Summary: When you have experienced being devalued and discarded in your relationship it is easy to jump to the emotional conclusion that “it’s me! It’s my fault, I’m not good enough, I’m not enough” but what you might not realize is the person jumping ship is not bailing from you as much as he/she is bailing from his/her own pain. When a relationship progresses if you don’t have the tools to deal with conflict and to communicate openly and honestly there can be no resolution for issues and those issues will continue to expand until they destroy the relationship. Those who are narcissistic or don’t have any relationship skills will tend to project their repressed pain onto those closest to them and then disassociate from that person in attempt to disassociate from the pain. We may be under the impression that the one doing the devaluing and discarding isn’t feeling a thing, but it might be more that this person is running from his/her feelings. You may end up feeling that you are carrying the “pain bag” and may even own the projections of the one running from pain. In this episode of Pandora’s Box we will shed light on what it might look like if someone you love has cut you off and how this may have absolutely nothing to do with you. You may simply be mirroring the pain of the person who is disassociating and really running from himself/herself.
