The Art of Charm

Coaching athletes, or anyone for that matter, does not come with a simple one-size-fits-all approach, so what does effective coaching look like, what do you need to know about those you’re coaching, and who do coaches get coached by? What to Listen ForHow did Brett Bartholomew get started in the world of strength training and coaching?How do you get buy-in with athletes you’re coaching to make sure they follow your program without getting distracted by all the other information they’re bombarded with?What do you need to know about your athletes in order to best coach them and how do you tie it in with a responsible message?What is the Harvard 4 Drive Model and how can you start using it today to teach or coach more effectively?What 3 steps can you use to better relate to other people and build better relationships with coworkers, students, and athletes?How do you develop self-awareness and what should you look for in your own life to start with?What are the 3 stages of internal identification and how does it relate to the development of self-awareness?What is imposter syndrome and how do you deal with it so you don’t sabotage your career or relationships?What kind of coaches do coaches get coached by?What is the difference between being responsive and being reactive?How can you be more responsive without being reactive?How do you find your own motivation and help others find theirs?How do you stay motivated as a coach? There are a variety of factors that influence your ability to coach someone effectively. First and foremost, your athlete (or student) must trust and respect you, otherwise, she won’t believe you know what you’re doing. So you must build a working relationship with your athletes, and that means understanding their self-awareness levels, working together to identify their strengths and weaknesses, what drives them and what their ambitions are, and getting a feel for how each one learns best. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode The Art of Coaching with Brett Bartholomew Harvard 4-Drive Model - Harvard Business Review Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

We all know change can be hard, so embarking on a journey of self-development and transformation means there will be pain involved - but is it possible to endure pain without also suffering? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal throughout your journey, and what actionable steps can you take today to reduce the time and energy it might take to reach your transformation goals? What to Listen ForWhy is pain an unavoidable part of personal transformation, and what is the best way to approach such pain?What is the difference between pain and suffering?How do you figure out your values and why are they important when it comes to pursuing a fulfilling life?Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal on your journey toward self-actualization?Why is a reactive mindset counterproductive to happiness and fulfillment in life, and what steps can you take to turn your reactive mindset into a proactive one?What one question can you ask yourself to take back power and control over your life?How do you find meaning in terrible situations so you can thrive?What signs can you be on the lookout for to identify if you are struggling with resistance on your path to transformation?What 3 questions should you ask yourself in order to put your transformation goals into achievable steps? When you work out or train for an event, it’s important to push your body to its limits at various times so those limits can grow and you can improve as an athlete. You know when you are approaching those limits because of the pain you feel in your muscles, but if you stop when your muscles start to burn, you will not achieve the same results as someone who pushes through the pain to run the extra mile or get one more rep in. When confronting resistance or pain on your journey to self-actualization, you can choose to suffer in response, or you can recognize the value of the pain and push through it. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Resources from this Episode Episode 762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for Change Implementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple Plans How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Episode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness | w/ Russ Harris Episode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit | w/ Steven Hayes Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Transformation can be accidental or intentional, but if you are going to change and grow as a person, wouldn’t you want to have a say in how you grow and who you become? What to Listen ForWhy are only the courageous drawn to self-development?How do you turn envy into a motivator rather than trying to hide it or eliminate it?What question can you ask yourself to make feelings of envy work for you?What is experiential avoidance and how is it correlated with low levels of life satisfaction?What are “doomers” and “bloomers” and how do doomers become bloomers?What should be your next move if you reach a point in your life and realize you haven’t accomplished anything?Why might procrastination be doing more damage to your future than you think, and what can you do about it?If you want to change your future, where is the best place to start and why might it not be the place you think?What is the difference between living life on the offense and living life on the defense, and why does one of the two make it far more difficult to achieve your goals?How does the pursuit of self-actualization lead to a snowball effect?What is the 5-5-5 technique and how can it prevent you from falling into a powerless state of mind? Self-development is only for the courageous. You must have the courage to face yourself and be honest about who you are and what you want. You must have the courage to identify your weaknesses and ask for help so you know where to start and what to work on. You must have the courage to live life on the offense so you can take intentional steps every single day toward who you want to become, even if it means falling and getting back on the horse. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. The new eero (2nd generation) and eero Beacon allow a customer to build a WiFi system that’s more perfectly tailored to their home than ever before! Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter discount code CHARM Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off. Resources from this Episode Thus Spoke Zarathustra Procrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulation Episode 718 with Chris “Drama” Pfaff - Overcoming Social Anxiety in Your Career Power affects performance when the pressure is on: evidence for low-power threat and high-power lift Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Where do you even begin if you want to get better at meeting people? Improving your communication skills is an excellent place to start. Communication is important in relationships, and even more important when dating. We’ll dig into best practices, tips and strategies for dating and meeting new people with Dr Laura Berman. What to Listen ForWhat drew Dr. Laura Berman to relationship and sex therapy?What is the current state of sex ed in schools and why is it so inadequate?How does porn affect the way you get aroused and why is it doing more harm than good?What is the fundamental problem with the paradox of choice when it comes to dating and dating apps?Why is it so important to think about how you want someone to make you feel and how does clarifying that make dating easier?Can you use DNA to find your perfect match?What is the best way for you to approach dating in the #MeToo era?How quickly should you move from dating app to meeting and why is it risky to draw it out?Where can you practice conversational skills in low-risk areas and what happens if you don’t practice these skills?How should you go into dating as a parent and why is it so different?If you are dating as a parent, when is the best time to bring up that you have a child?What can I do if my mind goes blank every time I try to talk to someone I’m interested in?How do you keep the intimacy going in a long term relationship?What is the biggest behavioral predictor of sexual health in a relationship?What is the “want” underlying the desire to “spice it up” in the bedroom?What do you do if you realize your partner is no longer attracted to you?How do you rewrite your story so you can break out of dating the same type of people? Remember: A big part of having good communication is being honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you know what you like and don’t like, you know what you’re good at and what you’re not. That automatically filters out potential dates or relationships that come racing in from your dating app. And if you are honest with other people about who you are and what you want, it makes it easier for them to decide whether or not they want to keep spending time together. Being honest with yourself and with other people saves you headaches, confusion, and time - and time is the most valuable thing we have as human beings. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming.  Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you! Resources from this Episode Dr Laura Berman Quantum Love by Dr Laura Berman Dr Laura Berman on Facebook Dr Laura Berman on Twitter Dr Laura Berman on Instagram Dr Laura Berman on YouTube Uncovered Podcast with Dr Laura Berman Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Just as teenagers go through hormonal change and a reshaping of identity, matrescence operates in a similar fashion. Understanding and preparing for this life chapter can bring a more rich and meaningful experience to parenthood.

Dating can seem like a torturous uphill battle for many men and women, but it doesn’t have to be - understanding how and why we are attracted to one another can have a significant positive impact on your ability to find happiness in your love life, but how do you take the science behind attraction and use it to make dating fun and engaging? What is signaling theory?What are fitness indicators and why are they so important to understand in the dating scenario?What scientifically is shown to make you more attractive in terms of signaling?How much of our behavior is guided by natural selection and what does the answer imply about humanity?When you want to dance in a social setting, what is more important than being able to dance well?What are many people doing wrong when it comes to their profiles on dating apps?What should you include in your dating app profile?Should you get professional photos done to use on dating apps?Why are we entering a new era of dating and what can you do to ensure you’re able to adapt?Why is working out a crucial foundation to start with when it comes to working on yourself from a self-development perspective?What is a tender defender and why should you aspire to it?What does it mean to stay true to yourself and how might you be interpreting it in a way that sabotages your behavior?As a parent, how do you create an environment for your child to develop grit, success, and resilience when they reach the dating age? Remember that you are alive today because every one of your ancestors was able to find a partner and start a family. You have the genetics to find the relationship you want, but it will likely take work to find it. Not only is it important for you to want to work on yourself for the sake of striving to be the best version of yourself, but it’s also important for potential partners to see that in you, so they know you are open to new ideas and experiences as well as always wanting to work on being the best partner. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm. Proper Cloth makes it EASY for men to buy dress shirts that fit perfectly without setting foot in a store or paying a fortune. Get $20 off your first custom shirt by going to propercloth.com/aoc. Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. You can try Babbel for free. Download the app or text discount code CHARM to 484848.  Resources from this Episode The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller Geoffrey Miller’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Understanding social cues and nonverbal communication is arguably more important now than ever - but what does it mean to communicate with someone nonverbally, how much can you say with the delivery of words and the way you carry yourself compared to the words themselves, and why is it important to continue developing your social skills outside of dating and meeting people? What to Listen ForIs dating really just a numbers game?Why is initial chemistry a terrible way of determining compatibility and what should you look at instead?Why is the 20th-century version of dating no longer applicable in today’s way of life?How can you experience something together on the first date that contributes to cultivating chemistry?Why is physical contact so important when it comes to getting to know someone you’re interested in?What should you pay attention to when it comes to flirting, and what are most people incorrectly paying attention to?How does your body language communicate more about you than what you say and how do you improve it so you don’t self-sabotage when meeting someone you’re genuinely interested in?How do you listen with your eyes and ears and why is it so important when it comes to understanding what someone is communicating?How do many of us view flirting in a conversation and how is it doing more harm than good?What should you focus on when flirting with someone you’re interested in?How do you pick up on when someone is flirting with you?What signals can you look for to know when someone is interested in you?What is the difference between negative, neutral, and positive body language and when is each one important to display in a conversation? Social skills are arguably more important now than ever because of the way we have allowed technology to augment the way we communicate. We have mistakenly assumed the words we speak or write are the most valuable aspect of communication, and as a result, we aren’t impressing upon younger generations just how important it is to communicate with eye contact, tonality, physical contact, body language, and everything else that goes along with the words we use. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. You can try Babbel for free. Download the app or text discount code CHARM to 484848. Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Episode 742: The Hidden Power of Relationships Episode 743: Relationship Goals: Love, Friends & Work Episode 744: Dating Done Right With Evan Marc Katz Episode 757: The New Rules to Dating Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Dating has evolved due to the influence of technology and the way we communicate - but has the evolution been for the good of all, are all these options helping or hindering us, and why is it still just as important to meet face to face instead of trying to connect via text? What to Listen ForHow do dating apps remove the fun from dating and what can you do to make dating fun again?How do you create chemistry with someone you’re interested in?What are the three ways you can meet someone you might want to date?How do you decide where to meet new people who are more likely to be compatible with you?What are you doing to sabotage yourself every time you go out to meet new people?How do you become addicted to falling in love and what can you do if you feel you are?What is limerence and how does it prevent you from building healthy relationships?Texting is effective in 2 primary ways, so what are they and why should you avoid using it for other reasons?How can too much texting set you up for failure before meeting up with someone? The smartphone had a drastic impact on meeting new people and building connections. Texting has become the default form of communication for many, and now you can find new “matches” whenever you have a moment to open an app and glance at some pictures before swiping left or right. But meeting people through apps is just one of three ways you can expand your social circle and improve your dating life, and while texting is convenient, it is still vastly inferior to having a conversation face to face. This can put many of you in a situation where you’re always searching for that rush of meeting someone new. Unfortunately, when that rush dissipates and you don’t feel invested it can be too easy to simply find a new match, leading to many surface-level interactions instead of genuine long-lasting connections. There’s nothing wrong with surface-level interactions, but if you do want more meaningful connections then it’s important to take the time to get to know people and spend time with them in person. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. The new eero (2nd generation) and eero Beacon allow a customer to build a WiFi system that’s more perfectly tailored to their home than ever before! Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter discount code CHARM Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Resources from this Episode Episode 742: The Hidden Power of Relationships Episode 743: Relationship Goals: Love, Friends & Work Episode 744: Dating Done Right With Evan Marc Katz Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Relationships are built on trust, but that trust must be maintained over the years with intentional conversations to ensure that both people are on the same page - but how do you approach those conversations in a way that is healthy and promotes open & honest communication so that both of you are comfortable discussing uncomfortable topics?t What to Listen ForHow did Jill Coleman get into the fitness industry and find her calling?What can you do to overcome the negativity when it comes to having a public life?How many relationships actually survive infidelity?What can you look for to know whether or not it’s worth it to build a friendship with an ex-partner?What are the 2 parts to communication and why will your relationship fail if you don’t understand them?How do you stay focused on improving yourself rather than getting caught up in trying to fix other people?What is the difference between making something your fault and taking responsibility for it?What is the 3 S system to have an honest conversation about something you’re struggling to discuss?How do you set boundaries with someone when you’re not sure what the relationship is?How do you know when to have the conversation about intentions and expectations with someone you’re dating?If you’re feeling jealous or insecure about your partner, should you be honest about it?Why is it important to be able to trust yourself before you can trust other people?How do you deal with toxic relationships when there are children involved? Trust is an interesting facet of human interaction. We learn about people by having conversations with them, seeing how they react to a variety of events and circumstances, and understanding the way they make us feel. Trust is something that can take weeks, months, or years to build, can be lost in a moment, and sometimes can never be rebuilt. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Fundrise is the future of real estate investing. The platform’s innovations power an investor-first model by eliminating the bloated costs and middlemen that have traditionally weighed down real estate investing — saving you time and money. Visit fundrise.com/aoc to have your first 3 months of fees waived. Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Mother’s Day is almost here, and there’s one gift that thousands of moms have been calling the “best gift ever.” It’s called Skylight, and it’s a photo frame you can email photos to—any time, from anywhere. To get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame just go skylightframe.com and use discount code CHARM. Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Jill Fit website The Best Life Podcast Jill Coleman on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Many of us tend to overlook one of the greatest sources of wisdom in our lives - our elders - but how much can you learn from one simple conversation, what can you do to better connect with your elders, and what are the secrets to a long and happy life? What to Listen ForWhy is it important to maintain relationships with our elders and what can we learn from them, even in a technology dominated world?Are older generations facing the same level of loneliness that modern generations seem to be facing en masse?What do the elderly point to as secrets to a longer and happier life?What is one simple act you can do every time you run into someone you know that can strengthen the bond between you two?If you’re looking for a mentor, what can you do to approach an elder you’re interested in learning from?How do you connect with people from older generations if you feel you have nothing in common?What can you do to mend broken relationships before it’s too late?What simple mental exercise can you do to develop your sense of empathy when it comes to getting to know your elders? We live in an interesting time in human history. In many cultures around the world and for as far back as we can tell, the elders in a community have been revered for their experience and wisdom. But now, if you live in a country like the United States, you have undoubtedly seen or heard of our elders being treated as if they are “extra weight” we have to live with as a society. Retirement homes and nursing homes are ripe with older generations who are treated like stubborn patients rather than the wise and experienced members of society they are. But there is so much we can learn from our elders. The stories they can tell are the stories of past lives, of struggle and adversity, and the lessons only decades of experience can teach us. Remember the next time you encounter one of your elders, that reaching old age can feel lonely for many people. Friends have passed away. Family members and loved ones might only be checking in on occasion. Our elders are an untapped resource and need our presence in their lives just as much as we unknowingly need theirs. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Fundrise is the future of real estate investing. The platform’s innovations power an investor-first model by eliminating the bloated costs and middlemen that have traditionally weighed down real estate investing — saving you time and money. Visit fundrise.com/aoc to have your first 3 months of fees waived. Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. You can try Babbel for free. Download the app or text discount code CHARM to 484848. Proper Cloth makes it EASY for men to buy dress shirts that fit perfectly without setting foot in a store or paying a fortune. Get $20 off your first custom shirt by going to propercloth.com/aoc Resources from this Episode Life Lessons from the Oldest and Wisest David Romanelli Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is one of the most effective methods to increase psychological flexibility - but what exactly is ACT, how can it decrease the suffering in your life, and why is it so crucial to leading a happy and fulfilling life, especially in this day and age? What to Listen ForWhat is the bus driver metaphor and how can you use it to prevent your thoughts and feelings from controlling you?What is ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and why is it so effective?What one question can you ask yourself to determine why something is important to you?Why is it important to us to experience the full range of emotions, rather than just the good ones?How can you learn to appreciate negative feelings just as much as positive ones so you can decrease the suffering in your life?What can you do to turn negative feelings (like anxiety) into a guiding compass for what you want in life?What has been the biggest challenge with the way our lives have been infused with technology and what can you do to lessen the negative impacts?How dominant is the comparison of more versus less in our heads?What is the best way to start overcoming your anxiety, and why might it seem counterintuitive at first? What simple exercise can you do to transform your mental state whenever you want? Pain is unavoidable. One could argue it is the most important stimulus for change and growth in a person’s life. And if pain is that important, then having a mindset or method for dealing with pain can only benefit you in the long run. If you allow yourself to get hung up on painful moments and refuse to learn from them, then you will only increase the suffering you experience. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy helps individuals to shift their perspective on pain and suffering by improving their psychological flexibility. Think of it as a tree in a storm. If that tree is stiff, it will eventually snap under enough stress, but if the tree is flexible, no matter how hard the wind blows, the tree will simply bend until the storm has passed. Do you want to snap under the stress of life? Or do you want to bend, and come out the other side stronger and wiser? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language.You can try Babbel for free. Download the app or text CHARM to 484848. Access a World of Knowledge. Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm Go to stateandliberty.com and type in the code CHARM to get 10% off your first order or mention this podcast at any of their locations. Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to blinkist.com/aoc to start your FREE trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan. Resources from this Episode Episode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit Steven Hayes Episode 727: Sugar Ray Leonard Mental Brakes to Avoid Mental Breaks | Steven Hayes | TEDx How love turns pain into purpose | Steven Hayes | TEDx Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

In a world of seemingly limitless options, how can you know if a person is THE person for you, what questions can you ask yourself to determine if you’re even ready for a relationship, and how do you stop money from driving you two apart the way it does for countless relationships and marriages? What to Listen ForHow can you know who to settle down with in a world of seemingly limitless options?What are 3 questions to ask yourself to help you understand if you’re with the right person?Why is it detrimental to a relationship if you enter it with expectations for either one of you to change?How do you get a complete picture of someone to know whether he or she is someone you want to be in a relationship with?In what ways do you have to change your mindset to make a committed relationship work?What questions should you ask yourself to determine whether or not you’re ready for a relationship?How does your relationship with money impact your relationship with your significant other?What 3 step conversation can you have with your significant other so you both can understand each other’s relationship with money and save yourslf years of headaches and arguments?If you want your relationship to grow, where does that growth have to start?Why do people in relationships grow apart, how do you recognize it when it begins, and what can you do to stop it from breaking the relationship?What two factors are shown by science to be the greatest predictors of divorce in satisfied newly weds? To say relationships are complex is an understatement. We are all different, and we all have different needs and wants along with different expectations for how those needs and wants should be satisfied. This is why communication is crucial, both communication with yourself and communication with your significant other. If you want to give a relationship the best chance of success you must be willing to talk about your needs, wants, and expectations in any number of areas. Ask the right questions, ask the hard questions, and be willing to adapt and adjust to each other as you go through life. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Eight Sleep is the first bed engineered to improve your sleep through dynamic cooling and heating, detailed sleep tracking. For a limited time, get $150 off your purchase when you go to eightsleep.com/charm Resources from this Episode Uncertainty can cause more stress than inevitable pain 744: Dating Done Right With Evan Marc Katz Why do even satisfied newlyweds eventually go on to divorce? Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Uncertainty is an unavoidable part of life, and for many, it can feel overwhelming - but what important lessons can your relationship with uncertainty teach you, how can you improve the relationship with uncertainty, and what are some real-world examples of handling uncertainty in a positive way? What to Listen ForHow can purpose help you overcome and push through uncertainty in life when making big decisions as well as small decisions?What exercise can you start doing now to help you deal with anxiety and uncertainty in your everyday life?How does indecisiveness impact the feeling of uncertainty in life and what can you do if you have a bad relationship with indecisiveness?What is the best advice for someone entering a leadership role at work for the first time?Why is communication so important in a leadership or management role and what tips can you start implementing today to improve your team’s productivity?What do many of us do to contribute to a toxic work environment and what can you do to start reversing the damage before it’s too late?How do you make friends when moving to a new city where you don’t know anyone?What easy questions can you use at the next meetup or networking event to spark conversations with new people?What’s the best way to follow up with new contacts after a networking event?What is the Social Sales Funnel and why is it so effective at building new friendships and relationships no matter where you live? As humans, we evolved to look for patterns in order to feel more secure about our surroundings, because a lack of familiarity in the wild could mean you are not in a safe location. Uncertainty makes its appearance in the form of not knowing how something will turn out - that job interview, the presentation at work, the third date with your new crush, whether or not you’ll be able to sell the house in time, etc. The list goes on forever because there is an infinite number of events to be uncertain about, and depending on how attached you are to the event (or more likely, the outcome of the event), the more stress and anxiety the uncertainty can cause you. It is critical to your future happiness and success to be comfortable with the discomfort uncertainty brings because life is full of uncertainty and there is no way to eliminate it from your life. Start building a positive relationship with uncertainty today and you will certainly be closer to a more enjoyable life tomorrow. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Visit dukecannon.com right now and get 15% off your first order with the promo code CHARM. Free shipping on orders over $35. Go to stateandliberty.com and type in the code CHARM to get 10% off your first order or mention this podcast at any of their locations. Resources from this Episode Uncertainty can cause more stress than inevitable pain Episode 743: Relationship Goals: Love, Friends & Work Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

Your habits and systems determine how successful you can become, but what habits and systems can you implement in your professional life and personal life to reduce unnecessary stress and frustration while creating more space in your calendar and your mind to focus on the important things? What to Listen ForWhat role do habits and systems play in determining your potential for success?How do you balance life and work as an entrepreneur?What is David Henzel’s definition of happiness and how can you use his approach to happiness to help strengthen your own?What can you start doing today to take the pressure off of you in situations ranging from one-on-one settings all the way to a public speaking event?How do you build trust with someone you care about when he or she starts pulling away?If you recognize toxic behavior in yourself, what can you do to deal with it so you stop causing damage to the relationships in your life?How do you set boundaries without coming across as harsh or rude?What can you do to start making friends after school or outside of work and church?How can you use Facebook Ads to network, make friends, and even find a date?What red flags should you look for when making friends or looking for dates in order to save yourself time and heartache?How do you allow someone back into your life who used to be toxic and is clearly making an effort to improve? Balance can be a difficult goal to hit because of how often things in our lives change. Friends and relationships come and go. Work will always have highs and lows and many of us jump from job to job every few years. Money comes and goes. Our hobbies and interests evolve over time. Our bodies age and demand different levels of care from us.  Throughout all of this, it’s important for our mental, emotional, and physical well being that we maintain some semblance of balance.  Socializing is important, meaningful work is important, relaxing is important, working out is important, exposing yourself to new people and new ideas is important, but spending all of your time on any one of those things can lead to feeling burnt out, eventual boredom, loneliness, and any number of dire physical ailments stemming from not having a well-rounded healthy lifestyle. Follow your passion and do what you love, but don’t let the rest of your life fall by the wayside. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Problems hiring? ZipRecruiter is the highest-rated hiring site in America. Try for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/charm where ZR will send your job to 100+ of the web’s leading job boards. Eight Sleep is the first bed engineered to improve your sleep through dynamic cooling and heating, detailed sleep tracking. For a limited time, get $150 off your purchase when you go to eightsleep.com/charm Visit dukecannon.com right now and get 15% off your first order with the promo code CHARM. Free shipping on orders over $35. Are you sick and tired of paying high interest rates on your credit cards? Go to lightstream.com/charm Resources from this Episode Meetup.com David Henzel David Henzel on Twitter David Henzel on Facebook David Henzel on LinkedIn David Henzel on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

If you want to pursue your own happiness and fulfillment you are bound to make decisions that confuse or disappoint the people around you, which can lead to doubt and uncertainty in your own head, so what can you do to stay focused on your goals, how do you handle the mixed emotions of those around you, and why can trying to live up to the expectations of others lead to a life of endless regret? What to Listen ForWhy does Jay Shetty give credit to Eminem for the way he approaches storytelling?AJ asks Jay how he made the decision to become a monk at such a young age, leaving everything he knew behindHow did Jay Shetty’s fun-filled successful life in London finance compare to his modest living as a monk in India?What 3 things did Jay Shetty notice in the person who inspired him to pursue life as a monk, and why are they so important to be happy?How do you deal with the toxic people you cut out of your life before achieving some success but who later want back in once they see how successful you’ve become?Jay touches on how to handle doubt and resistance from the people you love when you want to make a life-changing decisionHow do you deal with self-doubt and perfectionism when you’re trying to consistently create content with a far-reaching impact?Why is it easier said than done to “Just be yourself” and what tips can you start using now to be more comfortable being you?How are your passion, purpose, and happiness inextricably linked, and how can you develop your passion into a purpose to build your happiness?If you love telling stories, how do you turn that love into full-time work?How do you curate an inner circle you can trust and rely on for support as well as honest feedback and advice? You only get one life. You know this, but many of us don’t live our lives with that understanding in mind. It’s an important idea to comprehend for one simple fact: you don’t live anyone else’s life, and they don’t live yours. If you want to be happy and fulfilled you must make the decisions you want to make and not the decisions other people want you to make. No matter what you do, there will be people who are going to question you and doubt you, which is why it’s critical you believe in yourself and make your dreams priority number one. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Squarespace is the all-in-one solution for anyone looking to create a beautiful website. Check out squarespace.com/CHARM for a free trial and when you’re ready to launch, use the offer code CHARM to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today. Go to stateandliberty.com and type in the code CHARM to get 10% off your first order or mention this podcast at any of their locations. Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter CHARM Resources from this Episode Episode 748: 7 Signs of a Toxic Relationship The Journey Home by Radhanath Swami The Bhagavad Gita by Eknath Easwaran Jay Shetty on Instagram Jay Shetty on Twitter Jay Shetty on Facebook Jay Shetty’s Podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram