Summary: <p>Relationships<br> Thinking and Feeling<br> Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD, LPC-MHSM, LMHC, NCC<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs<br> Host, Counselor Toolbox<br> President, Recovery and Resilience International</p> <p>Continuing Education (CE) credits can be earned for this presentation at<a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/615/c/"> https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/615/c/</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Define temperament<br> ~ Examine how knowing your temperament and the temperament of those around you can<br> ~ Improve communication<br> ~ Enhance relationships<br> ~ Reduce stress<br> ~ Explore in-depth the Thinking/Feeling dimension<br> ~ Identify potential conflicts<br> ~ Examine potential ways to help people on opposite ends of the spectrum collaborate.<br> Temperament<br> ~ A relatively stable set of traits referring to<br> ~ Preferred environments<br> ~ Learning and problem solving styles and methods<br> ~ Ways of conceptualizing and approaching the world<br> ~ Philosophical approach to the world<br> ~ Time management<br> ~ Temperament occurs along a complementary continuum<br> ~ Neither end of the continuum is better or worse<br> ~ Most people are somewhere in between each point<br> Temperament<br> ~ As stress increases, people gravitate toward their preferred temperament dimensions<br> ~ Additional stress and vulnerabilities can be through<br> ~ Awareness of personal preferences (Prevent your stress)<br> ~ Awareness of the preferences of those around you<br> ~ Knowledge of how to create an environment supportive of individual preferences</p> <p>Temperament—Conceptualization/Lens<br> Thinking<br> ~ Like words such as principles, justice, standards or analysis<br> ~ Laws<br> ~ More dichotomous<br> ~ Can be frustrated by Feeler’s lack of decisiveness or inattention to “the facts”<br> ~ Can be swayed by arguments about how something is the right or logical thing to do given the evidence<br> ~ Value objectivity above sentiment<br> Feeling<br> ~ Like words such as care, compassion, mercy, harmony<br> ~ Ethics<br> ~ Middle of the road<br> ~ Can be frustrated by the Thinker’s adherence to the rules<br> ~ Can be swayed by arguments for why something is the most compassionate or merciful thing to do<br> ~ Value sentiment above objectivity</p> <p>Temperament—Conceptualization/Lens<br> Interventions<br> ~ Compromise<br> ~ Appeal to each other in their preferred language<br> ~ Pro and con list<br> ~ Involve all interested parties<br> ~ Remember that not everyone is comfortable with feeling words</p> <p>Temperament<br> Thinking<br> ~ Want to apply objective principles to solve problems<br> ~ Can assess logical consequences</p> <p>Feeling<br> ~ Want to apply values and ethics from multiple perspectives<br> ~ Good at assessing the human impact</p> <p>Interventions<br> ~ The resolution of most problems requires a compromise between what is logically the most correct choice and which decision will have the best impact on the person, the couple and the larger system.<br> ~ The values/epitaph activity can help clarify which way to tip the balance (What 3 values are most important to you)<br> ~ Motivation–the “Feeler” can present logical arguments<br> ~ Motivation–the “Thinker” can present from the perspective of how the less logical choice might impact the couple/family/system<br> ~ Look for the logic in the “Feeler’s” resolution (Residential treatment)</p> <p>Decision Making Guide<br> ~ Stop and think<br> ~ Clarify goals and values<br> ~ Determine the facts<br> ~ Develop options<br> ~ Consider the consequences<br> ~ Choose<br> ~ Monitor and modify<br> Temperament<br> Thinking<br> ~ Respon</p>
