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Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen.It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid.From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God.Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God.No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of what is claimed about how God intervenes in the love and relationships of people leads only to false hope...and, eventually, disappointment.If you're curious, he's a believer. He prays. He believes God answers prayers...but not all prayers. Especially some that people pray about love and relationships.Is this a program to take away hope?No.It is a program about how to have hope that is real; that is possible. To live by genuine faith if you have faith. To face reality. To know what to do rather than expecting God to do it for you.It airs live August 30 beginning at 9 p.m. Central. You can call in your questions or comments during the live program at 646-378-0424. 

What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.)If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has.Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.

What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.)If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has.Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.

There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love." If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.  If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming.If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work."If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue.Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.

There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love." If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.  If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming.If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work."If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue.Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.

Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?If you feel this way, you are not alone. But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way. There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now. How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you? We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation. We care about you and your marriage. 

Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?If you feel this way, you are not alone. But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way. There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now. How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you? We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation. We care about you and your marriage. 

Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart. Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?Yes.In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements. You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.

Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart. Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?Yes.In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements. You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.

Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?Yes. It happens.No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth.If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.

Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?Yes. It happens.No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth.If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.

It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).When should a person feel guilty? What is the best way to deal with guilt?How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.How does gulit affect relationships?How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain?In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424  live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12. 

It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).When should a person feel guilty? What is the best way to deal with guilt?How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.How does gulit affect relationships?How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain?In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424  live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12. 

You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out.Do you tell? Do you keep it a secret?If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time?If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret?And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT?In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell.If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live.Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.

You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out.Do you tell? Do you keep it a secret?If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time?If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret?And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT?In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell.If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live.Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.