Summary: <a href="http://therecoveryshow.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/DSC_3047.jpg"></a><br> <br> * What is your first thought when you hear this question?<br> * Do you believe that “right” is “truth” and that there is only one possible “right answer” (way to do something, opinion about a topic, etc.)?<br> * Do you have “black and white” thinking?<br> <br> * Why?<br> <br> <br> * What would it take to see the world in shades of gray (or colors)? Red is no more “right” than blue, for example.<br> * What does the word “happy” mean in this context?<br> * When has holding onto a position hurt more than letting go would have hurt?<br> * Is Right and Happy possible? Sometimes. But in dealing with difficult people, sometimes, it’s just not worth the fight, conflict, escalation…<br> * A lotta references to “conflict” and controversy are relevant in readings, and traditions, as well as arguments.<br> * Can you “Live and Let Live” even if you are “right”?<br> * Have you come to learn that most times, “urgent things are seldom Important, and Important things are seldom urgent”? (calling 911 for a paper cut…)<br> * Slogans<br> <br> * How Important is it?<br> * This Too Shall Pass<br> * Is It Worth My Serenity?<br> <br> <br> * <a href="/258">Perspective</a> episode also comes to mind, and <a href="/51">First Things First</a>… And <a href="/249">Force vs Power</a><br> * Sayings;<br> <br> * QTIP<br> * Don’t<br> <br> * Take the bait<br> * Pick up the rope<br> * Be a willing participant in a toxic dance<br> <br> <br> * “I don’t need to win anything today…”<br> <br> <br> <br> Readings and Links<br> We opened with a reading from <a href="http://therecoveryshow.com/book-courage-to-change">Courage to Change</a>, October 29. We also mentioned the June 3 reading.<br> We read from <a href="http://therecoveryshow.com/book-how-alanon-works" rel="nofollow">How Al-Anon Works</a> on dealing with conflict (p. 98 in the soft cover edition), and Eric read about acceptance from <a href="http://therecoveryshow.com/book-in-all-our-affairs" rel="nofollow">…In All Our Affairs</a>, p. 96.<br> We were inspired by a Psychology Today article <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-sobriety/201108/right-vs-happy">Right vs. Happy</a>. And Eric ended with <a href="https://www.biography.com/news/chief-joseph-quotes-surrender-speech">a quote from Chief Joseph</a>.<br> Coming next<br> Our topic for next week is new topic. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email<br> <a title="Send us mail" href="mailto:feedback@therecoveryshow.com">feedback@therecoveryshow.com</a><br> with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. <br> Music from the show<br> John Mayer: Heartbreak Warfare<br> <br> Billy Joel: You May be Right<br> <br> Pharell Williams: Happy<br> <br> <br> <br>
