Marriage Helper Live

How does sexually explicit material affect relationships? With your spouse or with your children? What can you do about it? In this podcast, we interview Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug, a global movement focused on spreading the word on how this type of media affects relationships.As Fight The New Drug puts it, "it kills love.In this podcast, we talk about how sexually explicit material affects marriages, what to do if you have a spouse who is addicted and how to respond.We also talk about how to parent children in today's society, how to bring up the issue of sexually explicit material, and how to continue those conversations.For more about Fight the New Drug, visit fightthenewdrug.org. 

Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...But when it happens, how do you put things back together?How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse.

No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us.The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them.In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...)This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you.If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you.If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you.If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.

No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us.The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them.In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...)This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you.If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you.If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you.If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.

When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it.It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive.If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions.Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always.In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence. 

When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it.It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive.If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions.Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always.In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence. 

Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble.Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help.If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together.Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time. According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf)Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.

Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble.Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help.If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together.Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time. According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf)Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.

We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?"In this program, you will find the answer.If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both.People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths. People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life.Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt.If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others.If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.

We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?"In this program, you will find the answer.If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both.People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths. People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life.Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt.If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others.If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.

Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month?Why?And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce?In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason. By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen.Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed.You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017. 

Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month?Why?And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce?In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason. By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen.Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed.You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017. 

Great marriages have great sex.Not just sex.Not just good sex.Great sex!As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship.In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you.Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424.The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.

Great marriages have great sex.Not just sex.Not just good sex.Great sex!As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship.In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you.Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424.The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.

As we end 2016 and move into 2017, it's time to look forward into what the future holds. Just because things have been a certain way in the past does not mean that they have to be that way in the future. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO of Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes will teach you how YOU can change your future, no matter what your past has been, and no matter what your situation is. Believe it or not, you have the power to change a lot of things by focusing solely on yourself. We will teach you how to create goals and 4 different areas of life to set goals in: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually. We will explain what each of those areas means and what kind of goals to set in each areas.Ultimately, this will help you become more attractive and create stronger, long-lasting relationships.