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Summary: X & Y On The Fly--Dating Podcast. Spirited discussion about dating and relationships hosted by Scot and Emily McKay. What you hear is guaranteed to be unique and often hilarious but ALWAYS useful. All killer, no filler. Based on the popular newsletter from X & Y Communications (www.relationship-advice.us).

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 Episode 59--X & Y On The Fly--His Masculine Side, Her Feminine Side | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply human? What if all of this is just a social construct to begin with? But what if it isn't? Then what? Does that change the whole perspective? I mean, if masculinity is 'toxic' as we're led to believe nowadays, why are so many women trying to act like men? What if we all migrated toward the feminine instead? But can't there be such a thing as 'toxic femininity' in that case? After all, is femininity always 'soft' and inherently innocuous? And what of the idea that masculine dominance is sexy to women...how can that be? How come there are tomboys but no such thing as a tomgirl? What do single moms have to do with all of this? Stay tuned for the trait we've never really considered feminine before, but just might be...and we make a solid case for it. But all the while we're the same couple of dorks you know and love, who may or may not have knocked back a couple before hitting 'record' on this episode. Find the right relationship or dramatically improve the one you're already in. It all starts with a phone visit with us, free for 25 minutes. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 58--X & Y On The Fly--Sexy Moms, Sexy Dads | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn guys on? Is how men act and carry themselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 57--X & Y On The Fly--Dealing With Disruption | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And Does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 56--X & Y On The Fly--2020 Hindsight...And Foresight | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 55--X & Y On The Fly--Blowing Up The Chemistry Lab | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it have anything to do with the fact there can be chemistry between two people who don't even LIKE each other? Or is it mostly people who don't have chemistry in their own relationships who say it doesn't matter? But what IS chemistry, anyway? Is it something literal, perhaps generated by pheromones? Or is there an actual chemical bond between couples? Whatever it is, it results in an intangible 'it' factor between two people that makes a relationship, well...more relatable. So what does chemistry LOOK like? How do you know when it's happening? Do only certain types of people experience it? Is someone you experience chemistry with likely your 'soulmate'? What happens when couples with chemistry change over time? What are the traits of people who find chemistry with MOTOS often? How can you find the balance between the fireworks of chemistry and other necessary components of a healthy relationship? Can chemistry come in different forms? Finally, stay tuned until the very end because we throw a big-time wrench into the works. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 54--X & Y On The Fly--How Men Talk About Women When They're Not Around | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top Podcast. It's a barnburner just like this one. In THIS episode, however, we talk about drunk confessions, what goes on during men-only excursions, how men treat their 'henpecked' or 'p-whipped' friends, and how they talk about their own girlfriends as opposed to each other's girlfriends. We also cover how men's demeanor in general changes outside of 'mixed company', the surprising and brutally-honest differences between how boys and mature men talk about women, and how men handle the problem of women who are easily offended. You're also in for a breakdown of how accurate cinematic portrayals of men-only conversations are, and how Clint Eastwood got it right in Gran Torino. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The brand new program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 53--X & Y On The Fly--Why Do Men And Women Have Such A Hard Time Meeting Each Other? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, right? With us to explore what makes it all so difficult is none other than fellow dating coach Mike Goldstein from New York City. What has happened in our post-modern world that keeps men and women apart? Was it really easier int he 'good old days'? Why is it that everyone seems so shy, and have the social protocols we've put in place done more harm than good to the whole process? Oh...and what in the world are we to do if we don't meet our 'forever' someone in high school or college? Is there really never again that kind of boy/girl bonanza in our adult lives? Look forward to thought-provoking answers to all of these questions along with a bunch of other humorous and interesting surprises in this fun-filled episode. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 52--X & Y On The Fly--Why All The Controversy Surrounding Masculinity And Femininity? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to oppress women, or are the very building blocks of sexual attraction at stake here? Relationship coaches Brody and Antia Boyd sit in with us to hit this issue with a big, heavy hammer once and for all. Is masculinity all about 'penetration'...and is that what angry women find so offensive? Meanwhile, why is it that a woman might pronounce masculinity as 'toxic', only to claim it for herself? Is it that femininity represents 'the weaker sex', or could it be that femininity is actually the higher calling? How do men reconcile political correctness with the wild popularity 50 Shades Of Grey? What is the 'JBBA Zone'? Is the new, evolved masculine role for men to 'hold the container'...and what does that mean, exactly? And most importantly...what really goes on at those sex toy parties for women? Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 51--X & Y On The Fly--How Can Couples Help Each Other Grow As Individuals? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and Theresa from Ownstream, who do a lot of thinking about this important subject. What's the difference between supporting someone to grow vs. trying to get them to change? If you know something's good for your partner, how do you get them to come along without forcing the issue? Is there a right way to frame a conversation with your partner that motivates both of you to grow more...together? We also discuss the importance of breaking away from the same-old patterns,and how to do that in the most productive way possible instead of disrupting a great relationship. Also, why predictability in a relationship might or might not be good for your relationship. As an added bonus, you get the world's most amazingly effective but counter-intuitive strategy for getting infants to fall asleep in the car. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 50--X & Y On The Fly--What We Have Here Is Failure To Communicate | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit in with us for a fast-paced (and hilarious, as usual) rant on 36-hour anniversaries, non-awkward silences, and seeing each other at our worst. Is being 'cordial' with each other a sign of trouble? Does throwing plates like in The Godfather count as 'communication'? More importantly...can you really 'go screw yourself' in a marriage? Discover the profound connection between communication and trust, plus find out how to keep your communication skills finely tuned so that you don't lose them. As always, check out the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 49--X & Y On The Fly--The Honeymoon Phase | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sarah Rudin from The Elite Man to join us for an epic breakdown of the infamous Honeymoon Phase? What is it anyway? And does it have to end? Is there really a stage BEFORE the Honeymoon Phase, and another (or several) after it? What happens if a couple forces a honeymoon to happen when they really should have broken up? Is getting cranky when you're hungry or tired a sign the Honeymoon Phase is fading away, or do you actually just need your morning coffee? Well, the novelty may wear off, but if you're fortunate (and built to last as a couple) you'll trade that for something even better...and yes, it's more than just love. All told, you can look forward to an unusually entertaining show full of laughs. And wait until you hear who gets to do the dishes from now on... Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 48--X & Y On The Fly--His Friends, Her Friends, Our Friends...Then NO Friends? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationship? In fact, how do you keep your friends in general? And what if the friend we're talking about here is your roommate? What are some solid strategies for couples who want to make friends with other couples? There are definitely some surprise pitfalls that you may have never considered before...all thrown out on the table in this triumphant return of the X & Y On The Fly Dating Podcast. By the way...throw any good parties lately? Welcome to yet ANOTHER way friendship dynamics change once you're in a relationship. Did we mention what happens when kids come along? Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 47--X & Y On The Fly--Parenthood: The Greatest Birth Control Method Ever | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After all, having children changes the dynamics of an allegedly romantic relationship between a man and a woman, so this is important stuff. And don't 'kid yourself' (pun intended), what's talked about in this episode matters A LOT whether you're a parent just yet or not. Be sure to 'like' our newly-updated Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Grab a free special report on reconnecting with 'old flames' on Facebook when you do. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 46--X & Y On The Fly--Is A Great Relationship Really A Lot Of 'Work'? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ON IT every single day.' But do we take that at face value without ever stopping to consider what that really means? And is it even TRUE to begin with? Listen in as Scot and Emily get down to the heart of the matter, dispelling old stereotypes while at the same time opening up entirely new 'cans of worms' in the process. Be sure to 'like' our new Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Join the community and enjoy tons of free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

 Episode 45--X & Y On The Fly--Open Relationships | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' policy of the rich and famous? Bisexual trysts? The creative possibilities appear to be endless. So is it true that couples who have an 'open relationship' are enjoying better sex lives? Are they happier overall? And do they actually trust each other more...or less? Scot and Emily swap opinions about all of that and more...but we'll let you figure out whether it's 'full swapping' or just 'soft swapping'. Guys, The Man's Approach is finally here. Check it out at: http://www.themansapproach.com. Ladies, discover the new, true you with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As they say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

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