The Confidence Podcast

You can learn to love your body, believe me, if I can, you can! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/149

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You can make change that lasts - get the full show notes on how at www.trishblackwell.com/147

Learning to trust yourself and your inner voice is a process, but one everyone can do. Learn how and get the show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/146

You matter more than you know > get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/145

It's okay for things to be hard - you don't have to pretend to have it all together all the time. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/144

NO MORE DUCK SYNDROME EPISODE #0013 THE CONFIDENT MOM PODCAST     What is duck syndrome – and how it has become a toxic part of your life Why fighting against it will increase your happiness. 5 specific ways to stop the syndrome         WHAT IS IT?   In 2003, Duke jolted academia with a report describing how its female students felt pressure to be “effortlessly perfect”: smart, accomplished, fit, beautiful and popular, all without visible effort. At Stanford, it’s called the Duck Syndrome. A duck appears to glide calmly across the water, while beneath the surface it frantically, relentlessly paddles.     The perception of a perfect life "believes social media is a huge contributor to the misperception among students that peers aren’t also struggling."  It's easy to see how this could contribute to a feeling of loneliness and helplessness.           WHY I’M THINKING ABOUT DUCKS:   Because Ellie is obsessed. Because I have suffered from both sides of effects of duck syndrome WHY TO FIGHT AGAINST IT:   Inauthentic Isolating Exhausting False and based on lies from our enemy Discourages us and discourages others – lifts no one up Self-glorifying – when we fall prey to duck syndrome we are focused on impressing others, not necessarily on making an impression in the world   HOW TO STOP THE SYNDROME:   Be honest with your struggle Let people see your mess Live to love and build up others – not yourself Acknowledge your hard work (and give yourself periods of rest to glide) Change your goals (go against perfectionistic thinking and other people’s opinions / strive to significance, not success)      

What one word will describe your year? Get the full show notes and learn how to pick your word at www.trishblackwell.com/143

Become a massive action taker - and here's how >>> get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/142

Get the full show notes and find freedom from judgement at www.trishblackwell.com/141

Taking one hour to answer these questions can change the trajectory of your entire year, get the full questions and the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/140

Goal setting starts with knowing your purpose in setting the goals. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/139

  HOW TO STOP OVERANALYZING YOUR PARENTING EPISODE #012   You know your life has changed when going to the grocery store by yourself is a vacation.         WHY DO WE OVERANALYZE?   We overanalyze because we self-doubt. We overanalyze because we fear that we aren’t enough. We overanalyze because we compare. We overanalyze because we lack trust and confidence in our capabilities.     HOW CAN WE STOP OVERANALYZING SO MUCH?     There are five simple framing shifts that we need to do mentally in order to stop the habit of overanalyzing. Summed up, these are confidence markers and the stronger our innate self-confidence and understanding of our self-worth is, the stronger we will be in holding to our ability to trust these truths.   Trust your gut. Trust your capabilities. Trust your love. Trust your falability – know that you aren’t perfect and won’t ever be, nor do you need to be. Trust God’s design – you are perfectly matched with your child for a reason. When you think back on your parents, whatever your relationship might be or have been with them, there was a reason they were your parents. God could have put your child in the lives of any number of people or families, but He chose you.     It’s important to know and remember that we will make mistakes, that we will fail our children and that we will have things we need to learn along the way – but the mark of truly successful parenting is not displayed through the accomplishments of your child, whether or not your family looks like it’s walked out of a J.Crew catalogue or whether you look like a good parent – the mark of great parenting are children who have hearts overflowing with love and kindness for others. I really believe that if we live with kindness as our compass, then our compassion and love for others will power us to follow our dreams and purposes and to be successful and contributing members to society at large…ultimately making the world a better place. And isn’t that what we desire as parents? For our children to live with happiness and to live in a world that is better than the world in which we abide? We can do and accomplish this by making our children’s character the most important focus of our parenting.         Write down your mission statement as a parent. Journal about your anxieties and then let them go and give them to God. Give yourself permission to relax Ask yourself when will enough ever be enough (the answer is that it won’t, so instead of stressing about every decision you make and everything your children do, just walk through life with confidence to know that as long as you are doing everything with love as your motivator, then you will be walking a walk of beauty and grace). Start a praise notebook at night – write down one thing you did well as a parent that day, one thing that you learned about or through parenting that day for which you are grateful, and one thing you absolutely love about the gift it is to be a parent.       EDUCATIONAL ANNOUNCEMENT:     Moms with daughters, this announcement is for you, and it’s something, since I’m the mother of a daughter, I am passionate about educating about.   I’m often asked how and why small doses of chemicals in our daily lives alter our health and one of the reasons is that some chemicals are actually even more potent in small doses. This is particularly true with hormones or endocri...

Know your worth with the wise words of Jessica Vaughn >>> get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/138

Taking the pressure of yourself can give you the ability to live with more joy. Here are 3 strategies you can implement into your life have more peace. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/137