Marriage Classes at Ohana Baptist Church

Learn each other's Love Language: use the right words in the right way. Tell each other your feelings: "ought your thoughts". Building Intimacy = "Into Me See".

Submission means to make your will my will. You can obey without submitting. There are four things a woman is commanded to do for her husband. Submit to him, Respond in Love, Trust him, Respect him. I Pet. 3:5

A review of everything covered so far. God wants us to have a Godly marriage. He gave basic commands to both husband and wife.

Remember JOY (Jesus first, Others Second, Yourself Last). Mat. 22:36-40 When having a dispute with your spouse you should focus on the issue at hand not all the issues past. Stay with your spouse as Love endures all things, and Love never fails . II Tim 2:3

There is a difference in types of jealousy such as good and bad. JAM 3:13-18, EXO 34:14 Love does not act shamefully use good manners and give glory unto God. I COR 10:31-33

Love in Marriage is not just seeing your spouse for who they are but it is seeing your spouse for who God intended them to be and helping them get there. In a dispute between spouses let the Love of God prevent you from exploding on each other, maintain your composure, and forgive when the dispute ends. Long suffering, Love suffers long and is patient, Love is kind(Be kind and useful to your spouse even if they don't deserve it.) Eph, 4:2, Luk, 6:35

Be cautious when using the internet as there is a great deal of temptation and usually nobody monitoring your activity. Rom, 13:14 There are many ways a man is commanded to Love his wife. I Cor, 1:8 Actions can change your feelings if there is animosity in your marriage. Jon, 7:17

The first measure you should take is prevention or get rid of the fuel. Mat, 5: 27-29, James, 5: 3 You must be ready to flee from temptation and sin (Change inappropriate channels, avoid inappropriate magazines, websites, adds, etc...) 1st Cor, 6: 16-20, 1st Tim, 6: 11, 2nd Tim, 2: 22 You need to have an escape plan and practice it consistently, let your heart burn with a passion for God. Prov, 4: 23, Prov, 23: 7, Luke, 24: 32

People often try to fill their desires simple because they have them and often times in the wrong way. I cor, 6: 11-13 Pornography is not just about pictures but it is also about power and control and becomes addictive in that way. Prov, 27: 7 It is good for a man not to touch a woman until marriage, then it should only be his wife. I cor, 7: 1-4

Intimacy In Marriage - Part 4. "WARNING - This lesson deals with subject matter appropriate for married couples only" The focus for intimacy between husband and wife should be to please the other and not them selves. I Cor. 7:2-5 It's ok to dress differently to fit your spouses fantasy as long as you don't take it to the level of being somebody you are not. Enjoy intimacy with your spouse but you should not defile the bedroom with pornography.

Intimacy In Marriage - Part 3. "WARNING - This lesson deals with subject matter appropriate for married couples only" It is not wrong to enjoy the company of your spouse and be romantic together Psal. 4:5, Psal. 7:3, Mal 2:14 It is not fair for you to compare your spouse with another Mat. 5: 27-28 When you as a married couple choose to have sex your goal should be to please your partner more than yourself. I Cor. 7:2-3

Intimacy In Marriage - Part 2. "WARNING - This lesson deals with subject matter appropriate for married couples only" The use of birth control is something that should be prayed on and therefore decided on by the couple that is contemplating its use. When you as a couple do not have a strong physical relationship it opens the door to temptation. I Cor. 7:1-5 Plan and prepare for a regular time and place for intimacy, but be open to spontaneous encounters.

Couples should be able to trust each other not break each others confidence. There tends to be two ways hurt is held. 1. Hurt -> Anger -> Resentment -> Bitterness -> Attacking Spouse. 2. Hurt -> Anger -> Self Pity -> Depression -> Attacking Self. To get rid of hurts; Go and voice the problem. Matt 5:23-24, Mark 11:25-26

Many people in a marriage do not know how to argue they only know how to fight. When you argue you attack the problem; when you fight you attack each other. A Husband and Wife need two basic things: She needs Security, and He needs Respect. Do not tear somebody down for a feature or a personality trait that they cannot change.

Four primary personalities represented by animals are: The Lion (I get my way), The Otter (No problem), The Retriever (I surrender), and The Beaver (I give up). 7% of communication is content, 38% is tone of voice, and 55% is non-verbal. I Pet. 3:1, Ps. 40:3 Pass your Praise not, criticism, nagging, or harsh words. Prov. 14:1, 19:13, 21:9, 15:1