Summary: <p><strong>SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®</strong></p><p><strong>with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><br><p><strong>IS IT POSSIBLE YOU'RE ENABLING A TOXIC PARTNER? TIME TO STOP! </strong></p><br><p><strong>VERY IMPORTANT! NO BLAME HERE! </strong></p><p><strong>Do not blame yourself, or take on any blame, if you listen today and realize you're been enabling your toxic partner to continue to behave badly. S/he was going to do it anyway. You didn't cause it. You are a good person, who simply didn't have an impact when you said no. So, now you've been worn down, and torn down, by their bad behavior. </strong></p><br><p><strong>Toxic people, Hijackals®, are looking for power and control over you</strong>. Because you are a good person, a loving, compassionate person, you were chosen by the Hijackal.</p><br><p>S/he thought there was a good chance that you would go the extra mile, be long-suffering, or justify, rationalize, or excuse their bad behavior. You likely did...because you are a good person, and you thought that, with enough love and patience, s/he would change. <strong>Hijackals don't change...for the better! </strong></p><br><p>Today, I'm talking about "enabling." Here's a definition that makes it clear:</p><br><p><strong>Enabling</strong> <strong>is the behavior of protecting others from experiencing the full impact and consequences of their behavior</strong></p><br><p>That's where the excusing, rationalizing, and justifying come in. You give them more than enough rope to hang themselves, and instead, they hang you!</p><br><p>A few highlights of today's episode:</p><p><br></p><ul> <li>E<strong>ight identifiable behaviors of Hijackals that you may be unwittingly enabling</strong> </li> <li>Why it may feel like the toxic person, the Hijackal, treats you in a "<strong>Come closer. Stay away</strong>." kind of way</li> <li>Why enabling will NEVER get you the relationship you want: the one with <strong>honesty</strong>,<strong> safety</strong>, <strong>respect</strong>, <strong>trust</strong>, and <strong>reliability </strong>that I talk about in <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Kaizen-Couples-Strengthen-Relationship-communication-ebook/dp/B00NPD824K" target="_blank"><strong>Kaizen for Couples</strong></a>: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship</li> <li>Why you want to <strong>stop enabling</strong> and learn the strategies to <strong>empower yourself </strong>BEFORE you announce you are leaving</li> </ul><p><br></p><p>Are you ready to be free of this? To <strong>stop questioning your sanity</strong> and <strong>second-guessing yourself</strong>? GREAT!</p><br><p>Hijackals are <strong>toxic people</strong> who create <strong>toxic relationships</strong>! You are being poisoned. You are NOT the poison that the Hijackal insists you are.</p><br><p>I hope this help you see that more clearly.</p><br><p>If you need help with this, I'm here for you.</p><br><p>Let's talk soon. I can help. <a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/free-consult" target="_blank">Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE</a> for only $97.</p><br><p>I hope this <strong>empowers you to make positive changes NOW.</strong></p><br><p>Talk soon.</p><p>Rhoberta</p><br><p><strong>Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,</strong></p><p><strong>The Relationship Help Doctor</strong></p><p><a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/" target="_blank">ForRelationshipHelp.com</a></p><br><p>P.S. Subscribe to my <a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe" target="_blank"><strong>newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>CONNECT WITH DR. 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