Summary: <br> What do you want to let go of? What is preventing you from completely letting go?<br> <br> <br> <br> Eric was inspired by a meditation he heard on the Insight Timer app, titled She Let Go. <br> <br> <br> <br> A very rough outline of our conversation follows:<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * What does it mean to let go?<br> <br> * Stop doing things that I don’t have the power to carry out (control someone else, e.g.)<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * What am I letting go of?<br> <br> * Resentment<br> <br> <br> <br> * Anger<br> <br> <br> <br> * Anxiety<br> <br> <br> <br> * Blame<br> <br> <br> <br> * Fear<br> <br> <br> <br> * Shame<br> <br> <br> <br> * Expectations<br> <br> <br> <br> * Catastrophizing the future<br> <br> <br> <br> * The past<br> <br> <br> <br> * The need to be right, to win, to control<br> <br> <br> <br> * Old behavior<br> <br> <br> <br> * “Need” to react to triggers.<br> <br> <br> <br> * Responsibility<br> <br> <br> <br> * Dependence on others<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * What tools do I have to help me let go?<br> <br> * Slogans<br> <br> * Let go and let God.<br> <br> <br> <br> * How important is it?<br> <br> <br> <br> * Would you rather be right or be happy?<br> <br> <br> <br> * Easy does it. (let go of anxiety)<br> <br> <br> <br> * One day at a time. (let go of worry)<br> <br> <br> <br> * Live and let live – let go of trying to live someone else’s life for them and live my own<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * Neutral responses<br> <br> * You could be right.<br> <br> <br> <br> * Oh.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * Random thoughts<br> <br> * I have no dog in this fight.<br> <br> <br> <br> * Not my circus, not my monkeys!<br> <br> <br> <br> * Let go or be dragged.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * Meditation<br> <br> * “Turned a 12-cylinder type A Leo into a 6 cylinder hybrid. Learned to slow down.”<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * “Why?”<br> <br> * “Drill down” to find something I can actually do something about. Example: I am afraid of my loved one’s drinking. Why? I am afraid that I will lose them. Why? I am afraid of being alone.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * When I let go of things I don’t like, I make room for new things (hopefully better things) to come in.<br> <br> <br> <br> * Recognize “alcoholic” behaviors<br> <br> * Provoke conflict<br> <br> <br> <br> * Create anxiety<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * When I let go of other people’s stuff, I can live my own life.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Readings and Links<br> <br> <br> <br> We read from <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/book-reaching-for-personal-freedom">Reaching for Personal Freedom</a>, the Step 1 chapter; <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/book-courage-to-change">Courage to Change</a>, March 5.<br> <br> <br> <br> The poem “<a href="https://safire-rose.com/books-and-media/poetry/she-let-go">She Let Go</a>” was written by Safire Rose, and you can listen to it on <a href="https://insighttimer.com/jacgodsman/guided-meditations/poem-she-let-go-3">Insight Timer</a>, read by Jack Godsman.<br> <br> <br> <br> Al-Anon books can be purchased online at the <a href="https://ecomm.al-anon.org/">Al-Anon Store</a>.<br> <br> <br> <br> Patti asked about episodes on regaining trust. There are 3 about trust: <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/281">How do you trust?</a> – Episode 281, <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/228">Trust and Trustworthy</a> – Episode 228, and <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/91">Trust</a> – Episode 91. In addition, this search turns up other shows where trust was a topic in some respect: <a href="https://the..."></a>
