Summary: NO MORE DUCK SYNDROME<br> EPISODE #0013<br> THE CONFIDENT MOM PODCAST<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> What is duck syndrome – and how it has become a toxic part of your life<br> Why fighting against it will increase your happiness.<br> 5 specific ways to stop the syndrome<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> WHAT IS IT?<br> <br> <br> In 2003, Duke jolted academia with a report describing how its female students felt pressure to be “effortlessly perfect”: smart, accomplished, fit, beautiful and popular, all without visible effort. At Stanford, it’s called the Duck Syndrome. A duck appears to glide calmly across the water, while beneath the surface it frantically, relentlessly paddles.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> The perception of a perfect life<br> <br> "believes social media is a huge contributor to the misperception among students that peers aren’t also struggling." It's easy to see how this could contribute to a feeling of loneliness and helplessness.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> WHY I’M THINKING ABOUT DUCKS:<br> <br> <br> Because Ellie is obsessed.<br> Because I have suffered from both sides of effects of duck syndrome<br> <br> <br> WHY TO FIGHT AGAINST IT:<br> <br> <br> Inauthentic<br> Isolating<br> Exhausting<br> False and based on lies from our enemy<br> Discourages us and discourages others – lifts no one up<br> Self-glorifying – when we fall prey to duck syndrome we are focused on impressing others, not necessarily on making an impression in the world<br> <br> <br> HOW TO STOP THE SYNDROME:<br> <br> <br> Be honest with your struggle<br> Let people see your mess<br> Live to love and build up others – not yourself<br> Acknowledge your hard work (and give yourself periods of rest to glide)<br> Change your goals (go against perfectionistic thinking and other people’s opinions / strive to significance, not success)<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br>
