Summary: <a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="https://ultimateradioshow.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/MBFLP-207-Self-Control-FB.jpg"></a><br> <br> This episode we deal with a perennial problem in parenting - how in the world do we teach our kids self-control? The entertainment and collegiate culture may celebrate raw emotion and thoughtless self-expression - if it's "authentic" it's immune from criticism - but the Bible says differently. What's more, every parent knows that what you might laugh about when they're two, can wreck their lives when they're twenty ... and make your home intolerable when they're sixteen. So what can we do to start - and continue - teaching the critical habit of self-control?<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="https://ultimateradioshow.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/No-Longer-LIttle-600x600.png"></a><br> New byHal and Melanie Young<a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="http://www.nolongerlittle.com/">CLICK HERE to find out more! </a><br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> What Does the Bible Tell Us?<br> The Scriptures warn against being led by our impulses and appetites. The Proverbs are full of warnings about the outcome of anger, drunkenness, laziness, gluttony, lust ... TLDR, it doesn't end well for the person "whose god is their belly, who set their minds on earthly things." (Philippians 3:19)<br> <br> Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:21-22 list "self-control" alongside love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and gentleness, as a sign of the Holy Spirit's work in someone. That says it's important, and it also should encourage us to pray for it - for our children and ourselves!<br> <br> Our children are our disciples and they learn from our example ... whether good or bad, and as Jesus said, "everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher." (Luke 6:40 ESV). That should encourage us to try to be the kind of persons we want our kids to become.<br> Some Practical Ideas<br> <a rel="NOFOLLOW" href="https://ultimateradioshow.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/MBFLP-207-Self-Control-P.jpg"></a><br> <br> Feelings are real but they may not be accurate. The Lord tells us, "The heart is deceitful above all things ..." (Jeremiah 17:9) so we can't trust every feeling that comes up. Talk with your kids about what they're feeling and why they think that is. Help them discover whether there's really a reason to feel so angry or weepy or fearful.<br> <br> Realize there are times when they really can't control their emotions. The pre-teen years are so filled with hormones, it is nearly impossible for the young adolescent to handle them. When they're in an emotional storm, you may need to comfort and calm them before you can have a rational conversation again. This will pass; when they settle down, it's good to have that discussion with them.<br> <br> Help them see that self-control (and self-discipline) offers many rewards. A child who can keep his temper or his tears in check is not as likely to be bullied. If they learn to rein in emotional outbursts and blurted observations, they can save themselves a lot of embarrassment and apologies. And learning to defer their immediate desires in order to finish a task or reach toward a goal will be great preparation for a useful adulthood.<br> <br> Encourage them to reach up to adult roles early. When ours are 12- or 13 years old, we make a formal transition - they're no longer "little kids" but now "young adults, in training." We encourage them to take more responsibility for themselves and contribute more to the work around the house - with more freedom and privilege granted as they take on more responsibility. And our parenting has to transition from "direction" to "advice" as they mature - we want to them to be ready to step into full, independent adulthood sooner rather than later, and that means a lot of coaching and advice to get them prepared.<br>
