Summary: “The mechanism that drives you to conceal your darkness is the same mechanism that has you hide your light. What you’ve been hiding from can actually give you what you’ve been trying hard to achieve.” The Shadow Effect, page 92 In The Shadow Effect: Illuminating the Hidden Power of Your True Self, three perennial spiritual favorites pool their massive talents to help us transcend a crucial obstacle to happiness. Such is the nature of “the shadow”, when we deny parts of ourselves. Improperly understood or harnessed, it directs our lives in destructive ways. At first blush, this book seems a classic battle between inner good and bad as Debbie Ford, “Champion of the Darkness” contrasts “First Lady of the Light”, Marianne Williamson. Actually, this wise book delivers so much more. Add to the mix ever-original introspection offered by preeminent Eastern philosophy teacher, Deepak Chopra, and you get a full-spectrum map of how to reconnect with your real self. Each bestselling author offers their unique perspective as we learn to make peace with ourselves and undertake the transformative journey to let go of what holds us back. The end result is to gain the life we were meant to bask in. Golden Egg Embrace – Don't Deny – Your Shadow “To have a shadow is not to be flawed, but to be complete…You have only one self. It is the real you. It is beyond good and evil.” The Shadow Effect, pages 10 and 17 So, what is the shadow anyway? Swiss psychologist C. G. Jung defines it as the person we’d rather not be. Robert Bly likens it to an invisible bag containing internal thoughts, emotions and impulses we find too shameful or distasteful to accept – a burdensome weight that eventually drags us into the dumps across decades. Shadow is our wounded interior. For many, it’s too painful to confront. Instead, we project our disowned attributes upon others. We blame - make people wrong and label them as such. As Debbie Ford succinctly points out, “You spot it, you got it.” A false self gets constructed. Tricked into believing we’re incapable and undeserving, we yearn for the perfect role and persona. Ironically, this unproductive quest will leave us unfulfilled – even if we attain it – for the clear reason that we’re so much more than the narrow handful of qualities neatly befitting our ego ideal. Over time, our greatness and authenticity get hidden behind an impenetrable fortress – causing us to lose access to our fundamental core. Tragically, when we locked up what we perceived as rejected traits, we unknowingly sealed away our most valuable gifts. GEM #1 Stop Projecting “Those we project on hold pieces of our unclaimed darkness as well as unclaimed pieces of our light.” The Shadow Effect, page 117 Had you ever considered that the moments we meet our disowned self are amongst the most raw and fertile periods of our earthly sojourn? Paradoxical! For sure, owning our projections is both a courageous and humbling experience. Yet, it’s so important to do just that. Unresolved, self-sabotage will haunt us over and over – typically erupting with incredible power at precisely the verge of personal or professional breakthrough. On the other hand, once we summon the strength to dive straight into the center of our shadow world, the split between light and darkness will be re-integrated. Where to start in this reclaiming process, though? One effective source is to explore repetitive behavior patterns we’ve struggled with for years. Often we trick ourselves into believing that our less than acceptable behavior is the problem, rather than searching for its root cause. To aid our interpretation, Chopra indicates through a comprehensive listing of attitudes a set of accompanying unconscious shadow feelings that cannot be faced. For instance, superiority disguises the fear you’re a failure or that others would reject you if you they knew who you really were. Arrogance masks bottled-up anger,
