means doing hard work and owning your role -- leading by example while keeping your ego in check. But the rewards make it all worthwhile. "That's what you have to start to learn about thinking big -- for any person or company, any age or size -- is to own who you are because you can." -Jeffrey Hayzlett The Cheat Sheet: What's the secret to success that the charlatans won't tell you? (5:37) Fear of failure (and not being willing to take risks) is almost always more dangerous than the actual consequences of failure. (6:45) Learn The Katelyn Rule and how it applies to thinking big and acting bigger. (12:09) Does your job meet your conditions of satisfaction? (17:25) Never lose sight of what's happening in your business -- clean your own bathroom! (22:52) And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeffrey-hayzlett-think-big-act-bigger-episode-442/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

You don't have to quit your day job in order to follow your entrepreneurial aspirations. "I live in a state of constant retirement." -Ben Kovacs The Cheat Sheet: What does the recreational fisherman know that the rich man does not? Working for "The Man" and pursuing entrepreneurial urgings don't have to be mutually exclusive concepts -- in fact, they can (and should) complement each other. You don't have to be rich or famous for people (from clients and investors to partners and workmates) to like you and want to hang out. You just have to be interesting and genuine. Being incredibly honest with yourself and others will force you to evaluate what you can do yourself and what requires help -- which allows you to get more done in a day than you once believed possible. Is what you're doing with your time helping you get more out of what you love from life, or taking it away? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ben-kovacs-everyone-is-an-entrepreneur-episode-441/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #26! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: What do you do when balding causes more than your hairline to recede? When is the most ideal time in your life to become an entrepreneur? Like practicing martial arts, picking up social dynamics skills won't turn you into a different person -- just a more confident one. Learning to English like Jordan may be hazardous to your job interview. (We recommend shadowing dialogue from Three's Company and Baywatch reruns.) Even if it gets you a dream job in the short term, telling a lie on your resume or unjustly badmouthing competition may haunt you for decades. What's the benefit of information binging -- like listening to an Art of Charm podcast marathon or reading 10 books on self-improvement over the weekend -- if you can't apply everything you learn? Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-26-receding-confidence-and-short-term-ethics/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

You don't have to be afraid of math (or anything) when you adapt techniques that make you excel at other things. "You can do way more than you think you can do." -Barbara Oakley The Cheat Sheet: Why is following your passion not always your best option? (10:35) Gaining smooth, practiced "chunks" of knowledge is invaluable in art, sports, math, language -- and even charm. (19:50) Is "mathphobia" a global phenomenon? (21:05) Why do we procrastinate, and what can we do to fend it off? (23:56) Learn how to get motivated instead of overwhelmed. (29:54) And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/barbara-oakley-learning-how-to-learn-episode-440/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Discover how lessons learned by a special forces veteran can be applied to the worlds of business, finance, strategy, and marketing. "It's not survival of the fittest; it's survival of the most adaptable." -Robert Patrick Lewis The Cheat Sheet: The worst time to plan for an emergency is after it's already happened. Understand the importance of teamwork, but be prepared to rely on your own strengths and adapt to a situation for those times when teamwork falls through. How much could you write if you never had writer's block? Why is there a disconnect between veterans and the HR departments of companies that want to hire them? How can military and combat experience be used in the business world? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/robert-patrick-lewis-green-beret-mba-episode-439/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

If you want to write a book that creates a movement, earns you a fortune, and changes the world, you need to think beyond the bestseller. "The best time to start was yesterday; the next-best time to start is today." -Hal Elrod The Cheat Sheet: What's the difference between a book that enjoys momentary success as a bestseller and one that endures to influence people for years to come? What's the number one nugget of advice that can make this difference for the aspiring author? How can you build a 'pay it forward' element into your content? What is the most convenient way to assemble your readership community? Do you know what authors are finding to be the number one way to market their books once they're launched? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/hal-elrod-beyond-the-bestseller-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #25! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: You can't hold a whole fraternity responsible for the behavior of a few sick, twisted individuals. Find out what happened when George followed our advice about lending money to an irresponsible sibling. You won't miss with the Swiss if you listen to this. Solid work experience now makes bad grades of the past matter less. How can you hang with the wolves and not the runts? Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-25-why-the-frat-hate-bro/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Think you have a lousy time remembering things? You're probably not giving your brain enough credit. According to this expert, it's never too late to expand your capacity for memory. "Definitely everyone can dramatically improve their memory from where it currently is with the right training and practice." -Chester Santos The Cheat Sheet: Even the worst memory can be improved dramatically -- at any age. Learn how you can (and why you should) give speeches and presentations without any notes. What forgotten (and practical) skill can help you spark the powers of recollection? Use all your senses to build a map for remembering. You'll be as surprised as we were at how one memory trick can make a seemingly impossible task ridiculously easy within minutes! And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chester-santos-international-man-of-memory-episode-438/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Self-doubt is normal, but it can be overwritten. Harness the innate ability of the confident brain to grow and learn over time to change your life for the better. "The brain is velcro for the bad and teflon for the good." -Rick Hanson The Cheat Sheet: What's the difference between a neuropsychologist and a run-of-the-mill psychologist? Did you know you have a lizard, a mouse, and a monkey inside of your skull? Evolutionary psychology tells us the brain is velcro for the bad and teflon for the good. How can we overcome this negativity bias? From state to trait: how to encode beneficial experiences to start rewiring the brain. Learn how to follow the HEAL steps to make sure your brain is Taking in the Good. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/rick-hanson-taking-in-the-good-episode-437/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #24! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Is hitting on women disrespectful? Listener JT has a funny (but possibly effective) solution to the "how do I disengage from the friends I've outgrown?" conundrum. Teaching kids value seems more important than the contrast between scarcity and abundance. (But we're not parents, so what do we know?) Is loaning money and a book about financial advice to an economically irresponsible sibling too heavy handed? What is the Jordan Harbinger rebuttal to the "oh, how nice for you" phenomenon? Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-24-an-unappealing-invitation/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Don't let "success" get in the way of living a life that maximizes your impact and happiness. "Do you really want to devote your life to the single-minded pursuit of a particular goal where you have a less than 50 percent chance of achieving it, and where you've left no room in your life for things that will actually make you happy?" -Chris Yeh The Cheat Sheet: How do you deal with the psychological challenges of entrepreneurship? Learn the importance of great relationships -- personal and professional -- to happiness and success (and how to build them). How do you find meaning in your work and life? Discover why self-awareness and self-improvement are the keys to living a fulfilled life. See what it's like recruiting, managing, and retaining great people during a fierce war for talent. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-yeh-entrepreneurial-alliance-episode-436/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Accomplish more of the things you want to do with the power of the hustle. "When I arrived here, I was so painfully clueless; I arrived at San Francisco International Airport asking someone how to get to Silicon Valley." -Steli Efti The Cheat Sheet: The formula of the hustle: show up, follow up, and follow through. Emotional alchemy: how to turn fear into courage. How do you make yourself do things when you don't feel like doing them? How can you get people committed to your mission? How becoming good at sales can help grow your bank account -- and your personality. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/steli-efti-the-art-of-hustle-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Think like a negotiator in all aspects of life and create win-win results by understanding the pitfalls to avoid. "That's all negotiation is -- basically a technical term for discussions and conversations to reach an agreement." -Eldonna Lewis Fernandez The Cheat Sheet: Silence is a powerful weapon in negotiation. A negotiation is an agreement. Are the principles of persuasion the same across geography and culture? Go to garage sales to practice negotiation with almost no risk. How can mock negotiations help you practice before the real deal? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/eldonna-lewis-fernandez-dont-negotiate-with-crazy-episode-435/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #23 In this episode: You can give her enough space to fly a rocketship, but she's already moved on. You should, too. Another listener chimes in with some positive thoughts about the 9-5 routine we talked about last week. Barfights only look like a lot of fun in Burt Reynolds '80s movies. At least one listener came away from our Chris Edwards interview with a better understanding of transgender issues. For someone considering attending our program in L.A., we clarify that The Art of Charm is about removing masks, not giving people new ones. A wellness entrepreneur learns some valuable lessons about better networking. Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-23-caveman-biology-lessons/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming!