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Summary: Have you ever felt that you had more to offer the world than you were currently expressing and manifesting?
STAYING ALIVE: PART FIVE – LOVE. There are seven words for love in classical Greek. And there’s another kind of love for which there is no word. It is a state of being more than a feeling for someone or something. It is the Great Joy that comes from unconditional love. You live it, simply and effortlessly, when you are in full agreement with your own life. “the moon offers light without a hand the sun is proof of the sun, writing about love my pen splinters” Jalal ad Din Rumi NLP and Love As soon as our basic needs are satisfied, and once we are in alignment with ourselves, we come home to love. Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs includes the need for freedom of expression, creativity, and mental congruity. When those needs are satisfied, and when unconscious conflicts are resolved, you move into great joy and unconditional love. It’s that simple. Twenty years ago, when my Zen teacher was empowering several of us as teachers, I asked. “When do you know when someone is ready to be a teacher?” He replied, “When they’re happy.” The next question is: how do you become happy? The answer, like the question, can only be lived. But there are a few clues. Society is driven by the assumption that happiness comes from getting what you want. Commerce depends on it. It’s our collective fantasy. It doesn’t take much to realize that there’s no end to wanting. But that doesn’t mean that ‘wanting’ is the problem. The real problem lies in the illusion that when you get what you want you will be happy. There’s nothing wrong with wanting. Denying your desires in the name of ‘spiritual’ perfection is another version of wanting, a kind of spiritual materialism. Finding a belief system that lets you close down for fear of disappointment is capitulation, a kind of death, wanting to destroy your dreams and aspiration. There’s another way to happiness outside of wanting or not wanting. NLP provides a great road map. NLP is driven by the understanding that when you have internal conflicts you can’t be genuinely happy. There is something hidden inside you that remains unsatisfied. Part of you wants one thing, part of you wants another. There’s a lack of clarity that feeds uncertainty and fear. You probably have an unexamined belief or two about what you can or cannot want; or about what you should or should not have. You’d like to do good for the whole planet, but you are so conflicted it’s hard for you to do good even for yourself. NLP has a knack of pulling those limiting beliefs to the surface and changing it, After all, all beliefs are figments. We imagine that they are rooted in external events. But the beliefs we hold about ourselves are fictions that we have concocted. NLP recognizes that everything you experience in your life is informed by your emotional and mental state. Love is simply the highest and most beneficial emotional state. It’s a natural combination of joy, energy, mental clarity, creativity and whatever natural positive tendencies accompany your own personality once you have become free from emotional encumbrance. Four Parts to love Affection. Familiarity. Getting to know you. Feeling safe, known, seen, appreciated and owning those feeling as your own, as a natural way of being yourself. When we work with new clients we often begin by teaching them to like themselves. Perhaps it’s the single most powerful thing they can do. It is the beginning of love. Friendship. There’s a saying that money can buy anything except old friends. There’s consistency and faithfulness in friendship. There are common aims, common values, and trust. There is contact, accountability, transparency, and the challenge of growth. In the Greek conception of the world, Eros was the first element that took shape from primordial Chaos. We turned Eros into lust and pornography because we were ashamed of desire. Think of Eros instead as the embodiment of life, love revealed. It includes sexuality, because it includes everything we call life. Eros is[...]
NLP is the science of expressing what works best. It is individually tailored, and it recognizes what’s possible is limited only by the imagination. We wanted to write something about the neurology of love, given that it’s Valentine’s day, but a couple of people were asking us to define what is NLP. So we’ll start there .. NLP is short for Neurolinguistic Programing. Unfortunately that might still have you wondering! Five Changes sometimes defines NLP as Now Live on Purpose, which may explain a little more .. NLP is a system that was co-created in the early 1970’s. A linguist and a computer programmer put their heads together to learn how certain individuals, in the fields of psychotherapy, hypnosis and cybernetics, achieved the extraordinary results they were getting with their clients. The guiding question was whether those results could be replicated. NLP began as a science of modelling what worked best, and then applying or adapting it to different arenas. Is it possible to repurpose your best attitudes, performance, and skills from one area of your life, and use them to help you in other areas? Is it possible to take what really works well for one person and learn what it is they do so that you can learn the same skills yourself? The answer is yes. NLP is a science allows you to take something that works really well in one area of your life, and bring elements of it across to another area of your life. For example, the shy athlete can learn to bring the confidence she might feel on the playing field into the boardroom or onto the stage. You could take the wonder, curiosity, and excitement that you feel in your most inspired moments and bring it to an area of your life where you are challenged. Most importantly it teaches you to do so precisely and reliably and for the greatest positive long-term effect. In addition it reinforces the understanding implicit in this work that change really is possible, and that often means change that goes way beyond what was previously anticipated. We’re talking about the achievement of excellence in any area you like: professionally, personally, romantically, creatively. Human beings, that means you and me, have the capacity to lead extraordinary lives! For example, in the area of therapy, NLP can work to help someone overcome a phobia, by using some of the innate skills that already exist in their imagination. In the days of behavioral therapy it might take months to help someone overcome a phobia. With NLP it can be done in minutes. Many of the current revelations of neuroscience simply confirm observations and skills that have been used in NLP for decades. Many things that are theoretically possible are made effective because an attitude, unconditioned by fixed assumptions about what is or isn’t possible, or what is or isn’t wrong with a person, is implicit in the work of NLP. That attitude .. that change really is possible bears fruit through the skillful use of NLP, Since NLP is hypnosis’ Cousin. In addition, NLP lets you take the excellence embodied by others; the communication skills of Martin Luther King, the creative imagination of Stephen Hawking, or the creative daring of Lady Gaga, the determination and dedication of Mother Theresa, or the fearless curiosity of Emelia Earhart, and adapt them so that you can use elements of their brilliance yourself. NLP is based on a foundation which recognizes that each person is made up of a unique set of perceptions, strategies, attitudes, beliefs, assumptions, and behaviors .. as unique as your fingerprint .. and that much of it can be changed. It assumes that how we respond to the circumstances of our life, though based on what we learned in the past, is entirely up for change .. if we choose to see it that way, and it then goes on to provide the tools for us to embody that change. A definition that I like of NLP is “[an]attitude followed by a trail of techniques”. The attitude is one that is determined to live ‘at choice[...]
Neuro Linguistic Programming Training Techniques There are two kinds of Neuro Linguistic Programming Training. One that catalyzes authentic deep change, and one that is simply a collection of brilliant techniques. We often meet people who say, “Oh yes, I do NLP,” or “I’ve taken some NLP” or “I’m a certified NLP practitioner.” Those people may have trained with a reputable teacher. They may have lots of ‘techniques’ at their disposal. But what is often ignored or misunderstood is that NLP is more than a skill-set and the Neuro Linguistic Programming Training Techniques cannot be simply learned. It is a revolutionary approach to learning and change. Techniques and skills are important, but they’re useless without the inner shift that makes using them really effective. And that’s not something that’s usually taught. NLP skills are astoundingly impressive and effective. Naturally, they work exceptionally well in an environment where personal change is expected, like in a training. But what about when you have to face a difficult client who requires that you draw from your own creativity to create a new version those skills? What about instilling in yourself the mindset that allows you to approach any client free from expectations of what is possible for them, so that you no longer limit the situation by your own past experience? You might say that that are two kinds of NLP. It’s the same with any art. Neuro linguistic programming techniques and skills are essential. Whether you’re playing music, painting, practicing medicine or any healing art, flying planes, leading a team. The right kinds of skill are essential, but to really transform, or heal, or have a positive impact on the life of others, something else is required. 1. MEANING. Joseph Campbell once remarked that it’s not the meaning of life that people are seeking so much as it is the experience of being connected. Connected to what? To the inner feeling that lets you to know you are living in integrity with yourself, your values and ethics, your passions and desires? That you are connected to the world around you in a way that fits who you are, and who you are in process of becoming? That you feel safe, loved, creative, useful; that life is inherently pleasurable, joyful, ecstatic, and fun. 2. MINDSET. That you are not looking outside yourself for reasons why you’re having trouble with #1. That you trust your experience without resigning yourself to any idea that it might hold lasting reality. That you live ‘at choice’ with all that happens, and trust that everything, and every experience, could be a gift in the making. 3. PERSPECTIVE. Have you ever been in an argument? Have you ever watched other people in an argument and realized that everyone wanted the same thing in the long run but were caught up in details (.. and resentment, pride, belief systems etc.)? One of the keys of leadership, aka of being an effective human being, and of practicing NLP well, hinges on holding the big picture while remaining aware of the details. Some of us tend to be better at one than the other. Some of us are big picture oriented while others are detail oriented. The key is to be both, and to know when to focus on details and when to focus on the big picture. This is just as true for working with clients , NLP or otherwise, as it for running a business, or mediating a disagreement. It’s like having a zoom lens attached to your perception of everything. 4. PASSION. Knowing that everything is interconnected and that everything therefore matters means that you understand that you work impacts humanity and the world. Sometimes you might slip into resignation, feeling that problems you or your clients face are so enormous and say, “What’s the point?” Passion for what you do, and your passion to continue learning and challenging yourself, are contagious. You passion will have a positive impact on everything you do, on your family, friends, and colleagues, and most certainly on[...]
STAYING ALIVE: PART FOUR – BIG PICTURE THINKING. Most problems come from getting the wrong end of the stick .. or of getting hold of an altogether wrong stick! Having an appropriate perspective gives maximum flexibility in any situation. Seeing the big picture is the hallmark of leadership. It is also one of the central elements that makes possible the extraordinary transformation that NLP is known for. http://fivechanges.com/audio/big-picture-thinking.mp3 For details on special rates for the next NLP certification training follow this link Here are a few stories about the practicality of Big Picture thinking The King framed in a salvaged toilet seat. Tonga in the nineteen h. Many years ago, a cargo ship with a consignment of toilet seats was washed ashore on the Pacific nation of Tonga. Western toilets were unknown on the island at that time. But these were put to good use. For many years, through the eighteen hundreds and into the early part of the twentieth century, photographs of the Tongan king could be found in houses across the islands, neatly mounted in an oval wooden frames. If you’re resourceful enough you can make good use for just about anything. The Japanese poet Nanao Sakaki came to stay with friends in California. While Nanao was sitting in a corner of the room translating his poems into English his friends were busy planning a local action to protest the proliferation of nuclear arms. Nanao looked up and said, “Hey guys, you know we don’t have to survive!” He wasn’t questioning the value of what they were doing. He was suggesting that big picture thinking could empower any plan, and usually allows for more choices and more options. Once at a retreat at Manzanita Village, someone working in the kitchen threw out a bag of avocados. She explained by saying that there were no lemons for her to make guacamole. It was a breathtakingly clear example of how easy it is get stuck in self-imposed limitations. How many ways can you use avocados? She was so focused on guacamole that she forgot to ask? A traveler walking through the Amazon forest realized that he was being stalked by a large panther. The huge cat was about to leap. The traveler began meowing like a kitten. The panther turned and darted back into the forest, as though chased by an invisible force. Was it the surprise of hearing a meowing primate? Was it the absence of fear in the eyes of its intended prey? Was the panther wondering how enormous the mother cat must be if the kitten was six feet tall? If we get into trouble in life it’s often because we lose perspective. We can often get out of trouble best by changing how we think, changing what we think we know. Asking “Why?” and “How?” finding new answers, and removing some of the imagined limitations and beliefs that had been holding us back. Just look at any political discussion on Sunday television in the U.S. and it soon becomes clear that most of the arguments are based on unexamined assumptions. It’s like three people arguing about the shape of an elephant, one looking at it head-on, one from the side, and one from the rear. They are all looking at the same animal, but they assume that theirs is the only possible position on which to stand. I was speaking to someone today about Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), and saying how people get confused by the many brilliant techniques it is known for, and think that’s what NLP is. All those amazing techniques are simply the products of NLP. They come out of NLP. The essence of NLP is much simpler. Part of it has to do with looking for the big picture, looking at what works, how it works, and then finding ways to change your own actions based on that, in order to get more effective results for yourself. For example, a person standing in front of a charging elephant needs to know how to get out of the way. NLP is concerned first with how to move from A to B, how to get out of the way of that charging elephant, and how to stay out of the way. Knowing why[...]
STAYING ALIVE: PART THREE – RE-DEFINE CREATIVITY. We have to be honest, we’re biased in favor of people with a creative sensibility, whether they’re artists, designers, photographers, musicians, writers, performers, or simply people who bring the spirit of creativity and spontaneity into their lives. Here’s five reasons why. http://fivechanges.com/audio/creativity-michele-benzamin-miki.mp3 Life coaching tools and resources from Five Changes 1. To be human is to be creative. Creativity is the essence of human experience. It is change and innovation, experimentation, wonder, curiosity, or the simple desire to do something new. We express it as play, travel, conversation, work, day-dreaming, and lovemaking. Everything is enhanced by the quality of creativity we bring to our life. Repetitive tasks can be transformed by changing your thought or intention behind that task, or by simply changing how you do it. Creativity is what gives you choice; to stretch, to challenge yourself, to play, and to grow. Creativity is not just for children and artists, it’s our life-blood. It’s how we stay alive. 2. Play. Let’s play! Creativity is as simple as a child’s laughter, spontaneous and free. How much can you let yourself feel? What is more important than your ability to wonder and respond, or to see with new eyes, hear with new ears .. another’s face, another’s words, sunset or sunrise, what was called in classical Chinese, “the ten-thousand things” – the whole wide world. Creativity is the pleasure of being present to the world. Why not ask yourself when you wake up in the morning, “How much pleasure can I let myself feel today?” 3. Communication. Creativity is communication. Wherever we happen to live, our language is the roof and walls, the windows and doors of our experience. Even in silence, how we speak to ourselves will define how we experience the world. Our words are constantly changing. No two sentences are alike. How we speak is how we make friends and allies, or how we make enemies. It’s how we tell the world who we are. If actions speak louder than words, then actions are the verification of the internal conversation we have with ourselves. 4. Self-care. Creativity is how we care for ourselves. The impulse for innovation and change, the instinct to adapt, or to celebrate, to pause or to move forward. Whether through unrestrained improvisation or a ritual act, through an artist spending a lifetime on a body of work or a spontaneous instant, the confluence of elements that make for a perfect moment. There’s something about living at the edge of your comfort zone, and dancing with the unpredictable and spontaneous creative. True self-care is also cultivating your limitless imagination. 5. Problem Solving. Everyone has challenges, everyone is faced with change. Creativity is an essential element for problem-solving and fluid adaptation. Sometimes just doing what you have never done before to address an old familiar problem is all you need to do to change everything, including your sense of whatever it is being the problem you thought it was. Exercise, Re- Define Creativity for your self: Here’s a simple strategy you can use – to start a new project, or inspire you when you’re stuck. Take a book, a large book is always best, and open it at random. Point to a word on the page without looking. Then write the word down. Repeat this two more times. Now you have three words selected at random. Use those words, whatever they may mean or signify to you, to come up with a new approach to your problem or project. For more on mentoring, training and coaching follow this link. Creativity. Life Coaching Tools – Blog and Podcast, Life coaching tools and resources Eating Meditation, Define Creativity, Developing your instinct , Deizing the moment, Walking Meditation, How to fix procrastination, Cultivating Perfect Timing, dreativity, play, communication, self-care, problem solving, creativity definition, Re-Define Creativity, mediatio[...]
STAYING ALIVE: PART TWO – GOOD TIMING. There are two aspects to good timing. There’s slowing down, and there’s developing your instinct for seizing the moment, appropriately, decisively and fast. Each aspect reinforces and supports the other. Life coaching tools and resources from Five Changes http://www.fivechanges.com/audio/good-timing-two-podcast.mp3 For many years we taught traditional silent meditation retreats in addition to our work with NLP and hypnosis. Although we shifted our main focus, I still find myself teaching meditation to clients – both traditional sitting meditations, as well as other, less-familiar forms. The other day I taught a client about eating meditation. When people learn eating meditation for the first time, they often say things like: “I have been in Overeaters Anonymous for years, and I’ve done countless diets and programs. Eating meditation has finally allowed me to have a relationship with food that’s not dysfunctional. I’ve stopped using food like a drug.” .. or, “I knew the kind of foods I should be eating, and I wanted to eat them, but somehow it was hard to change my old habits .. until now!” I remember someone saying, “I never knew how awful fast-food tasted until I slowed down enough to really taste it.” How to do Eating Meditation If you have never done eating meditation before, simply slow down, focus on your food, taste it, take your time. Get rid of distractions like reading, watching TV, or talking, and spend the meal in silence. Eat one meal a day as a meditation for a couple of weeks. You’ll probably change some of the food you eat; and you’ll also tune in to what your body needs – for most of us that means eating less. If this works for you, continue with eating meditation for one meal every day until it becomes a habit. Walking Meditation as a Practice and a Metaphor We also teach our clients to do walking meditation. When you first learned to walk you had to learn about good timing. Otherwise you could never have learned to balance on one foot while moving the other one forward. You would have kept on falling down just like you did in the beginning. When you learn slow walking meditation for the first time, it may feel like learning to walk all over again. You may be a little wobbly. You have to find your balance again. You’ve learned to relying on speed to keep your equilibrium. Something powerful happens when you learn how to maintain your balance and equilibrium at any speed. There’s something else that walking meditation teaches you. No matter how fast or slow you go, you’re always right here, wherever that may be. That may sound obvious; but how much time do we spend not accepting where we are, denying it, defying it, and trying to be somewhere else? Learning to be right here and now has enormous benefit – for healing, changing, learning, being receptive, and being fully alive! Good Timing Good timing is not just about learning to balance and slow down. It also teaches you that you will get there (at your destination) when you get there. But this doesn’t meant we’re suggesting you remain stuck in an eternal here and now. Good timing is also about your intuitive ability to know when you should seize the moment and move, appropriately, decisively, and fast. This is connected to the first of the Five Qualities that bring out and nourish the spirit of being fully, absolutely and unashamedly alive – Congruity. When you’re in essential agreement with yourself; when the inner and the outer, your conscious and you unconscious mind, are working together, you have natural good-timing. Procrastination Lots of people have a problem with procrastination? There are many possible reasons for it .. fear of failure, fear of success, resignation to your limiting beliefs, unresolved anger, or grief .. the list goes on. One of the big problems with procrastination, aside fro[...]
STAYING ALIVE – ONE. By staying alive we are talking about living at you peak emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically. There is no belief associated with this, other than the assumption that it is better to be more alive rather than less .. and that many systems actually encourage resignation and distancing from experiencing life, fully and simply .. as it is. Life coaching tools and resources from Five Changes http://www.fivechanges.com/audio/staying-alive-one-podcast.mp3 Did you ever learn something that immediately became so obvious that you couldn’t imagine there was ever a time when you had not known it? Like learning a shortcut that made a task quicker and easier than you’d even dreamed possible, or learning new skills you never thought you would, or realizing possibilities that were once completely out of reach. Afterwards you may still pinch yourself occasionally to make sure it’s real, but you would never think of going back to the old way. It happens a lot when we’re growing up – learning to walk, or learning to read; learning to ride a bicycle, or to drive a car; or leaving home to go on your first big trip; or falling in love for the first time, or having your first ‘committed’ relationship. There’s a first time for everything, and it’s good to keep going too, with new experiences, new challenges, new accomplishments. It’s either that or resign to the fact that life, and learning, and creativity, is over. There are other sorts of firsts, less visible breakthroughs, like learning you can be free from an addiction, or healing from a supposedly ‘incurable’ disease, or ending a destructive relationship for which there seemed to be no way out; or breaking a bad habit that had dogged you all your life. For me it was a huge moment when I realized that I could change my designated gender, and that I could show up in the world representing who I was on the inside. That may sound like a big deal, being transgendered, and it may lie outside the experience of most people. But actually it’s not such a big deal, because most of us have questioned how we want to represent ourselves in the world, so that who you are matches how you live. Some people end up hiding. But it’s never too late to come out as who you truly are .. who you truly can be. Living a conscious life usually means just that .. making conscious and sometimes difficult choices and changes .. not constantly, but certainly more than once in your life. That’s how you stay alive, because for our life to be alive it has to be a work in progress. No amount of strategy or expertise will help if you’re still putting roadblocks in your own way. No amount of hedging and dodging will make up for seizing the opportunity to live (in the words of Mary Oliver) “ .. your one precious, wild life?” CONGRUITY Here’s the first of five qualities that’s essential for bringing out and nourishing this spirit of living. Because the question is always – How is it possible to embody your truth when life tests you, pushes you to forgetfulness and compromise? So ingredient number one is congruity. Congruity means that two things reflect each other—the inside and the outside, who you are and how you show up, your walk and your talk. If those things don’t match it will wear away at you, costing you time, energy, pain and frustration. Being congruent is an action, an activity, checking in with yourself, so that you remain true to who you are. Congruity is also feeling and knowing that you’re on track. It’s like being in rapport with yourself. Not creating roadblocks, living the life of your own choosing, and loving it You recognize it when you see it in others, and you recognize some other qualities that usually come with it .. focus, curiosity, adaptability, a willingness to help others .. the ability to see how best to do that.. in ways that are appropriate. So it also entails having healt[...]
Podcast: Five Principles of Change Why wake up in the morning saying “Oh no!” when you could ask yourself instead, “How much pleasure can I allow myself to feel today?” Are you curious about how we can know so much about what blocks us, and why we are blocked, and even have a good idea of what we’d rather being doing with our lives, and still never do it. Curiosity is a great place to start. It’s certainly a lot more effective than resignation! Podcast: Excerpts from a recent talk on the Five Principles of Change given in Los Angeles at GHC. FiveChanges.com Five Principles of Change, Podcast, five changes, Mediation, NLP, spiritual practice, Neuro linguistic programming, Hypnosis, personal development, unconscious mind. The post Podcast: Five Principles of Change appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed. The post Podcast: Five Principles of Change appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
Michele Benzamin-Miki ‘I have a dream that my four little children will one day live where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.’ MLK .. Growing up as a mixed race person, those early years of my life were marked with my own personal civil rights movement, in which all the races divided inside me, wanted to be unified and at peace, after all I am Japanese and American, and born out of my parents crossing a racial line that was taboo at that time! The post Dreams Can Come True appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed. The post Dreams Can Come True appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
Wake Up to Your Dreams And Aspirations Your Dreams And Aspirations… I spent an afternoon at the racetrack with a friend. We each bet on all six races. Each time she bet she picked the winner. Then she put her winnings on the next race. She told me that the same thing happened every time she came to the track. She couldn’t bet without winning. So she seldom did. It scared her too much. She was afraid something terrible would happen. She was afraid of what it might mean. Perhaps it’s a similar fear that prevents us from acknowledging our dreams and aspirations. I’m using the word dream with a different meaning now; but it’s a meaning familiar to us all. It points to the world where our desires are fulfilled, and our hopes are made real. Perhaps we are afraid we will be disappointed. Or perhaps we are afraid that we won’t, that our dreams and aspirations will come true, and that all rules we thought we knew about our life would change forever, and we won’t even recognize ourselves anymore. Read More The post Wake Up to Your Dreams And Aspirations appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed. The post Wake Up to Your Dreams And Aspirations appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
Dreams show the inner truth and reality as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as my client would like it to be, but as it is. – Carl Jung Every day we challenge the rational mind with our dreams. Every night we turn reason, time, and conventional meaning upside down. But dreams are more than the places we visit when we are asleep. When we speak of our dreams we speak of something more than the unconscious images and impulses that surface when we are sleeping; we also affirm the vast spaces of our hopes and aspirations. When we hear Dr. Martin Luther King say, “I have a dream,” we respond to his words because we recognize that his inner world, and the outer world of his experience, are in complete agreement. He trusted his dream, and he made it real! So the question arises, how can we learn when to trust our dreams? How do we know when to make them come alive, and what we should do to make them real? [Read More] Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. — Harriet Tubman! The post Power of Dream appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.The post Power of Dream appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
The great thing about negative self-talk is that when you really pay attention it can teach you a lot about yourself. Unfortunately, if you’re swamped by negative emotions or if you’re feeling overwhelmed, you may not have the perspective necessary to learn everything you might. But if you can get some distance, your inner dialog can be a gold-mine of information. After all, your self-talk is not really ‘you’, it’s like a radio station you happen to be tuned into. The secret is to find a better station to listen to. Before you change stations however, listen well. Somet imes it may be like listening to a one-sided news broadcast. Even though you know it’s propaganda, you can still hear a lot between the lines. It’s the same with your own negative self-talk. You can find out a lot about yourself behind the drone of self-doubt, or the propagandistic stories you’ve been telling yourself. You’ll always find alternative messages when you listen well. Read More The post gotta gotta gotta learn to love yourself or how do you expect anyone else to? appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.The post gotta gotta gotta learn to love yourself or how do you expect anyone else to? appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
Communication is more than just words. It is how we walk in the world, what we do, and how we do it. It’s our body-language, our posture, the different ways we move, how we stand – metaphorically and literally. Even our smallest actions will determine the effect we have on others. We communicate what we imagine our lives to be, and our beliefs about who we are. We communicate the entire sum of our whole life. At any given time we embody everything that is true for us, our values and beliefs, as they are in that moment. Read more The post Self-Talk is more than words appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.The post Self-Talk is more than words appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.
To Read Full Text: Click Here Many of us have been trained, not into silencing the voices inside our heads, but into becoming so used to the negative background buzz that we no longer consciously hear it. It’s part of the dynamic; not questioning, not challenging, deaf obedience. Not listening to the voice sublimates it into a continual negative feeling. You end up get used to feeling bad about yourself most of the time. Here’s one way to deal with this negative inner terrorist. The post Negative Self-Talk appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.The post Negative Self-Talk appeared first on Five Changes » Podcast Feed.