Having It ALL: Conversations about living an Abundant Loving Life

For today's episode I'm bringing you an interview that I did with Dr. Kyrin Dunston on her podcast "Her Brilliant Health Radio". I had a great time talking with Dr. Kyrin about nurturing relationships, achieving an abundant loving life, finding balance in life, discerning your own inner voice, and living life from a place of passion. Links: https://www.kyrindunstonmd.com/herbrillianthealthradio/hbhr013

Do you have the life you want today? Very few people can honestly say "yes" across the board. And that's totally cool. Many of us are on the journey to creating the experience we want in life. But there is a large group of people who reject the journey altogether, and are frustrated that they aren't getting the results they way. If that's you, then tune in because I'm about to give you a reality check.

Can you think of a time when you questioned the timing of something? Maybe you've taken a big step in your life recently, and you're judging the fact that it didn't happen earlier. Or you so desperately want something to happen TODAY, and you're frustrated because it doesn't seem to be anywhere in sight. In today's episode I'm sharing a perspective with you that will impact how you think about the timing of things in your life.

Why do some men seem like completely emotionless creatures? Why does it seem like men go out of their way to bury and hide their feelings? Why do men avoid vulnerability so vehemently? In today's episode I'm sharing the truth that all men have feelings and emotions, and I'm discussing why so many of us choose not to show them.

What is the cost of your pursuit of perfection? Today I'm bringing you a bonus episode (actually you'll get a few bonus episodes this week!). I'm talking about perfection and the belief that things need to be perfect in our lives before we take action.  Many times we seek perfection because we're scared of something, and by the end of today's episode my intention is that you have greater insight on this for yourself.

Do you feel you have work-life balance? If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective is one that I practice and preach, and it will change your life!

Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being mentally and emotionally. I've been practicing it for a bit now, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to align with the greatest version of yourself and live your best life. 

Be completely honest with yourself: are you currently taking on the responsibility for another person's emotions? If so, you want to listen to this episode several times. In today's episode I'm giving some raw and honest feedback directed at those of us who feel like our jobs are to make others happy. It's a dangerous game to play that almost always results in frustration, resentment, and the breakdown of relationships.

What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all.  Here is the original IG post from Lewis Howes: https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/

Did you know that letting go in life is a choice? Yes, it’s moment-to-moment choice where you decided whether you will release what you’ve been fixating on, or add to your fixation. Many of us can get down with the idea of “letting go”, but we fail to realize that it’s a constant choice that we must make again and again through our days, weeks, months, years. We falsely believe that we can “let go” once, and be healed forever.

Are you practicing sexual healing?   So many different things can come up when we think about sexual healing. From healing past traumas to healing physical conditions to Marvin Gaye (seriously, that was my entire context until a number of years ago) -- we each have our own relationship when it comes to healing things in a sexual context.   In today's episode I'm joined by my incredible wife, Sarah Bivens, and together we get raw and intimate on some current sexual healing that we're both doing.   

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence.  Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over.  The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast. 

What does being proactive mean to you? I would say "It means taking initiative". But I have learned that to Be Proactive means so much more. And understanding this meaning is imperative if you want to have it all and lead an abundant loving life. In today's episode I bring in one of my favorite books, Stephen Covey's 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Get ready to get your learnin on!

When do you apologize for something you've done? When is it appropriate to come clean in a situation, versus letting things go and moving on? In today's episode I'm replying to a listener message about knowing when to come clean, clear the air or let it go. This is such a common thing for all of us, and my intention is to give some perspective on fully owning your decisions.

If you were to take an audit of the environments you spend most of your time in, would you say that they uplift you, do nothing for you, or drag you down? In today's episode I explore environments and talk about why it's so important that we are picky with the people and places we surround ourselves with. I also give you a few action items for taking a hard look at your environments and making some powerful changes.