Summary: <a href="http://brianjpombo.com/feel-painted-into-a-corner/"></a><br> <br> <br> <a href="http://DreamBizChat.com">http://DreamBizChat.com</a><br> <br> <br> <br> Feel painted into a corner?<br> <br> <br> <br> Hi, I’m Brian Pombo welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live. Today I wanted to bring up the third tier of what we consider the three tiers of BrianJPombo.com and just for review.<br> <br> <br> <br> What we’ve been talking up until now is being Relationship Reliant and System Based.<br> <br> <br> <br> The third one is, Reality Grounded.<br> <br> <br> <br> Oftentimes we find ourselves painted into a corner because we set ourselves up that way to expect a certain result. If you do that, if you get caught up with your goals or get caught up with where you think things are going, you don’t allow flexibility to be able to move forward. I’ll give you an example.<br> <br> <br> <br> This was a situation with one of my clients where we had discussed what the possibilities were going forward in the future. And when we had a meeting, it became clear, as everything started being laid out, that we were going to have to change slightly and go a slightly different direction.<br> <br> <br> <br> It wasn’t a big move. In fact, it was original move that was planned that we had moved back to, or at least that was my suggestion, is that we moved back to this original plan.<br> <br> <br> <br> Now, it would have been real easy to say, well wait, why are we doing that?<br> <br> <br> <br> I thought we were going in this direction. Now we’re going in this direction. And there was some confusion there after we sat back and looked at it though I said, if you look at the big picture of things, we made the necessary changes, but that also made the original plan more of the the thing that we ought to do.<br> <br> <br> <br> It made sense, at least from my limited perspective it made sense and that’s what I was recommending.<br> <br> <br> <br> It’s real easy to get caught up with going in a particular direction and not wanting to pivot, but that flexibility, how do you build that flexibility?<br> <br> <br> <br> One’s experience is going through enough situations to where you know you have to be flexible or you’ll break.<br> <br> <br> <br> The main thing that I see that keeps people from being flexible in business is being too emotional. Getting emotionally invested in a particular outcome and that is being anti reality.<br> <br> <br> <br> If you’re getting caught up with doing things a certain way, there is an emotional comfort zone that we paint ourselves into. It’s painting ourselves into a corner and you don’t quite know your way out of it.<br> <br> <br> <br> How do you get away from that?<br> <br> <br> <br> How do you get back to reality?<br> <br> <br> <br> It’s about stepping back away from your emotional state, noticing that you’re in it, noticing that you’re reacting to something and just stepping back and taking a deep breath and saying, okay, what’s the reality of the situation?<br> <br> <br> <br> What are we actually looking at?<br> <br> <br> <br> What am I reacting to?<br> <br> <br> <br> When you do that, you take that little brief moment to step back and take a look at the big picture. Everything tends to clear up.<br> <br> <br> <br> Sometimes it means getting up and taking a walk. Sometimes it means, you know, getting a little bit of movement going and getting the blood flow into your brain.<br> <br> <br> <br> But it all comes back on the inside. Step away from your emotions and come back to reality.<br> <br> <br> <br> That’s why I talk about being Reality Grounded.<br> <br> <br> <br> That is really the long-term concept that you want in your b...
