50: Talking to Our Kids About Sex (Our Context is Not Their Context) with Erika Miley, Mental and Sexual Health Therapist

Summary: We made it to 50 episodes!!  Thanks for being a part of it !! You might want to preview this if you tend to listen with your kids, because in this episode, we're discussing how to talk to our kids about sex.  Today, Erika Miley guides us through talking to our kids about sex.  We start with talking to younger kids about sex, and the move on to older kids as the episode progresses.  Regardless of the age of your child, there should be something in this episode that you find useful. You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.   Shameless Plugs:   I’m offering 3 sessions of the ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups.  They’ll start the week of Jnaiuary 20th.  One session will be at noon on Mondays and Wednesdays.  Another at noon on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and the final session will be Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5pm.  Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers. Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/. Registration closes next Friday, December 21st.   Guest Links: You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.   In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Kids can learn about it from you, or from the internet.  Your choice. When to start talking to kids about sex Where to begin when talking about sex.  (Hint: It’s not intercourse.) Typical developmental behavior Helping kids understand consent You don’t need to tell the about everything at once. The importance of really listening Times to talk to kids about sexual safety Why we shouldn’t use cutesy names for genitalia Sex talk with older kids The importance of open-ended questions Ask the question, shut your mouth “Let me give you context.” It’s okay to say, “You don’t want to know.” Working as a parenting team Porn will come to your kids And it’s performance.  Not reality Where to get better sex info Scarleteen.com Every question is an opportunity Give the gift of curiosity Our context is not their context Kids talk above their heads Dopamine seeking behavior & playing with sexual language  Framing sex conversations around family values Relationships > Sex