Why Are People Into That?!

Conner Habib’s personal library gave Tina Horn such a big brain boner she kinda just wanted to roll around reading and smelling his books all afternoon. Because that’s the kind of creep she is. Instead, she pulled it together and asked the writer, porn star, and advocate to discuss the Occult. How is magic related to sex? Why are gay sex and BDSM such a threat to those in power? What’s the most psychedelic thing you can do while masturbating?  Discussed: “What if these crazy things are true?”, Helvetica: the Font of Fascism, “Does this blow-job make me look fat?”, Pernicious myths, Intoxicated with love, Consent, Castro steam room sex, Black magic and white wizards, Evil in David... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Cocktease, striptease, tease and denial… For Episode 13, Mitra Kaboli, the producer of that other amazing sexy podcast Audiosmut, came over to talk about how much she loves to be teased. We talked about the delicious tension of long, slow foreplay, and we also dug into more serious social questions of sexual entitlement. Discussed: Sex monsters /  Tickling / Excitement / Boundaries / Dates /  DTF / Intimacy / MakingOut / First Base / Consummation / Horniness / Satisfaction / Play / Silliness / Checking In / Consent / Dirty Talk / Being in charge / Build / Surrender / Coax / Desire / Climax / Yearning / Restraint / Pacing / Inner Thighs /  Arousal / Rubbing One Out / Polyamory / New Relationship Energy / Lust / Habit / New Moves / Flirting / Spank... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dicks! Dicks! Dicks! Episode 12 has more cock talk than any YAPIT episode yet! My guest is Nayland, an interdisciplinary artist who knows a whole lot about the sexual fetish of chastity devices and orgasm control. In his own words, “Cocks are ludicrous” and this episode has lots of ideas for consensually exploiting that wonderful fact. Discussed: ownership, predicament bondage, tease and denial, mini iron maidens, frustration, conditioning, long distance submission, Maid Marion’s Everlast chastity belt, sensory depravation tanks, being locked, being a key holder LISTEN:   Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In Side B of Episode 11, Sarah Patterson and I discussed the myriad motivations of people in the sex trades. Whether you work on the street or in a dungeon, on camera or in a private room, with your voice or with your body, every sex worker faces staggering stigma against the legitimacy of the labor they do in exchange for the things they need. What happens when the need to make a living intersects with human sexual desire? How do those needs jive, and how do they clash? Sarah and I speak from our own experiences in the industry, as well as what we’ve learned from our various communities. LISTEN:   Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Last October, I was sharing a modest office studio space in Bushwick with one of my favorite organizations, the Persist Health Project. One day, the Executive Director of Persist, Sarah Patterson, and I got coffee and vegan deli sandwiches and sat in our little white room for almost two hours talking about sex work. We challenged ourselves to ask both: Why Are People Into Hiring Sex Workers, and Why Are People Into Doing Sex Work (the later question being not as much about personal sexual desire so much as it is about examining what motivates people to do sexual labor). This week’s episode, Side A, focuses on why people enjoy watching porn, going to strip clubs, and hiring private service providers. Discussed: Is it cheating to go to a strip club? Is there such a thing as porn addiction? If sex work was legalized, would it still turn us on? Why are some kinds of sex work legal and some not? How does whorephobia and sex worker stigma become internalized and... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It’s our 10th Episode! There are a hell of a lot of sexual desires that Igancio could explain to us, and we’d eat our hats if they didn’t have a story to tell about it that made us weak in the knees. We are really glad we settled on “squirting” because the personal anecdotes they shared sort of made us squirmy and giggly and forget our notes, which is pretty much what you wanted out of this podcast, right? But seriously, folks, what does it mean to talk about “female ejaculation” with someone who identifies as gender fluid? Does the g-spot really exist (hint: yes.). Hang on to your Liberator, cuz it’s Why Are People Into Squirting? LISTEN: http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

I am a blithering fangirl for Siouxsie Q’s podcast The Whorecast – in many ways, it continues to inspire me to make YAPIT. When Siouxsie and I met at Catalyst Con, we tumbled into predestined JournHOlist/whorenalist love at first sight. We snuggled up with Siouxsie’s prized My Little Pony blanket and Frederick the Bear for a very personal discussion of Age Play. What is the erotic appeal of a consenting adult pretending to be younger than she actually is? Siouxsie was brave enough to open up to me about the Little Girl part of her identity, and how being Little affects her sexuality, her creativity, and her emotional life. I also got to learn what it was like to win San Francisco’s Little Ms Little contest! LISTEN:  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

OMG SHOES!! When James Darling stopped by my New York City apartment, he immediately spotted one of my prized possessions: a pair of black leather Jimmy Choo 4 inch stiletto high heels. Boy’s got taste. James and I had some fun with those shoes in a porno once… and that strut down memory lane inspired us to talk about high heel worship! We discussed the femme phallus, trampling, and the precautions you might want to talk before inserting the heels into your holes. LISTEN:   James Darling is a multiple award winning... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Opinionated “intelligent hedonist”. Savvy business-woman. Frat boy trapped in a the body of a gorgeous lady. Kelly Shibari can come sit on my couch and tweet all about it any day. Sometimes it seems Kelly gets tired of always being asked about big girl sex, so we tried to broaden our conversation to the more general topic of “Why Are People Into Size?!”  Listen in as we speculate about the business end of body politics in porn, and invent a machine that shakes big boobs in your face while you work (patent pending). LISTEN: Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In our continued commitment to post-modernity, Episode 6, “Why Are People Into Exhibitionism?!” with very special guest Carol Queen was recorded live in front of an audience at Catalyst Con East last March … which means that Tina and Dr. Queen talked about the love of having sex in front of other people in front of other people. Of course, Exhibitionism is about more than getting off on being watched while you fuck. It’s about all kinds of arousal that comes from all kinds of being seen. As Tina and Carol explored, it can be about dressing up and showing off, making money by dancing naked, or sending someone a picture of your genitals in the mail. And of course, where would exhibitionists be without voyeurs like our live audience and listeners like you? Listen in as Tina riffs on all this and more with her hero, a legend in her own time, Dr. Queen. Discussed: The Lusty Lady, consent, talking to yourself while masturbating, putting on a show, getting... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Helloooooooooooo Nurse! For Episode 5, Tina spoke to her friend Zil Goldstein, a badass medical professional and health advocate, about the phenomenon of Naughty Nurses. Why are nurses such pervasive pop culture sex symbols? How do trust, bedside manner, and Mommy issues play into nurse obsessions? Or is it really all about the outfits? This episode also features a spontaneous mock medical play scene, during which we don’t really learn much besides the fact that Tina is a very bratty patient and Zil is a consummate professional! Discussed: OLD CARTS, expertise demonstrated by a hat, enemas, white as symbol of purity, pronoun check-ins, pencil skirts, passing, institutionalized intimacy. LISTEN: Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In Episode Four, we’re joined by Tina’s old friend from San Francisco, Aislinn Emirzian. Badass sex educator Aislinn is the co-author (with the equally esteemed Dr. Charlie Glickman) of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, a one-of-a-kind book that explores that misunderstood erogenous zone: the male g-spot! This episode is for anyone with a prostate (whatever you may call it) who wants to explore its erotic potential, as well as anyone who loves to play with people who have prostates. Butt toys, strap-on play, solo exploration, lube, enemas, masculinity, femme-phobia … we cover a lot of ground in an hour! Aislinn really knows her anatomy, and this may be our nerdiest episode yet! Enjoy, be sure to get a copy of Aislinn and Charlie’s book, and remember: stroke it, don’t poke it! LISTEN:  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In Episode Three, Tina Horn talks with prolific kinky author Laura Antoniou about erotic service and sex slaves. Why would someone want to be sexually enslaved to another? Why would someone want a slave to submit to them utterly? Could this all just be about getting off and feeling more connected? Laura gives some surprising advice for newbies: get off the internet and volunteer at an event, especially if you’re a top! And we learn just how romantic a cup of coffee can be… LISTEN: Laura Antoniou has been writing erotica for over twenty years. Best known for... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Tina has been dreaming of chatting with legendary pervert Mollena Williams about role play for a long time, and she finally got her wish! In Part Two of this episode, Tina and Mollena get to the bottom of characters, costumes, scenarios, and dirty talk; and Mollena shares some pretty unforgettable tales of pretty ponies, daddy/girl scenes, and that one time she really upset a slave auction… LISTEN: Mollena Williams, the “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Tina has been dreaming of chatting with legendary pervert Mollena Williams about Role Play for a long time, and she finally got her wish! In this episode (Part One of Two!), Tina and Mollena dig into primal impulses, negotiations, and storytelling. LISTEN: Mollena Williams, the “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.