10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns & Arguments :: Kirk Martin [Ep 139]




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Summary: Got tantrums? Stuck in head-t0-head battles with your kiddos?<br> Good news. Calm parenting expert,<a href="http://celebratecalm.com/"> Kirk Martin</a>, is back on the show.<br> Not just to get behavior to change but to strengthen the relationship. To give us phrases and techniques to stay calm in stressful situations. To step back and allow our kids to step up in taking responsibility and solving problems.<br> <br> After a fight we want our kids to “say sorry right now”.  Kirk encourages us to:<br> Trust that we taught our kids the right thing. And believe our children will humble themselves to make it right.<br> This is my favorite conversation I’ve had with Kirk. We get deep into the heart behind our control issues. We narrow in on pride and shame (both in our kids and ourselves). He shares several helpful phrases to use in the heat of the moment. Ones I’ve had the “opportunity” to use several times this past week.<br> Featured Sponsor: <a href="https://www.jellytelly.com/?utm_source=godcenteredmom.com&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=blogger%20traffic">Jelly Telly</a><br> <br> JellyTelly is the only streaming video app designed specifically for kids where God is real and His Word is true. Co-developed with VeggieTales® creator Phil Vischer. Instantly stream hundreds of hours of safe, affirming videos and movies for kids about God, the Bible, and faith. Available on iOS, Android, and Kindle. Popular shows include: VeggieTales, Hillsong Kids, the Jesus Storybook Bible and MANY more!<br> Check them out at <a href="https://www.jellytelly.com/?utm_source=godcenteredmom.com&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=blogger%20traffic">here</a>. Make sure you use the special discount code for GodCenteredMomPodcast listeners mentioned at the beginning of this week’s show.<br> What we chat about:<br> <br> * The phrase to use when your child is procrastinating.<br> * Recognizing the shame a child feels after a meltdown.<br> * An invitation for a child to transition out of a meltdown.<br> * Help for the child who struggles to admit fault.<br> * The intermingling of pride and shame.<br> * Leaving enough space and showing respect by letting our kids solve problems.<br> * Words to use when we see our kids are stressed/tired/overwhelmed.<br> * Less demeaning phrase to use than, “What were you thinking?”.<br> * Special discount code for GCM listeners for anything on Kirk’s site.<br> * How to get out of an argument with your child with one phrase.<br> * What to say when your teenager wants to do something you don’t think is a good idea.<br> <br> Connect with Kirk:<br> <a href="http://celebratecalm.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Site</a> :: <a href="https://twitter.com/celebratecalm" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Twitter</a> :: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/CelebrateCalm" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Facebook </a>:: <a href="http://celebratecalm.com/radio-show/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Podcast</a><br> Links Mentioned:<br> <br> * Previous episodes:<br> <br> * <a href="http://godcenteredmom.com/2015/03/02/stop-yelling-lecturing-power-struggles-today-kirk-martin-ep-62/">How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing &amp; Power Struggles (Ep 62)</a><br> * <a href="http://godcenteredmom.com/2015/04/20/strong-willed-child-kirk-martin-69/">Calmly Parenting a Strong-willed Child (Ep 69)</a><br> * <a href="http://godcenteredmom.com/2015/06/22/summer-sibling-survival-guide-kirk-martin-ep-77/">Summer Sibling Survival Guide (Ep 77)</a><br> * <a href="http://godcenteredmom.com/2015/09/21/how-to-stay-calm-with-school-stress-kirk-martin-ep-88/">How to Stay Calm with School Stress (Ep 88)</a><br> * <a href="http://godcenteredmom.com/2016/01/18/q-a-with-kirk-martin-from-celebrate-calm-ep-104/">Q &amp; A with Kirk Martin (Ep 104)</a><br> <br> <br>