Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve, I'm a 38 year old lady. I am a successful lady with a number of degrees, own my own home and car. I guess none of that really matters when it comes to love. My problem is I know this guy who wants to get back with me. We were together a long time ago. We attend the same church and have the same friends. My friends keep telling me that I should give the brother a chance. Now Steve he doesn't have a car nor a place to call his own. He is 40 years old no steady job because of health problems health issues. He will work. I do love him but Steve I want someone who can bring something to the table. I know love is important but Steve a little security will help a little bit more. What do you think I need to do. Marriage is a serious step and I've got to be sure. Prayer is the only way I know. Just wanted to get a male point of view.

I am 25 years old and just graduated from college and just started my career in August with a great company. I've only been with a company for five months and just found out that I'm pregnant. My boyfriend of three years is currently living out of state but has just accepted a position with an equally great company near me. We have already been discussing him moving up here and us getting married in the future. But now that I'm pregnant we decided to move the wedding date up to next year. Now here's the issue. He wants me to move in with him since I'm pregnant. He is very adamant about having his family all under one roof. My family is telling me not to move in with him because we are not yet married. His family on the other hand is saying we should move in together because we're going to be a family now. I do not doubt for a minute that he is going to marry me. I have known him for four years now and I know him to be a man of his word. He said to me if I'm asking you to move in with me it's because I am ready to make that next step and I truly believe that he is. But we have still decided to wait until next year to make that next step. Some of my family said that we should go to the courthouse, but I feel like we will be doing that just so I can move in with him. And we already decided to wait until next year. We have a place set up and we have been looking at rings and discussing our budget for everything. Also I do not want to rush to do everything at once. He's starting a new job moving to a new area and we're having a baby. Been adding getting married and moving in together all at the same time. I know we already have three out of five going on but I am afraid of adding more stress because we really do not know what we're getting into. We're only 25 years old. I'm stuck at a crossroads because no matter what decision I make I will be disappointing someone. I know it's my life and I have to make my own decisions. But all my life I have been the good one. I've always done what I was told always strove to make everyone around me happy with my actions and decisions. I do not want to begin feeling like me getting pregnant is destroying everyone else's life. This is truly a blessing even though it was not done the traditional way. I know he still plans on marrying me either way but I will cause a lot of strain but it will cause a lot of strain in our relationship if I do not move in and thinking about our future. I do not want to cause any extra stress on a relationship. I think we have enough as it is right now with distance pregnancy marriage and soon a baby so my question is should I move in with him and upset my family or not move them with him and upset my soon to be family?

About two months ago my wife asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I told her my biggest fantasy was to have a threesome. It took some persuading and finally she gave in. Let's just say the best birthday present I have had in a long time until the lights came on. To my surprise lying next to my wife was her mother.

Hello. Morning Crew. So I've been in a relationship with my fiance for seven years now and I can't trust him. He's never done anything for me not to trust him. But looking at all the men in my family and knowing that they cheated I can't trust him because I feel there is no way he's faithful. I have the mindset that all men cheat.

Good morning Steve and Shirley. I have a 32 year old pastor with somewhat of an issue. My wife and I are happily married and we have the typical issues like the next couple. Here is the situation. There was one particular lady in my church who really freaks me out and rubs my wife the wrong way.

First, let me say that I love the advice that you and Steve give to those with dilemmas. I've tried to ask for advice from others. But those shy and backed away but I'm at the point where I need answers. I'm not sure where to begin. But here I go. I'm head over heels for this guy and has straight affection problems. He says that he loves me once in a while but it's like pulling teeth from his mouth.

Dear Steve and Shirley. I've been married for a year and I'm the breadwinner of my family. We have a great lifestyle because of my income. My husband works for a cable company and he gets paid 400 dollars a week and that just takes care of the car note. So let me tell you how I'm the breadwinner.

How Do I Get Out of This Mess That I Made

Hello Steve and Shirley. I'm a 43 year old female and I've always dated older men. Well about eight months ago I started dating a 36 year old man and after seven months of dating we decided to be intimate. Now here's the problem I guess since he's younger than me he wants to have sex or make love three to four times a night seven days a week.

Hello Steve and Shirley. I just found out that my husband has a two year old child with his ex-wife. When I confronted him about the child he told me it wasn't his child. It was a tube baby. He says she is a product of IVF and that he has documentation to prove it. When I ask him why with his ex wife he just said she asked him to donate his sperm and that she was his first wife and never been with no other man but him so he agreed.

I date both single men and married men. I find nothing wrong dating them. Most of them need love too. The man that’s married made the agreement with someone else not me.

Hello Steve Shirley Tommy and Carla. I'm a 30 year old woman who recently left my children's father. I left because it seems as though we don't want the same things in life. Let's start by saying in the beginning of the relationship things were great, as you know the beginning is always the best. He asked me to move in with him so that we can save money and get a house together. Mind you I was fine living alone with my 2 year old daughter at the time.

Steven Shirley I'm a divorced mother of twins that runs a successful business. Due to the fact that my company requires a lot of my time. I spend all of my free time with my twin boys both my sons participate in team sports and I am at all games and practices as well as very active in their school and educational process. This leaves no time for a real relationship right now.

Good morning Stephen Shirley. I am here in Vegas alone and there is something weighing on my heart. So I decided to write. I've been talking to a man for about a month. I really like this guy and we connected immediately. I am 53 and he is 47. Getting to know us face has turned up some issues but since they won't harm or hurt me I can compromise. The thing that brought us to a halt is his refusal to be tested for HIV. He says he never has and never will. How are some of us still stuck on stupid and afraid of being tested?

Dear Steve Shirley and Tommy. I'm a wife of 14 years I've been with my husband for 18 years. We were together as young teenagers. He doesn't know that I've been seeing someone else since before we got married. I love this other man simply for the man that he is. When we're together, his focus is 100 percent on me. He has limitless sex drive and pleases me every time. About a year ago I began a sexual relationship with another man who I care very much for.