Summary: <p>You think you're doing your best, giving your all, compromising, and cooperating. </p><p>In a healthy relationship, that's great. </p><p>In a toxic relationship, you'll be expected to over-give and more. </p><p>It's a setup for emotional abuse. Listen in to see it even more clearly! </p><br><p>You may hear the word "enabling" and know that it is not a good thing. That's true. Knowing what it IS so you can clearly observe it and recognize it is primary. My definition of enabling is: </p><br><p><em>"When you usually step in to fix, solve, excuse, rationalize, justify, or make the consequences go away for the poor choices of others." </em></p><br><p>Does that sound familiar? </p><br><p>Sometimes, you're so exhausted that you let it wash over you, I know. That's just how #narcissists and #Hijackals want you to be: too tired, confused, and worn down to put up any resistance to their having more and more power in the relationship. </p><br><p><strong>You CAN stop enabling their behaviors, and stop in small steps</strong>. (That's what I help my clients do, and you can use <a href="http://beaclient.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">my new client, one-time offer for a full hour session for only $97</a>.)</p><br><p>You are likely a good person who has done everything you can think of to please your partner or parent. #Hijackals simply won't be pleased for more than a hot minute. You've experienced that, right? So, lean in and listen, so you can think of your next best steps. </p><br><p><br></p><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul> <li>4 main reasons why you might enable a <strong>toxic relationship</strong> to continue</li> <li>What you may be hoping you'll get in response to the enabling (You won't.)</li> <li>Why being your wonderful self will never be good enough for a #Hijackal</li> <li>The dynamics of being with a toxic partner and their blame, shame, guilt, and fault-finding</li> <li>8 ways a #narcissist or #Hijackal perpetrates emotional abuse</li> </ul><p><br></p><p>When you get enmeshed and entangled in enabling, it leads to further and further emotional abuse. See it clearly now, and take action...no matter how small you start. Start! </p><br><p>Big hugs!</p><p>Rhoberta</p><br><p><strong>Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support</strong> from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? 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