Summary: <br> If I’m not the problem, then there is no solution. Huh? How does this make sense for my recovery.<br> <br> <br> <br> Spencer, Eric and several listeners share our thoughts about this idea.<br> <br> <br> <br> * How would you have felt about this statement before you came into recovery?* In what ways were you trying to fix other people’s problems?* Which of those problems was actually yours?* How did trying to fix someone else’s problems make you feel?* What did you hear when you came to Al-Anon that encouraged you to think differently?* What does this statement mean to you now?* How does that affect/change your behavior?* How is it liberating?* How does it contribute to less unmanageability and more serenity in your life?* Some problems I have* Failing to LET GO. My problem becomes, that I will be dragged. Example, my (Eric) marriage. Going to AA to take the medicine, to cure her disease.* If I fail to set healthy boundaries, I will become a doormat, and accept unacceptable behavior, and become resentful, angry, and irritable, without knowing it…* If I do not practice the art of listening, intently, with an OPEN MIND, I will not hear, understand, and lose my ability to have choices, and choose a response, that is healthy and best FOR ME.* These and many other problems, are OF MY OWN MAKING. The solutions are of my OWN choosing. I have the power to change this “stinking thinking”.* What solutions have we found?* Detachment* Boundaries* Acceptance<br> <br> <br> <br> Eric concluded: <br> <br> <br> <br> I can’t change the weather, the traffic, and I cannot drive the car in front of me. No matter how much I want to… I CAN change, my perspective, my outlook, and my attitude towards it.<br> <br> <br> <br> There is a solution. I / we all, have the power to awaken within us, the courage to change, the things we can. And, I have come to know that that thing, is ME.<br> <br> <br> <br> I will Let It Begin With Me.<br> <br> <br> <br> Readings and Links<br> <br> <br> <br> We read from <a href="https://therecoveryshow.com/book-how-alanon-works">How Al-Anon Works</a>: p. 20 (in Chapter 4) Seeking Solutions for Ourselves, and Tradition 5, p. 113.<br> <br> <br> <br> Spencer reflected on “Phase One” by Dilruba Ahmed, <a href="https://onbeing.org/programs/dilruba-ahmed-phase-one/">a poem about forgiving ourselves</a>, which he heard on the podcast <a href="https://onbeing.org/series/poetry-unbound/">Poetry Unbound</a>.<br> <br> <br> <br> Gina told us about another Al-Anon podcast: <a href="http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/podcasts">www.al-anonuk.org.uk/podcasts</a> <br> <br> <br> <br> We were reminded of these other episodes:<br> <br> <br> <br> * <a href="/241">Freedom</a> (241)* <a href="/258">Perspective</a> (258)* <a href="/261">Enabling or Empowering?</a> (261)* <a href="/245">Consequences</a> (245)* <a href="/196">Resentment</a> (196)<br> <br> <br> <br> Feedback<br> <br> <br> <br> If you have questions, comments, or shares on any of our episodes, you can call us at 734-707-8795 or email <a href="mailto:feedback@therecoveryshow.com">feedback@therecovery.show</a> with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Music from the Show<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Coldplay – Fix You<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> I'm the Problem – Timothy Brindle<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br>
