Summary: <p>Don't kid yourself! Your "silences" speak volumes!</p><br><p>I work with people whose relationships are in crisis for so long, and their hope that not speaking up about things that are bothering them mostly does more damage than anything.</p><br><p>Suffering in silence can be the exact opposite of healthy living. It's a poor--and often highly toxic--approach to relationship issues.</p><br><p>It's possible that folks who button up and bottle up recall prior negative experiences associated with speaking out. Things just didn't go well, or the result crushed them. Now, they don't want to risk their self-esteem, or the relationship.</p><br><p>Here's a HUGE, glaring mistake, too: Too many people talk to their kids about their frustrations with their partners. I'll talk about this more in the episode. But, know that here's the rule: DON'T DO THIS...unless your kids are fully functioning adults with enough relationship experience to have a healthy conversation.</p><br><p>Why do quiet, seemingly nice people kill their spouses? One reason is that they "suffered in silence" until they really needed to say something or burst. They burst! Don't let that be you!</p><p>------------------------------------------------------------------</p><p>I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!</p><p>If you <strong>want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships</strong>. Join my Optimize Circles now.</p><p>Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.</p><p>WOW! 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