Summary: I’ve sadly observed several marriages where husbands leave their wives or wives leave their husbands. Some cases are inevitable. And, as you have, I’ve watched people respond differently. Nearly everyone is angry - and rightly so. Being cheated on is being sinned against. But some people, while angry, have chosen to forgive their spouse - even if there never will be reconciliation. And I’ve seen others stubbornly say, “I’ll never forgive.” They think forgiveness would minimize the wrongdoing. But, forgiveness does not minimize sin. God forgave us our sin, but He did not minimize its seriousness. Sin is serious - it’s so serious that God’s Son, Jesus Christ, was crucified for it. When you are praying about something that’s happened to you and aren’t sure how to respond – ask the Lord to help you forgive. You will be freed from bitterness and anger and revenge. Even if you never reconcile with the person who hurt you, forgiving them is what God has called each one of us to do. You aren’t minimizing their wrongdoing; you are simply leaving it up to God, the righteous Judge. Jesus said, “if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Before you can reach your world, be sure to forgive those who have wronged you, in the name of Jesus Christ. And you will be a free person, Spirit-filled, useful to God.
