The Married Life

Are you and your spouse friends? Best Friends? Acquaintances? Strangers? How do you become friends and remain friends? Today we give you some simple tips to become better friend with your spouse. Welcome to The Married Life. Don't forget the early bird special for The Married Life Conference ends soon. Get your tickets today! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-married-life-conference-tickets-50918613945

In honor of the new movie, Creed 2, we decided to pull all punches and let everyone know some of the things we fight about and how we get through these fights. Ever marriage has fights, it's inevitable, but do you fight to win, or fight to win for the marriage. Take a listen as we discuss how to have successful fights and get though those fights. Welcome to The Married Life.

"Go, Joe, Go!" Sounds way better than "No, Joe, no!" Why? Because were called to be our spouses #1 Cheerleader, not the #1 critic. In todays episode we break down what that looks like and how we can cheer them on an build them up. Welcome to The Married Life

Last weeks podcast was for the guys, this week is for ladies. Have you ever struggled or maybe not understand why in Ephesians 5, Paul calls for wives to submit to their husbands? Or in Genesis when God calls the wife to be the helper to the husband? Well that second one is kind of obvious isn't it? Just leave your husband alone with the kids or dog or house for a week...they need some help lol. Today I'm going to breakdown what those things really mean. Welcome to The Married Life

On this episode, I (Joe) talk about how we win at marriage. Because how do we win at a game that doesn't have a scoreboard, time frame, clear rules? Lets talk about it today and learn how we can win for the marriage. Resources Books Fight A mind set free 10 steps towards Christ When life hurts Every mans battle Sermons Act Like Men http://www.coe22.com/sermons/act-like-men-week-1-where-have-all-the-good-men-gone/ Fight https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFBDaO3rcoc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQd31QW9xKA The Problem with Porn http://subspla.sh/pqf6u9g Breaking Free From Porn http://subspla.sh/84beuya Online Articles Porn Again Christian http://campusministryunited.com/Documents/Porn_Again_Christian.pdf

Last week we discussed a blog called "25 Lessons from 25 years of marriage" and broke down half of those lessons and what they mean to us. Today we break down the remaining lessons that impacted our lives. We don't hit on all the lessons so we suggest reading the blog with your spouse and see what clicks with you. Welcome to The Married Life Blog: https://www.couragetolead.com/courage-to-lead-blog/25-lessons-from-twenty-five-years-of-marriage 25 Lessons: 1. Don’t try to change my spouse. It doesn’t work and it will not go well for me while I am trying. 2. “I’m sorry,” and “I forgive you,” make “I love you” more powerful. 3. Marriage is a covenant. Covenants are not intended to be broken. Two committed parties are required to keep a covenant in tact. 4. God speaks loudly through my spouse. If I am defensive with my spouse, you have shut down my best opportunity for growth. 5. Intimacy is a fight worth fighting for. I will fight for it every day and every week! 6. Never speak negatively of my spouse, especially in front of my kids. 7. I must carefully but diligently remind my children that our marriage comes before them. 8. My kids need to see me show affection to my wife in word and deed. 9. Embrace each season of life. Don’t wish life away! 10. I need to be where my feet are. When I am at work, I need to be working. When I am at home, I need to be home. 11. I need a daily finish line and a weekly finish line. I need to work hard, but then play hard! 12. Experiences are more valuable than diamonds, silver, or gold. 13. Success is being loved and respected by those closest to you. 14. I am a big fan of Licensed, Professional, Christian Counseling. 15. Never surprise my spouse. Fight to communicate well with her! 16. Make eye contact. It communicates value. 17. Don’t argue my intent. What matters is what was received. 18. If I partner with my spouse, they will be inclined to partner with me. 19. Compliment my spouse every day. 20. Living on a budget removes 90% of the financial tension that most marriages experience. 21. I must maintain a close relationship with my spouse while the kids are home so that when they are gone, we still know each other. 22. We can crush with our tone, as well as our words, and the damage lingers for a very long time. 23. If I finish the race with a team, it will be my family. 24. God gave me my spouse to make my holy, then happy (in that order). 25. God is so good.

This week we read a blog from a leadership couple that have been married for 25 years now. We took there 25 lessons from 25 years in marriage and broke them down to how they impact our lives and can have an impact on yours as well. Welcome to The Married Life. Blog https://www.couragetolead.com/courage-to-lead-blog/25-lessons-from-twenty-five-years-of-marriage 25 Lessons Don’t try to change my spouse. It doesn’t work and it will not go well for me while I am trying. “I’m sorry,” and “I forgive you,” make “I love you” more powerful. Marriage is a covenant. Covenants are not intended to be broken. Two committed parties are required to keep a covenant in tact. God speaks loudly through my spouse. If I am defensive with my spouse, you have shut down my best opportunity for growth. Intimacy is a fight worth fighting for. I will fight for it every day and every week! Never speak negatively of my spouse, especially in front of my kids. I must carefully but diligently remind my children that our marriage comes before them. My kids need to see me show affection to my wife in word and deed. Embrace each season of life. Don’t wish life away! I need to be where my feet are. When I am at work, I need to be working. When I am at home, I need to be home. I need a daily finish line and a weekly finish line. I need to work hard, but then play hard! Experiences are more valuable than diamonds, silver, or gold. Success is being loved and respected by those closest to you. I am a big fan of Licensed, Professional, Christian Counseling. Never surprise my spouse. Fight to communicate well with her! Make eye contact. It communicates value. Don’t argue my intent. What matters is what was received. If I partner with my spouse, they will be inclined to partner with me. Compliment my spouse every day. Living on a budget removes 90% of the financial tension that most marriages experience. I must maintain a close relationship with my spouse while the kids are home so that when they are gone, we still know each other. We can crush with our tone, as well as our words, and the damage lingers for a very long time. If I finish the race with a team, it will be my family. God gave me my spouse to make my holy, then happy (in that order). God is so good.

We recently got a comment from Make A Date Of It on our Instagram account (themarriedlife.us) asking "How do you make yourself irreplaceable?”. What a good question, because we are sure no one wants to replaced in marriage. We want this relationship succeed and flourish. But how do we do that? In this episode Krissy and I (Joe), go into specific details how we try to make ourselves irreplaceable but at the same time share every spouse has different values. So even though we might share some insight, it's not a cookie cutter formula that you can just repeat and get the same results. We do however give you a practical template for becoming irreplaceable. Remember the food pyramid in school? We'll we take out the food and insert what a successful relationship pyramid should look like, the base, the center and the top. Welcome to The Married Life.

Every feel you don't get your wife? Or maybe your husband just doesn't understand you and is trying to get you to be someone your not? The reason could do with your personality. In this episode of the Married Life we discuss how we need to find that rhythm for our personalities to mesh. An easy way to understand yourself more and your spouse more is by taking a personality test. It's a great date night idea and will have you guys engaging in fun conversation and getting to know each other better. Go to: https://www.16personalities.com/ Welcome to The Married Life.

On todays Podcast I (Krissy) had the opportunity to interview Mike and Julie Signorelli of New York City. This couple has been married for 12, maybe 13 years, (they are tying to remember that one lol) and share today how to find rhythm in marriage. This is an extended podcast that you want to listen through the end because they throw out so many nuggets of wisdom! Welcome to The Married Life!

I (Joe) remember growing up and seeing the thing that always had my dads attention was the tv. Sports, news, sitcoms etc, captivated him, as he paid less attention to has wife and family. Now we walk around with at tv in our pocket always vying for all of our time. Ever wonder how social media is impacting your family? Your social life? Your marriage? In todays episode we dive deeper into how Social Media can have a negative impact on our relationships if were not careful. Welcome to The Married Life!

Did you know that a prominent News Network did a survey to find out where most affairs in marriage happen? Coming in at #3 was....Social Media. Thats right, one of the things that consumes our lives the most these days is the #3 way that affairs happen. In this two part episode we are hitting on what social media looks like in you and your spouses life and ways to make sure you don't become another statistic. Welcome to The Married Life!

In one of my favorite episodes, we talk about the stupid things that make us laugh. Lets be honest, we live in a world that is full of people being way too serious. When your'e always serious its hard to have fun in marriage. So today we lighten the mood and discuss the things that make us laugh and that can lighten the mood of your marriage too. We hope this episode brings some joy, some laughter and some fun into your marriage.

On last weeks podcast we talked about the 3 things that got us to the 9 year mark in our marriage. Now we discuss what we expect it's going to take to get to the next 9 year mark. If your not looking ahead and anticipating what it takes for success you could find yourself staying the same. There is more for your marriage! It might be some of the things that we share today, it might be you sitting down and taking time to find out what your specific things are to get to that next level over those next few years! Welcome to The Married Life!

We just celebrated our 9 year anniversary! So in our latest podcast we give some insight to what each of us did to get us there. Plus in next weeks podcast we talk about what we believe to continue to have a marriage that is constantly being built up.