Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt

We are celebrating one year of talking about the art of friendship around the world. And today we have with us what I promised on the very first show "The Mentor" that explains this whole podcast; that our girls would be in on the episodes. They have been working behind the scenes and the past year have become introverts (can you blame them, with all that's happened in the world the past 2 years?  If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Birthday episode - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Here we are everyone. Hello? Hello. Hi everybody. Welcome to our friendly world. We are celebrating one year of talking about goodness, one year of talking on the air around the world. And today we have with us what I promised on my very first show. I say my, because that shows just me talking our very first episode called the mentor that explains this whole podcast. That's what I meant by my show, but I had promised that it would be the family and the girls would be in on the episodes. And what turned out was they were behind the scenes. They didn't want to talk. They became quite antisocial is not the word for it, but they what's a, what's a, what's the word for it? Introvert. Yeah, but everybody here they are Martine. I promised here they are. Martina has been wanting to hear you guys. So here we are everybody. I'd like to [00:01:00] introduce you all to our lovely littles little ladies. We haveElle: [00:01:06] Elle: hello [00:01:08] Fawn: and Alegra: [00:01:10] Allegra: Whats up? [00:01:11] Fawn: Fabulous. Oh my God. You guys come on. We need to speak. You guys have been very quiet. We've all been very still this , past year. Quite still. We've been very centered. And yet at the same time, we've been making friends from around the world. We've met so many of our family members, family, as in the family that we create a family circle of friends from around the world. There's a list now, that we can truly call family members. I thought we would start the show off today by getting in the word celebration. Are you ready? I wanted to talk about ceremony, but it just seemed so serious. I like the word celebration better and what it is, it's just gathering, it speaks of honoring [00:02:00] of a day or season by appropriate festivities. That celebration. And I want to say, I started to truly celebrate when you and I got together, Matt!. I mean, I would celebrate my birthday, but I wouldn't have parties ever. I would always have my alone spot. It was usually at the channe

This episode came about as we had a guest that was so hateful and wrongly accused Matt of "manipulation" because he likes to present people with favors. Wanting to clear things up from that conversation, Fawn wanted to make sure Matt explained (before he was so rudely cut off), one of the many ways to really connect with people.   This one act is something that you can do, to kindly, respectfully, and compassionately relate to people. And it's a simple thing; one that is really important for everyone to know about. This is also to correct a wrong that was done to Matt (referring to a rude guest we had). We're talking about a favor.  Do you know what "favor" actually means? the etymology, the origin, the Latin which is spelled FAVERE.   The etymology, the background, the root of favor originally means: show kindness. Isn't that beautiful?  If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace     The Favor - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Matt: Doin' a favor? [00:00:01] Fawn: What'd you say [00:00:04] Matt: doing a favor? [00:00:06] Fawn: This is another followup show. I feel like too, um, a conversation that we had that I feel like I need to fix, , sometimes you talk to people and it really messes you up, [00:00:19] Matt: indeed. [00:00:20] Fawn: I mean, I mean, I mean, my God, so there's something that I've been. Wanting to clear up from another conversation, you were trying to say something and I knew what you were about to say, but you were so abruptly cut off and disrespected. And this time it wasn't me. [00:00:42] Matt: People find the need to, put themselves too much in the conversations and try and cut things short [00:00:47] Fawn: and yet

We begin with Socrates and the history and meaning of "APOLOGIA". How we should defend what we believe is true. We use Socrates as an example of the result of what happens when we go against the status quo. How can we stay safe and sane?And when mistakes happen, how do we apologize?  How should we apologize? When is it ok not to apologize?  We discuss the reasons why we fight and how we can reach a loving point.  If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Here we go, here we go. Do you even know, do you even understand when you come up behind me and you scare the heck out of me when I'm in the kitchen and I'm deep in thought and I jump, am holding my heart and I feel traumatized because all of a sudden you're like you just come up from out of nowhere. It seems from my perspective, And it scares the hell out of me. And then you get mad. Then we get into a fight because really all I need is an apology. Like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. [00:00:37] Matt: Oh, timeout, timeout, timeout. I'm just walking up to you. I'm not trying to scare you. I'm [00:00:43] Fawn: just walking up. Here we go again, link. You know what? I don't even remember all of our fights. Like we have so many fights that miraculously, I don't even remember the fights. I just remember the general sense of annoyance and, [00:01:00] and like rage, but honey, all you have to say once you realize I have calmed down is I'm sorry. Oh my God. Are you all right? Oh, no. Look at you. You, I totally startled you... like admit it, but you don't, you immediately go into a state of you're on trial and you're fighting for your, your, your perspective, your proving that you're right. Even though [00:01:31] Matt: I didn't do anything. See, [00:01:33] Fawn: that's the that's you did. Do... you scared me!!!!. Okay. [00:01:39] Matt: There's intent. Oh my God, your honor. [00:01:42] Fawn: All right, so good morning, everybody. Good evening. Good afternoon. Can I just say thank you, France. France is awesome. France has been such a loyal listener country like outside of the United States and you know what? [00:02:00] And so, so many other countries around the world. Thank you all for listening, please, please. If you could leave us a kind review on one of the platforms. When you go on our website, our friendly world.com, please. It helps out our show, which already you have helped so much. Thank you for listening everyone. Anyway, back to our fight. You ready? Oh dear. So we are always fighting. We love each other, but we're always fighting, but really the fight happens because It's to me, from my perspective, it's about all the making of excuses instead of just apologizing. And so when was it a, was it a few weeks ago or a few months ago at time is very weird for me. [00:02:50] Matt: Time is fairly fluid. Yeah. [00:02:51]

 Bonsai trees are intended to bring the core aspects of nature: balance harmony, and simplicity. It's said that when we consider the natural flow of the environment, these three characteristics, should anything occur to disrupt it (nature) will always restore itself. There is always a natural harmonic balance to things. In looking at the trees and their scale, on so many levels we can realized how much bigger the trees are than manmade structures. And if you look at it, a tree (nature), is way, way, more massive than anything that we make. The act of caring for bonsai trees is nurturing in its profound sense. And when giving from the heart, the giver benefits as much as the receiver. By bonding through nature, the Bonzai plant's meaning is enriched and it becomes our teacher. I thought that was beautiful. And it calls to friendship too; all relationships, by bonding, by bonds, things are enriched and it's a teaching moment. We teach each other. The more we provide and nurture for one, the other also reciprocate, not always in the sense that we expect, but it is going back to that circle. When you care, you are cared for. What you seek is seeking you.  If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, we are here. So are the birds. Can you hear him? [00:00:05] Matt: That's like a Yodel bird. [00:00:06] Fawn: I know there are all kinds of wildlife outside [00:00:12] Matt: and, but we actually have our windows open because it's actually not [00:00:14] Fawn: boiling hot out. Right. I want to say there has been a moving a migration , if you will, of all kinds of wildlife coming to the tree right outside our window, because. The food, the bird seeds, we have chosen. It's a whole new community out there. It's wild. [00:00:34] Matt: And it's waking you up first thing in the morning, isn't it? [00:00:37] Fawn: Well, yeah, I've been having insomnia again, so like right when I go to sleep, then it feels like the birds are like, hello, all kinds. And I don't know what they're saying. They're shouting all kinds of stuff. Speaking of nature, are you ready for today's episode? I'm never ready. Hello friends. Hello everybody. Today, we are talking about how we [00:01:00] grow and the bonsai tree. Are you ready? All right, here we go. So bonsai trees are intended to bring the core aspects of nature and there's three. We have balance harmony. And simplicity. It's said that when we consider the natural flow of the environment, these three characteristics; balance, harmony and simplicity are always present. And if anything occurs to disrupt nature, it will always restore itself. You can take that however way. You know, we talk about how we're messing up the environment or big, so filthy, dirty, irresponsible, best believe nature will take care of itself. The earth will still be here, but it doesn't mean whoever's polluting it will, right. I mean, it can be really, it can really smack you, but it will, [00:02:00] but isn't that the law. Everything that everything will restore itself. [00:02:08] Matt: There is I think a natural harmonic balance to things, but that doesn't mean that that harmonic balance won't completely get flipped on its, butt supposedly and God knows it hasn't happened certainly in our lifetimes. And it probably won't in subsequent lifetimes, but magnetic north sometimes flips to the south pole. Yes. What the heck? Well, that seems very out of bounds. [00:02:32] Fawn: But things move right? You need to flip and move, but then there's no harmony, but isn't that the whole cycle of the cir

The English word ego is the Latin word for, “I”.  Literally translated, ego means "I". If you were to write, "I love you" in Latin, you would write "ego amo te"   It's interesting how people feel  the need of having that triumph over you. Why does that happen? It probably comes from some trauma where the person did not feel as important. So they have to really hold up that part of themselves to say, “I am important.” Perhaps what we need is rituals in our society where when you do something (you accomplish something) that you have a party about it, like a ceremonial "yay. I did it!”    If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace   Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] You who can help you? It's you and me, baby. Oh, yay. It's been awhile since goodness. Matt: [00:00:08] Wait, wait. We've actually started. I thought we were doing another Fawn: [00:00:12] . Oh dear. You ready? Do you have any idea what I'm going to bring up today? I think it could be ego. It could be it's ego, ego. Okay. Brought to you by our lovely sponsors. We don't have any sponsors, but brought to you by some experience we had the last week. Matt: [00:00:35] Oh dear. So I take it. We're just going to go for it then. Right. Well Fawn: [00:00:38] kind of going to go for it without naming any names. All right. So today is people and their ego. All right. And you've had to deal with that because of your work situation. Right? Matt: [00:00:52] Okay. So it's my fundamental belief. I mean, as a, as a computer programmer, you know, we sit at a keyboard, we [00:01:00] type some random gibberish in and things happen and we build things that people use and people say, wow, this is great. Thank you so much. And people find bugs and make us feel bad. And then we fix the bugs and that makes us feel good. Computer programmers are incredibly credible egomaniacs because we do this. We build for a living and we get all these strokes and we get all this other stuff. Fawn: [00:01:23] You know what everybody, every industry has that every industry has the ego everywhere you go. There is ego. And I have a theory about that. My theory is when people are not heard and they don't feel seen that's when things get out of hand with the ego. Okay. Here's the atomology of ego that will actually bring some light to this. What I'm talking about? Ego.  The English word ego is the Latin word for, I literally translated ego means "I", if you were to write, "I [00:02:00] love you" in Latin, you would write "ego amo te" Matt: [00:02:08] god, that's very aside from the word ego, that's very similar to like Spanish. So Fawn: [00:02:12] some guesses and then where Spanish comes from. Hello, Latin. All right. So we, we, we, I don't know how to say this, but recently we came across a major ego.  And it was painful.  It took me a while to get over it. I had Tourette's in the shower. I was walking around the apartment, like just bursting things out loud. Like I, I was initially so hurt. I felt spanked by this person. Right. And it was so we were trying to figure out what it was. And really, even though this person came across or appears out in the world as like, uh, a very [00:03:00] substantial, knowledgeable together kind of person, it was, I realized, wow, this person is in pain and they want to be heard. And perhaps we didn't stroke the ego wanted or expected us to,

This episode we focus on Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times and we begin with the etymology of revolution: to turn; to roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family; the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution. Revolution is also a change in paradigm. Evolution is an opening of what was a rolled up and opening of what was rolled up. We discuss the  cause of fear and division. Fawn gives the example of Santa Monica and how the utopia bubble was getting thin, when things became more (here's the four letter word - "busy"), where people began becoming more and more busy, didn't play as often, didn't have happy hour meals as often and began to get quiet in conversation. The family began to dwindle. The free, wild, uncontrollable laughter  didn't happen as much. Things felt more and more serious and soon began that new normal.   So what's the lesson here and this tiny bit of time in this tiny bit of community is the basis for our conversation today? How does revolution ignite in a peaceful heart? How can we turn it around? Here at our friendly world, we always say that friendship is the key to what ails our society. It is the key to social economic and racial conflict. Because when we see  how supported we are, that we are better, stronger together, as we say, we help each other with all aspects of life, we are wealthy, we are not alone and we value each other.     TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Hi, again, I'm so excited I  picked up this book just a little bit ago. Right. And, um, the way I came across this book was really crazy because I was researching something that has nothing to do with anything, but somehow, I mean, whoa, wait a second. Matt: [00:00:21] I would say it's kind of central to Fawn: [00:00:23] everything. Okay. What was happening was I was doing research for something that kind of had something to do with the podcast, but anyway, in a universal roundabout way, I was guided to this book and I got it right away. I'm like, I can't believe that, that title. Okay. I've actually talked about this book on the last episode we totally got into it.  This  person is here today. I will introduce him in just a second, but you know, I like to  give you nuggets of wisdom.  I'm obsessed with etymology of words and everything and trying to figure out how in the heck did this happen.  I looked up revolution and I promised like, [00:01:00] I wouldn't use words like that on this podcast, but here I go. Okay. The etymology of a revolution, I can't even say it it's to turn; to roll back. Now, remember that turn roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally  meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family, you know, the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution, another meaning is the rotation of a celestial body on its axis motion of any figure about a center or access. Okay. Like a sudden radical. I know it was just getting too wordy, whatever, whatever a sudden radical or a complete change. Also a change in paradigm. And then I'm like, okay, well what about [00:02:00] evolution, revolution, evolution? And  to me , it looks like the same thing to me, evolution and revolution.  Evolution, remember I said revolution. Remember it means turn roll back. It's interesting because

Heather Lawrence joins us as we discuss the art of the plan and what it is. What's the plan?  How do you know it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there truly free will?  What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose as apposed to someone else's thing; how do we know it's your deal or if it's feeling FOMO.  Is there, is there a grand scheme? Is there a divine plan? How do we become  a vibrational match to the plan that we have been wanting? Can we plan? Should we be planning? You always hear that phrase. You know, if you want to hear God laugh, make a plan.  Aren't we working as a team here? Heather explains how the universe wants to get us to accept things the way they are not reject the way they are. How can we get through it all???? How to be an authentic match to your dreams. How to be in alignment This episode we ask the questions and ponder the answers. To reach Heather: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_advizer/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theadvizerr/videos/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_advizer111?lang=en     Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Welcome to our friendly world. Hello? Hello? Hello. What is the plan, Matt? What's the plan. If I take a nugget of wisdom. Okay. You just asked me what nugget would you use today? Yes. So today's episode, everyone is called the art of the plan and we have a special friend with us that I'll introduce you to in just a second, but the art of a plan. I mean, I never wanted to go back to LA. That was not my plan. When do you know, it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there free will. I mean, you know, sometimes most of my life I feel like, okay, I know, I feel that the right thing, I feel the answer. I know the universe, you know, I feel like I'm part of it. So of course I know what's up, but sometimes I'm like, well, what, what is it like what's happening? What is, is there a plan? Because [00:01:00] I don't know. Sometimes I just don't know. What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose? You know, your true purpose from something. You you're drawn to, it could be someone else's thing. Right. And you're looking at them and you're feeling FOMO. So you think their plan is your plan. Do you know what I'm saying? Matt: [00:01:25] Yeah, no, no, no, no, absolutely. You can get totally sucked into somebody's reality in many ways that  if somebody is really into something and like you hang out with them, then all of a sudden you're like, wow, that's super cool. Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God. And you may think that, you should just stop doing what you're doing and start doing what this other person's doing for sure. Fawn: [00:01:42] Yeah. I, I equate it. I equate everything to eating. So it's like going to a restaurant and you think, you know what you want to order. And then someone orders tiramisu, and you're like, I want Tiramisu too. Matt: [00:01:52] I remember going to a sushi place and ordering a certain kind of sushi. And then all of a sudden, everybody around me started ordering it. It was quite funny. [00:02:00] Fawn: [00:02:00] So how do you know that that's happening? Some bizarre things happen in life. Some hard things happen in life and there must be a purpose to it all. Is there a purpose purpose of that? I can't even stay at purpose. Is there, is ther

One of our favorite friends is back! Maya Breuer joins us again as we further explore the art of community. We begin with a quote from the movie, "Your Name":  "They assemble and take shape. They twist, tangle, unravel now and then, break and reconnect. That's what a union is; what time is." We've been really delving into the art of community here and really trying to hone in on exactly what community is and how we can have it, how we can create it, how we can continue with it,  with the changing times and everything. Community is society, it's a fellowship, it's a kind of public spirit and to an embrace, a place of connection, a place where we are not alone, a place of enrichment.  It is a home of safety and protection. It is about being stronger and happier and having the sense of wellbeing. It is about being heard and getting acknowledged and VALUED.  It is about feeling supported, respected, cared for and having this feeling of love for each other. It is about compassion and love.   TRANSCRIPT: Transcript-285 [00:00:00] Maya: [00:00:00] Her mother taught me the way she taught her. Nice. But I w as I got as my mother and I reconnected years later, she taught me special things because she was a terrific cook, but it was my grandmother who led the way. Nice. Yeah. Fawn: [00:00:16] Not you Matt, right. Those ladies did not like anything to do with like the home, Matt: [00:00:24] the day, every single meal. Put it in the oven for 350 for an hour Maya: [00:00:30] now. Oh, was it? Uh, oh no, they just Fawn: [00:00:36] to this day, like Matt has been Matt and I have been together longer than he's been with his family. And to this day he's still traumatized and we can't eat certain things because it makes him remember childhood. So, you know, I'm middle Eastern. So of course there's fresh beets and garlic and onions. And. And, you know, like raw veggies and all kinds of stuff. And he's like, I [00:01:00] can't do that. I can't have the watermelon, I can't have this. I can't have watermelon, Matt: [00:01:04] had nothing to do with my family, but it had to do with your childhood and your stuff stuck on it. But Maya: [00:01:10] you know, it, it really takes a while to get over childhood stuff. I mean, how much longer is it going to take? How much longer is it going to take? Sometimes you never get over it. You know, when I was kid. I grew up with my grandparents and my aunt. And they would do this thing where all the, if, if other people came every other fancy stuff got shared and then like, like I re I like today I can not eat a broken cookie because we, they would go to the market and buy bags of broke. You know, you could buy a bag of broken cookies. I love the Fawn: [00:01:50] Dale Maya: [00:01:51] bakeries and that was for the kids. And then we also had bagged fruit. I can't eat bagged fruit or broken [00:02:00] cookies. Oh Maya. We need, I could eat it, but I'm just, um, what do you call it? I'm rebelling. I must have a whole cookie. I must have a fresh piece of fruit that does not isn't stapled in a bag and at a lower price Fawn: [00:02:16] you deserve, you deserve. A whole cookie. Maya: [00:02:20] I deserve a whole cookie and they, and, um, you know, they were my grandparents. They will lovely. I realized they were just trying to make ends meet, but still, I Fawn: [00:02:30] didn't like it. I wonder about Elle and  Alegra because that's what we do when we go t

A rant on dissatisfaction and the desire to really live life! Fawn needs your support on this one.   Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] We weren't supposed to record today. We weren't. No, because,  not because of the show, but I've been experiencing burnout, major burnout, not because of the show. This show gives me life, but check it out. So the book I'm reading burnout. Um, Matt: [00:00:19] hi, this is a hi this is Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt Fawn: [00:00:24] welcome to our friendly world. It doesn't feel so friendly for me right now. I woke up dissatisfied, Matt: [00:00:30] but the world is opening back up. Fawn: [00:00:31] It is, I went to bed mad at you. I woke up even more mad at you. And then we got into a little fight. And during our fight, I said, you know what? Let's record our fight. Let's just record what we're talking about. Cause it's not a fight the way you think of a fight. The way we fight is we fight the way we do. Just our, whatever, here, here it goes, guys. So emotional exhaustion as defined by, these two ladies who wrote the book "Burnout, The [00:01:00] secret of Unlocking the Stress C ycle, Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA. What, what do you want to see? The clever they're twins. Okay. Let's rock. All right. So there are three components of emotional exhaustion, which is what burnout is. Okay. Okay. So number one, emotional exhaustion, the fatigue that comes from caring too much for too long. So when you're worried about someone you love it, doesn't go away. You're a parent. You're worried. You're frickin worried all the time, never ending.  Personalization is number two, the depletion of empathy, caring and compassion. Number three is decreased sense of accomplishment and unconquerable sense of futility, feeling that nothing you do makes any difference. I feel number one and number [00:02:00] three, I don't feel number two because empathy is totally there. Compassion is totally there. I feel a decreased sense of accomplishment and I want to cry just saying that, and I feel emotionally exhausted and the way we start our morning together, cause you wake up so much earlier than I do, but then I go to bed at 3 30, 4 o'clock, five o'clock in the morning sometimes.  And then I wake up early. So I just woke up just upset. And I, the, the way we started our day together was you came in and we started talking and I said, Matt, I am done. I'm done waiting. I want to live my life. We've been waiting for 16 years. Sure, we've done things. We've had different moves. We've had children, you know, we've made things happen, but it feels like we are waiting. You're waiting on [00:03:00] the perfect job opportunity. I'm waiting for things to take off with my career. I am waiting for this. I'm waiting for that. You're waiting for it your way. All we do is wait and I feel so dissatisfied. And so what's the third one decreased sense of accomplishment. And one of the things we were talking about today this morning was, I don't. I never wanted to live in Colorado. I don't understand this place. And even though I grew up in California and part of my college education was in Northern California. And then we ended up there for a couple minutes, which was what, two years? Right around the Sausalito area. It was not okay for me.  Sorry, California. Sorry, Colorado. But honestly, even though Santa Monica is in California, I know guys, but when I... help me figure this out. So this episode today, I want your [00:04:00] help, friends listening  out there,  can you please email me and talk to me because I seriously can't

This is an episode dedicated to our favorite word: PHYLOTIMO. Philotimo is an all encompassing concept that gives meaning to life that stretches well beyond ourselves, as that deep seated awareness in the heart that motivates the good that a person does. Philotimo  is a sense of duty to your fellow human being. It is about love and friendship. It's about giving and it's about honor. And when you break it down in Greek, Philo means friend timo means honor. We talk about the geography of where Phylotimo was born in history and how that very same spot is paying it forward in modern times. We ask individual questions from our expert friends at the table, like: Of Matt we ask what tech or programs help us to be of service to our fellow human beings? We ask Paul to give us some meditation tools to provide us all with philotimo. We ask Katy how food can help us with phylotimo. Of Beth we ask for visualization tools to bring about this way of honor. I (Fawn) talks about communication and language in relation to phylotimo.  We tie the episode with KJ’s expertise and her wisdom of observation to teach us they ways in which we can encourage phylotimo.   TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Here we go. Hello? Hello. Hello. I always forget to say you're here because obviously you're here with me. Hi Matt. Okay. So we are here with Matt cohart. We have Katy, Katy LoSasso. Hi Katy!. We have KJ KJ. Nasrul is here, everyone. And we have our beautiful Paul Martin Lotus. Hello everybody. So my favorite thing is filo dough. Oh dear. I love it. It's it's probably one of the only things that I'll actually get, because I like to make everything from scratch and having dissected this word dissect. Having broken this word down that I'm about to say, I [00:01:00] was like, wow. It's I feel like Homer Simpson filo dough, because, okay. Okay. So the word today's subject is Philotimo and my beautiful Greek friends, please, can you call me, I'm sure I'm mispronouncing it. philotimo philotimo Philo Timo phyllo, Timo. There is an island  it's the third largest island in Greece. It's called Lesvos.  I think it was around 1922 with all the strife that was happening; the Ottoman empire, everything was breaking down in that area. You know, world war one was just, there was such devastation. So,  this group of people from they call it Asia minor,  went to this island Lesbos. And it's actually where Aristotle had been many, many, many, many, many years before. And the greatest inspiration  throughout history of all the [00:02:00] scholars and everything came from Aristotle. And Aristotle's, apifany of this beautiful land, this beautiful island of Lesvos, everything originates from this place. So going back to the word, Philotimo  I'm telling you about this because these people sought refuge to this island and the island embraced them. And so the entire population pretty much that lives, there are direct descendants of the people that had to flee asia minor. Yeah.  And they started their own culture, their own  beautiful life. And it's really interesting, pretty much, a hundred years later, they now are paying it forward because the people that live here and I think it's illegal, but they have been embracing the people that are fleeing Turkey that are running for their lives and their arms are open [00:03:00] much like the Island's arms were open to them a hundred years before. And they'll talk about this and they'll, they'll talk about filo Timo and what, what it is. Philotimo. Philotimo is an all encompassing concept that gives meaning to life that stretches well beyond ourselves, as that deep seated awareness in the heart that motivates the good that a person does. A philotimos person is one who conceives and enacts eagerly those things good. That's the definition. Was

"There is geometry in the humming of the strings. There is music in the spacing of the spheres." - Pythagoras We are graced by the lovely Maya Breuer,  host of The Unity in Yoga podcast. She is, also the co-founder of the black yoga teachers Alliance, an Emeritus trustee of Kripalu and the creator of the yoga retreat for women of color. Maya is a recipient of the YWCA's Women of Achievement Award. This our beautiful friend, is Maya Breuer. Maya Breuer continues to demonstrate commitment to educating the black and indigenous and people of color community B I P O C about health and wellbeing through yoga. She enthusiastically promotes equity and continues to influence the changing landscape of yoga. We speak of acceptance of you who we are and where we are. And when you get grounded in that acceptance of self, it doesn't matter what anyone says. We get into how we’re reared in the United States to always compare ourselves and each other. “ I love that I have self-acceptance. I mean, I can be neat. I can be sloppy. I can, I can be soft and gentle. I can cuss you out. You know, I live my life out loud and I think yoga gives, you know, contrary to what many people think, you know; yoga is gonna make you this, this quiet, sweet person. Yoga enables you to be who you really are. And then the more you practice, the more you delve into yoga, you let go of that thing, which I call comparison; comparing yourself with others. It's like, Oh, that's the model. I should look that way. And I'll never look that way. You know, looking at many of the models, although today there's models of every color and every shape and size, but I had to, you know, I had to accept myself and it was the yoga that really taught me how to accept myself. “   Hall of Fame Quote from the episode:  -“I've learned by learning to love myself, I can love others.” -“Breath combined with the movement helps move good and bad, some samskara and those are impressions. Yoga, breath, consciousness, awareness, relaxation; those are the tools we get to help us find ourselves; the true self.” -“The more you develop that inner Popeye, that's connected to the divine, that's connected to your deep inner self, the more you can accept others, but the more you're free to have all of your  self available for life.” -“Yoga is like a smart computer chip.  You simply inject like, you take it in and it can come through your skin, your tissues, all your breath. And then it goes to where it needs to go. If you need it in your hip, you need it in your belly, you need it in your chest area, and it’ll find its way there if you take up the practice. The same, if you have challenges with your health, with addiction, with dullness, yoga will help you. It's such a smart computer chip.”   Maya Breuer: https://www.yogaalliance.org/Membership_Benefits/Unity_in_Yoga https://www.linkedin.com/in/maya-breuer-a002b65/ http://www.mayabreuer.com/     Transcript: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, here we go. Another  star struck moment for me, honestly. , Matt helped me out because I don't want to do what I normally do, which has profess my love. Maya: [00:00:13] It's way too late. Fawn: [00:00:16] The whole episode will just be me saying how much I love this person. Okay. All right, here we go. Thank you. All right. We have a very beautiful guest today, someone I've been wanting to talk to for a very long time. She I'm going to

Do you think it's a bad thing to be so interconnected? We are living in a time where we see, hear, and feel everything we are all (as a collective and individually) feeling and experiencing all at the same time. This experience of “oneness” can be devastating and hard to manage. What can we do?  We turn to a simple cure, one that is thousands of years old – The breath. In this episode, we explore breath and the way it can not only heal the body and the mind, but transform reality and change the outcome of realty as we see it.  Breath is also called prana  and it means the vital energy of the universe.   Swami Rama, according to, his book, "The Science of Breath, A Practical Guide".  Swami Rama: "According to one of the schools of Indian philosophy, the whole universe was projected out of Akasha Which means space, space through the energy of prana. Akasha is the infinite all-encompassing material of the universe. And prana is the infinite all-pervading energy of the universe, cosmic energy. All the diverse forms of the universe are sustained by it. Pranayama is a science, which imparts knowledge related to the control of Parana. One who has learned to control prana has learned to control all the energies of this universe, physical and mental. He is also learned to control his body and mind."   "In short, emotions are tunnels. If you go all the way through them, you got to the light at the end. Exhaustion happens when you get stuck in an emotion." (excerpt from the book “Burnout” - by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski if you're in a stuck emotion, if you are able to come into that space and breathe life into it, you're able to access a part of the universe that is transformative; that you can recreate, that you can go in there and Recode. . Does that make sense? Like if you get into the Akashic records, right, you go into a level where everything has history,  in the universe and all the universes in that empty space is where you can create. What you focus on grows right? In that empty space is where you can rewrite things.   So if you can harness that vital energy of the universe, and then infuse; channel the energy of that universe, that breath, into wherever you are. I think you can change in an instant what is happening in and around you.     TRANSCRIPT Fawn: [00:00:00]  [00:00:00] Hello. Welcome to our table. Welcome to the table. Welcome to your table. Our house is your house. Technically, this is Mark Beran's and Kelly Beran's house, but you know what I mean? Our house is your house. mi casa es tu casa Our home is your home. Our table is your table. This is all of our table. Is that right? The English and my grammar proper. Anyway, welcome everyone to the table. Our round table. Welcome to our friendly world today. We have Katie. We have, Paul, we have Beth. We have KJ. If anyone wants  to reach out to them, go to the show notes and all their links are there. There are links are also on our website, https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/and you'll learn all about their [00:01:00] podcasts and everything that they're doing in the world. Check them out. Um, and also any, any other things, friendly reminders, anyone, anyone want to have a friendly reminder out there? Okay, man. Hello. When did you say before we started the show, Matt, I have no idea. You said I need to take a breath. And that is ours. That is our topic today. We're talking about breath and really the reason why I wanted to talk about breath was this. So we were talking  Matt and I were talking  last week and I was like, oh my God. I, I can't take anymore because we were talking about the news. I'm like what's. And I was

Lisa Calkins of Halfblast Studios joins our blockchain talk, but we get very human with it and talk about such things as fraud and the fact that it doesn't always just happen the way that you think it happens . Lisa explains credit card fraud and fraud in general. Also, why you will never forget your password again…   Why taking a small step toward responsibility of your password management is good for you and good for other people. Lisa gets very real and you will feel empowered. Here are some nuggets from the episode: NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: -And one of the things that was so exciting to me and, valuable to me about blockchain was that I didn't understand it at all. I had to learn it and the whole team had to learn it. And those early entire year, every day I would learn something. And then the next day I would realize whatever I learned wasn't really right or true.And then I would learn again and then I wouldn't understand it. And then some would ask me a question. I have no idea how to answer it, and I would have to learn it again. And what an exciting time that is, professionally and personally.   NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: …adoption is always hard because actually most people don't like a lot of change. It's one of the misnomers in technology that people who aren't in technology think technologists are so innovative and creative and constantly like building new things and thinking very innovatively. NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … in any industry in teaching, there's only a subset of people who are really doing innovative work. Most of the other people, like the fact that everything stays in their framework that they're comfortable in. So blockchain is not that. And blockchain is really extremely different from a technology perspective.   NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … blockchain is a piece of this big solution. It's not taking over the world. It's taking over a big piece of what was [00:12:00] not being done very well or solved.   NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … the dirty, big secrets. They're not dirty little secrets. They're dirty, big secrets. In systems today and in business today, there is an amazing amount of fraud. Unbelievable. In fact, I am the optimist quite, probably like Fawn. And when I was exposed to how much fraud there was, it made me so disheartened and sad and crazy. Like if we could help reduce fraud by a very small percentage, the amount of money that could be in the economy is insane.     fraud doesn't always just happen the way that you think it happens . Lisa explains credit card fraud:  “So do you realize who actually paid for that fraud. It's the flower company, the credit card company takes the money back out of that small business transaction. They go take the money out of, even up to six months later, some credit cards a year later, the money actually doesn't get lost in the middle. It's actually taken out of a small business.”…” The small business is the one that loses out. The small business is the one who is actually the end result of fraud. Well, let's talk about it. How are they going to change the world and force us to change our model? [00:26:00] Usually it's because consumers help drive that, right? The mass people drive that change, but you don't even know or realize it's happening, right?  If everybody realized my local flower shop my local restaurant, the coffee shop, the doughnut shop, whatever it is, a person selling, whatever, even startups, creating new companies, even selling online, whatever it might be. They're the ones who it comes out of their account. And so it's part of doing business. They have to do a write off account. They have to manage

Today we have our fantastic, amazing friend, Paul, who is leading this session today on the concept of self-principle as a whole, being an action. It's the actions we take on our thoughts that come up. The conversation further travels to the concept intelligence of multiple intelligence theory and how all these ways of thinking and being transforms us and society. We also talk about school, all kinds of different forms of intelligence, finding other ways, other paths in our lives that don’t go with the status quo but reveal our true selves and our true gifts. Hall of Fame quotes from the episode: the more we practice it, the more it becomes us,    I am not defined by how other people choose to see me. I'm defined by who I am. -Not the perception, not the looking through the lens of someone else's experience.   if everyone likes you, you're doing something wrong.   Winston Churchill - If you find yourself traveling through hell for God's sake, keep going.   Paul: say like, if another addict came into the rehab and they were, they were crying about that life being so down and terrible, you know, Beforehand, he would have just been like, Oh, it's just another addict. That my, my life's bad. I'm not going to care about your life, but now he's like, I understand you. I feel you, when you go, when you go into their shoes and feel them, and then you, you feel sad for them and then you love them when they can't love themselves. That's empathy.   Katy: We have to we have to forgive, we have to give people encouragement for the good job like our children, like, Oh, you're doing such a good job. You have to have empathy for people with they're going through every day in certain stressful situations. Love is like everybody love is everything, you know, it's just, it has to be everywhere. everything is love. the multiple intelligences theory, Gardner introduced the idea that every single thing that we can do is a arena of intelligence.   Beth: there are definitely different definitions behind behind these values and principles. What might be a principle for my mother or for my logically minded family members, I didn't hold the same. I didn't hold it in the same light.   Beth:  I think that the curriculum should be built around what KJ is talking about. You know, if you built it around the different intelligences than you would allow everybody to be who they are in one of those themes and the world would be a better place because you'd be starting much younger, believing in yourself, believing in what you have as gifts for the world are true and rightful and should be, should be used in the world.Instead of trying to fit into this almost just academic route that we, we tend to place on people. So the whole curriculums need to change. Maybe it will. That's my hope.     Transcript: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello everybody. Hello. Welcome to a friendly world. Welcome to our round table. Connected round table. Connected. We talk about all the different ways we are interconnected. We have friends from around the world at the table, and every week we have a different topic. Today's topic is self principle, and I am so excited to introduce you to Paul Martin also known as Lotus, who will be leading us through our session today?  At our table today, we have my love, Matt Anderson. We have our beautiful, beautiful Katy LoSasso. Hello. We have our beautiful Beth Hewitt. We have our beautiful KJ.  You're beautiful too, Matt. Thank you. All right. We have KJ Nasrul here. We have me. [00:01:00] Hello? I'm Fawn. Thanks babe. All right. So today when we have beautiful Paul, I did say Paul and I was just about to say we have a new cu

We welcome Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure from the podcast, Lyrics and Lattes. And these guys are so lovely, inspiring, upbeat, positive, and so deep. They gift their listeners with wisdom, so many life lessons; provide perfect self-development though breaking down lyrics of hip hop. https://www.lyricsandlattes.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyricsandlattes/     Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello? Hello. Hello everyone. Welcome to our friendly world. Very special guests today. I am really excited.  Listen to this. " The art of a people is a true mirror to the minds."- Jawaharlal Nehru.  Here's another one by Georgia. O'Keeffe: "I found, I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way -things I had no words for." And then Leonardo da Vinci: " Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt. And poetry is painting. That is felt rather than seen. "  Today we have two amazing, amazing men here. And their podcast is just, I think the best podcast I've ever heard. Matt: [00:00:55] It's a great name. Isn't it?  The podcast is called Lyrics and [00:01:00] Lattes. And these guys are so lovely and so inspiring and so upbeat and so positive and so deep. They have so much wisdom, so many life lessons to help us with, so much self-development, tips from your favorite hip hop songs, they break lyrics down. And it's like, for me, it's like going back to school when I had the most amazing teachers break down Hemingway and, you know, things that kind of like I would read, but they would go over my head and then the, the, the professor would break it down and say, what do you think this person meant by this sentence or this one word? Or, you know, and, and we would spend hours talking about one sentence and it transformed my entire life. This is what Jason and Trevor do, [00:02:00] Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure Trevor, am I pronouncing your last name? Right? The Trevor: [00:02:06] first person to ever get that right on the first try. Fawn: [00:02:11] So everyone friends out there, please help us welcome Jason and Trevor from the podcast Lyrics and Lattes. Ah, it is, I, I am so glad I met you guys. We met at Podfest. They did a presentation and, uh, I, I was flying. I was so I'm still so excited. And this was what? A week ago? Two weeks ago. When was it? I don't even remember, but I am forever transformed and so uplifted.  I'm just so excited by these people. Right. Let's get to all right. All right. So today's subject is going to sound like it's not upbeat at all, but Trevor and Jason have a really great [00:03:00] pulse. Like they have, what do you call what's the term when they have a pulse on society? Is that the term? Yeah. Yeah, they have that. So they break down these amazing songs and, and really help you in life. They're amazing coaches. So, first of all, I guess I should say welcome Trevor and Jason, Hello! Trevor: [00:03:23] That was one heck of an intro. Thanks for having me. Jason: [00:03:26] We got to really deliver now. Don't we? Fawn: [00:03:31] I love you guys. And you were so funny. Did I mention they're funny, please check them out. They are hysterically funny, right? No, absolutely. Um, so today's topic guys is society's greatest pain, greatest challenge.  We talk about art all the time. I talk about art, you know, art. My background is that you're also an artist, Matt. I never, I never considered computer programming and math and all of [00:04:00] that to be an art form, but it really is. It's in, and it's i