EP 37 What in the World Did I Do to Deserve That Feedback? Using Coaching Feedback to Build Stronger Relationship Foundations

Summary: EP 37 What in the World Did I Do to Deserve That Feedback? Using Coaching Feedback to Build Stronger Relationship Foundations Hey guys, welcome back. And today on this episode, I have a question for you. I would like you to think about a time that you received some feedback that was really hard to hear, but it was something that you were able to use to make some changes, to start, to get better results in your relationship, on your job as a parent, et cetera. What's some hard feedback that you have gotten in your life who gave it to you. What was your relationship with them? And how did you use that feedback? That's what we're going to talk today about in this episode. Wholly Made Life Big IIDEAA framework: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAJournal Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie’s Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Ladies. Welcome back. And today we're going to talk about coaching and feedback. And this is something that obviously I do right now. You are welcome to grab a session with me. It's a power 30 minute session or a deep dive. One hour session, email me at Andreessen, minnieRogers@gmail.com. But coaching and feedback is something that you do every single day of your life. And you don't, or might not even realize that you're doing this with people in your family, people on your job, you're receiving and giving feedback throughout your day. And I just want to call your attention to it. Okay? So in when you are receiving and giving feedback, the number one and most important thing in coaching someone else or giving feedback and receiving feedback is your relationship. It is the type of relationship that you have with someone. And it is the level of trust that you have with that person. It is who that person is and how you view that relationship and that person in your life. And so that is number one most important. So when you are giving and receiving feedback from someone, just understand that your relationship maturity, your level of trust you have with that person, has everything to do with how that feedback is going to be received or given how it's received by you, from what someone else tells you and how others are receiving the feedback that you are giving them. Okay. So when you have a trusted relationship with someone, you tend to give more permission to that person to give you harder feedback. It's someone that you care about it, someone that, you know, it's someone that you trust. It's someone that you regard higher than maybe someone else that you don't have much of a relationship with. It's someone that maybe you look up to, or that leads a life of an example, that when they give you feedback, you want to listen to it and you want to take it into account. Okay? This is easier received by someone that you know, and trust versus someone that you don't know very well. Someone that really doesn't know all of your situation. Now, having said that there could be a lot more emotion attached to the feedback you get. I'll give you a great example. When I am giving or receiving feedback from my husband, he knows me better than anybody else, but his feedback sometimes is much harder to receive than it is. From someone that, you know, might be just a good friend of mine that doesn't know all of my ins and outs. Okay. And so that's important to understand that the feedback that we get from our closest people are, is feedback. That we need to be very mindful of how we give that message and then how we interpret the messages that we're giving. So then there's another category of people. Maybe they're just your close friends or a group of people that, you know, and trust such as maybe it's somebody in your church that you regard you have high regards for, or maybe it's your pastor or something like that. Maybe it's your group of girlfriends that kind of h