Summary: <p><strong>#Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult toxic people--want to define your reality for you. Right? </strong></p><p><strong>They try to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you remember or want. Crazy-making! </strong></p><br><p>Telling you who you are and what you think and feel is #<strong>gaslighting.</strong> Sure, you have friends that you might ask, or be discussing these things with because you value their opinion. Whole different story!</p><br><p>Hijackals tell you because they want to <strong>define your reality</strong>, so that they can <strong>have power and control over you</strong>. Once they wear and tear you down, you may begin to believe them. STOP! They are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Don't let them.</p><br><p>In today's episode, I help you hear phrases differently. You might not have realized this is happening to you because #Hijackals are sneaky, underhanded, and undermining you. They want to<strong> take away your self-confidence</strong>. They want to make you dependent on them. Nasty!</p><br><p>I share with you how--and why that 'how' is important--to<strong> change your response</strong>, and what to say. It can make a huge difference to <strong>regaining your self-esteem</strong>, and <strong>bolstering your self-confidence</strong>. Exactly what the Hijackal doesn't want to happen, but exactly what you need to happen!</p><p>--------------------------------------------------------------------</p><p>If you <strong>want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships</strong>. Join my Optimize Circles now.</p><p>Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.</p><p>WOW! Join now. <a href="http://optimizecircles.com/" target="_blank">OptimizeCircles.com </a> Only $5 for the first month at any level.</p><p>----------------------------------------------------------------------</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul> <li><strong>Recognizing gaslighting</strong></li> <li>Why it is emotional abuse</li> <li>How gaslighting may sound in your relationship</li> <li>Why adults accept gaslighting and what needs to change</li> <li>How to <strong>respond to gaslighting</strong> in the moment</li> <li>AND...here's the l<a href="https://youtu.be/EUenBFJyY98" target="_blank">ink to my video, Healthy Responses to Gaslighting, </a> </li> </ul><p><br></p><p>You'll find that in <a href="https://www.relationshiphelpnetwork.com/" target="_blank">many other episodes of this podcast,</a> and on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp" target="_blank">my YouTube channel,</a> too.</p><br><p>Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, <strong>grab my</strong></p><p><strong>FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal®</strong> at <a href="http://hijackals.com/" target="_blank">Hijackals.com</a> . 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