Experiencing Motherhood: Single & Black

In this episode, we pick up where we left off from part I. We discuss: -qualities one should posses when looking to date people of higher stature such as doctors, CEOs, engineers, etc. -what influenced Dominique's decision to become a matchmaker, divorce mediator, and life/relationship coach -why waiting until your toddler goes to college to date is a bad idea -why you should forgive yourself for the bad relationship mistakes that you've made and vow not to make those mistakes again "Who you are today is not who you were before. You've evolved not only as an individual but as a parent." -Dominique De'Vazia If you don't have the time to search for someone, invest in a matchmaker or coach. Blog post mentioned: https://deviziaandco.wixsite.com/deviziaandcompany/single-post/2018/01/11/You-know-not-what-you-ask-for For more information on Dominique's services, visit https://deviziaandco.wixsite.com/deviziaandcompany/book-online To connect with De'Vizia on social media, search deviziaandcompany Connect with me on Instagram: instagram.com/singleblackmotherhood Visit the website at www.singleblackmotherhood.com Visit the shop for mom-inspired tees at: www.singleblackmotherhood.com/shop

In this episode, I get to sit down with Dominique, matchmaker, certified Divorce Mediator, and Life/Relationship Coach, to discuss dating for single parents. Dominique had her first child at 23 and was with her children's father for five to seven years. She was single for about two years and dating was not even a thought. She returned to church and ended up meeting her significant other there. We discuss: -Why people claim they are okay with being single -How you can prepare to date -When you should consider matchmaking -Why communication is important -Why it's important to figure out what you were responsible for in the last relationship and why you should "work on you" -Why you should follow up after a date A lot of people think they are okay with being single because of things in their past. You have to be honest with yourself. Do you want to date or not? "The relationships that you've been in have the tendency to condition you." -Dominique De'Vizia You accumulate knowledge, money, experiences, prestige, and power but who do you share it with?? Questions to ask yourself: -What kind of man are you looking for? -What does this man spend his leisure time? -What are you going to do to get his attention? -What are you going to do to set yourself apart from the competition? Dating is an art that should be mastered. If you need help, Dominique is available to assist via matchmaking or her Love Scout program. Connect with Dominique via Facebook https://www.facebook.com/deviziaandcompany Connect with me via Instagram https://www.instagram.com/singleblackmotherhood/ Visit the website https://www.singleblackmotherhood.com

In today’s episode, I sit down to chat with Makasa, a former engineer, who is now a work at home mom. Makasa found out she was pregnant one or two months after breaking up with her high school sweetheart and has been a single mom since pregnancy. Her child’s father was very involved for the first two to three years of her daughter’s life. Before her third birthday, Makasa found out he was married. She was working as a single mom as a manufacturer engineer 50-70 hrs a week, including weekends. She never had much time to spend with her daughter and felt like she was racing the clock. Now, she’s able to do things she normally wouldn’t have time to do, such as field trips and participating on the PTO board. She considers herself the “Rewired Mama” because she had to rewire her mindset. “In order to make a change, you have to change your mindset.” - Kim Makasa’s initial goal was to get an extra $500 to put towards student loans and savings. She exceeded that goal and was able to make $1000 tuition payments for her daughter’s daycare. Since then, Makasa has been able to replace her income and work towards funding her dreams. “Your work ethic writes your check in entrepreneurship.” - Makasa Connect with Makasa via Instagram @makasacovin Connect with me via Instagram @singleblackmotherhood Visit the website at singleblackmotherhood.com

In this episode, I talk about what it was like relocating without family nearby. If you are thinking about relocating alone with you and your child, I recommend: 1. Saving at least 3-6 months worth of expenses, if possible 2. Trying to get a job before moving (using someone's address in the area if possible) 3. Figuring out what area you want to live in and trying to visit 4. Researching the area and seeing what the cost of living is like 5. Connecting with some locals via social media, maybe even some mom groups Email me questions and/or feedback at singleblackmotherhood@gmail.com Connect with me via Instagram @singleblackmotherhood Visit the site at singleblackmotherhood.com

In this episode, I sit down to talk with my friend Ron about co-parenting. We discuss: -Types of co-parenting -Benefits of co-parenting -Working with the other parent -Ron putting himself on Child Support

In this episode, I share 10 keys to setting goals. 1. Change Your Mindset 2. Reflect on the Previous Year 3. Set Goal Categories 4. Set SMART goals SMART = Specific, Measure, Attainable, Relevant, Timely 5. Write your goals down. 6. Make actionable plans to reach those goals. 7. Prioritize. 8. Hold yourself accountable first. 9. Find an accountability partner, if needed. 10. Review your progress & celebrate. Visit the website at singleblackmotherhood.com

In this episode, I share a little bit of my story, why I decided to podcast, what the podcast is going to be about, and what you can expect. If you know anyone that is interested in sharing their story or if you have suggestions for future topics, email Kim at singleblackmotherhood@gmail.com Connect with Kim on Instagram @singleblackmotherhood