Summary: <p><strong>Emotional grown-ups don't fight. Kids and needy adults fight. </strong></p><br><p><strong>You don't want to be one of those, so a few essential tips for you in today's episode. </strong></p><br><p><strong>Fighting is what kids do.</strong> They do it because they are trying to <strong>establish boundaries</strong>, power, and a sense of who they are. They don't know yet. Their skills are almost non-existent, except for what they have seen the adult in their lives do. Were those good models? Hmmmm....</p><br><p>You don't want to fight, right? So, today, I'm suggesting you do these three big things to stay out of the fray.</p><br><p>You know fighting never works. You might feel like to "really told him off," or, "I told it like it is," but did it really accomplish anything?</p><br><p><strong>Fighting with a #Hijackal is an absurdity, really</strong>. You can't get anywhere, and you don't feel better in the end. So, don't do it!</p><br><p>Sure, for a few minutes, you feel like you got <strong>rid of a bunch of pent-up anger</strong>, and you needed to get a whole lot off your chest. BUT, what is the result? Did anything really change, especially did anything change for the better? Not likely.</p><br><p>You need to be very clear within yourself about who you want to be and how you want to express yourself. <strong>Communicating clearly will empower you,</strong> I promise.So, these three things I talk about in today's episode are the very best starting places. Promise!</p><br><p>You matter! You deserve to be emotionally safe, so be sure you're the emotionally mature one, OK?</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul> <li>Why fighting <strong>lacks emotional maturity</strong>. Not a surprise, really, right?</li> <li>Why #Hijackals enjoy the fight</li> <li>Three things you need to work out for yourself that will <strong>help you be assertive</strong> </li> <li> <strong>How to improve your self-confidence</strong> when things need to be said</li> <li>Why you cannot get anywhere with a #Hijackal by fighting</li> </ul><p><br></p><p>I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.</p><br><p><strong>Let's talk soon. I can help</strong>. <a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/free-consult" target="_blank">Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE</a> for only $97.</p><br><p>I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.</p><br><p>Talk soon.</p><p>Rhoberta</p><br><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/" target="_blank">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><br><p>P.S. 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