Why You Shouldn't Go Back to a Hijackal® & How To Stay Away Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Summary: <p><strong>You're out! You likely took a long time to make the decision to leave the narcissist, or in my terms, the #Hijackal. You also likely talked yourself out of it more than a few times, right? </strong></p><br><p><strong>Then, you make your move for all the right reasons. It's difficult AND you do it. </strong></p><br><p>Uh-oh! Now, you're <strong>second-guessing your decision</strong>, and <strong>beating yourself up</strong> a bit. NO! Please don't!</p><p>Remind yourself that you left for all the right reasons.</p><br><p>Not so easy when you're feeling unsure, alone, and maybe even a little helpless...at least, once you're in your new place all along. Right?</p><br><p>That's <strong>when the doubts creep in</strong>, You wonder if you did the right thing. You start romanticizing the past and remembering only the good parts. Oh, I know, I've been there, and I left, too.</p><br><p>So today, I'm talking about understanding what may be driving you to think <strong>of going back to the abusive relationship. I give you </strong>SIX practical and immediate things to do to <strong>stay on the path of leaving</strong>, and keep yourself on an even keel while staying away. So important for your growth, self-esteem, and self-confidence!</p><br><p>Every client I have who has told me stories of leaving a #Hijackal and going back has said how much s/he regretted that decision. Some of them actually left a couple of times before they moved away for good.</p><br><p>It's not easy, because you're <strong>emotionally addicted</strong>. You may not like to think of yourself in those terms, but basically, that's what has been going on.</p><br><p>To break any addiction, you have to go through a rough patch. If you go back, you have to go through the rough patch again. Not so smart, right?</p><p>--------------------------------------------------------------------</p><p>If you <strong>want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships</strong>. Join my Optimize Circles now.</p><p>Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.</p><p>WOW! Join now. <a href="https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/Circles" target="_blank">ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles</a> Only $5 for the first month at any level.</p><p>----------------------------------------------------------------------</p><br><p>You deserve to <strong>create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive</strong>. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.</p><p><strong>No emotional safety</strong> when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!</p><br><p>Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in <a href="https://www.relationshiphelpnetwork.com/" target="_blank">many other episodes of this podcast,</a> and on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp" target="_blank">my YouTube channel,</a> too.</p><br><p>Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, <strong>grab my</strong></p><p><strong>FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal®</strong> at <a href="http://hijackals.com/" target="_blank">Hijackals.com</a> . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul> <li>Why you may think that going back is a good idea</li> <li>How to know it's a very bad idea</li> <li>What to do when you are tempted to go back</li> <li>Trauma-bonding can keep pulling you back and you need to recognize that</li> <li>Six active steps to take to make a good start on your new life away from a #Hijackal</li> </ul><p><br></p><p>If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. <strong>Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your </strong><a href="https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/join" target="_blank"><strong>first one-hour session with me for only $97.</strong></a></p><br><p>Make positive changes NOW.</p><br><p>Big hugs,</p><p>Rhoberta</p><br><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/" target="_blank">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><br><p>P.S. 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