Summary: <a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="http://www.ultimateradioshow.com/m213/"><br> </a><br> <br> If your child has siblings it's just about certain they'll have squabbling. Sibling rivalry of one sort or another is unpleasant but normal - the question for us as parents is, "What can I do about it? How can I deal with the bickering and arguments, to make our home a place of peace and harmony?" In this episode we talk about what we've learned raising our family of eight strong-willed, opinionated, energetic, competitive kids!<br> <br> <a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="http://www.ultimateradioshow.com/m213/"></a><br> Your Family is Meant to Be an Example<br> The Bible has many passages which suggest that our family relationships are an illustration of spiritual truths. When Paul talks about the relationship of husbands and wives, he concludes, "This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church." (Ephesians 5:32) How can we understand the new relationship of fellow believers in the church? By comparing it to the fellowship of parents to children and siblings with one another (1 Timothy 5:1-2). When Jesus is called "a friend who sticks closer than a brother," (Proverbs 18:24) that makes no sense if brotherhood is all about fighting, arguments, and hostility!<br> Some Practical Guidelines<br> We've established some household rules that are meant to create or maintain a culture of peace and harmony!<br> <br> * No Name Calling - Names are important in the Bible, and if our kids have a complaint with one another, theyr'e not allowed to sling nicknames or taunts at each other. Never - not even using a common nickname that the child doesn't want. If you always go by Edward, you might consider Teddy an undesirable handle!<br> * No Bullying or Pestering - Bullying is using your greater strength, size, or another advantage, to intimidate and persecute other people. Pestering is using your lesser ability to lay traps for the stronger sibling, then running to Mama as a "victim."<br> * Rejoice With Those Who Rejoice - And weep with those that weep (Romans 12:16). The Bible tells us to come alongside our brethren in the church and share in their feelings. We encourage the same standard with our children.<br> * Remember We're On The Same Team - We don't let our children get a I-win-you-lose mentality toward their siblings, and we encourage them to see one sibling's success as a victory for Team Family. Sure, they play games and compete that way, but in day to day life, we encourage them to think in terms of cooperation and collaboration, not trying to "beat" their brother or sister.<br> <br> A Long Term Project<br> Just a few days ago, two of our teenagers were having a disagreement. Hal sat them down and gave them a simple challenge - that every day, moment by moment, they were making decisions about how to interact. Are they working to build unity, harmony, and love within the family? Or are their words and actions tearing that down?<br> <br> It's important to remember two things. First, that this is a life-long process. We still have to remind, rebuke, coach, and encourage our kids, long after they're teenagers. It's not a simple checklist on the fridge that fixes everybody's attitude in an afternoon!<br> <br> But secondly, we need to keep close in mind that we homeschoolers are the primary source of our children's socialization. Sure, they may pick up undesirable words or attitudes from media, group meetings, or friends, but since they spend most of their time with their parents, we have to be honest. When we find a social behavior that we don't like, they may very well be picking it up from us. If the children are disrespectful to Mom, are they following Dad's example? If they have a sarcastic tone, are they imitating Mom? We need to live our own lives in our family to be a pattern for our kids. The family life they see around their dinner table every day is very likely to be the family life our gran...
