How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost

LADIES I have such a treat for you this week! This conversation is such a total shift from what we normally talk about and SO IMPORTANT! I often get questions from women about how being tired/pregnant/sick/hormonal fits into thought work. This conversation, with occupational therapist/homeschooling supermom Chava Neiditch goes deep into our own individual profiles of what we need to stay regulated, balanced, and centered and how we all vary so much from one another. This is a fabulous episode if you're a parent but a must listen if you're a human being. Enjoy!

Last week we covered everything pre-and-during pregnancy. On this week's episode, Lauren Ohayon is answering questions about post-partum recovery and what myths we need to break about our bodies and what fitness is all about to take the best care of our bodies and ourselves.  Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram

This week I'm so excited to bring you Lauren Ohayon of the popular Restore Your Core and One Strong Mama programs. Lauren is a body expert who guides her clients to prepare for healthy births and recovery. I asked Lauren to come on and share with us, since I've had so many questions about preparing for and recovering from a first pregnancy. Whatever type of birth you are aiming for, I just love how Lauren describes how the body works and functions in a way that is totally understandable and holistic. We morphed from interview to conversation, but I think you'll really enjoy eavesdropping on that so I included our conversation on our brain's power over our bodies (so if pregnancy isn't on your radar you may want to skip ahead to about 2/3 through the episode to hear this). Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram

We talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Nevada. Her content on her Instagram @barianna and the Woman of Valor Podcast is geared toward finding meaning and inspiration in every day as well as breaking stigmas tied toward mental and chronic illness. Sources: Instagram: @barianna Website: https://barianna.com Podcast: Woman of Valor

This week I have Krystal Conner on to talk to us about self care. Krystal takes what can sometimes seem like an undefined, unattainable idea and makes it super clear and actionable. I loved this conversation and I know you will, too! Website: https://www.krystalconner.com/ Instagram: @drkrystalconner

Professional organizer/stylist Shira Gill talks about how to hack the thinking of a tidy person, what simple system she uses with all her clients to go from overwhelming mess to styled space, and how she and her husband communicate about their different tidiness-styles.  This episode is PACKED with tips and amazing ideas. Enjoy! Follow Shira: www.ShiraGill.com instagram.com/shiragill

Today I'm excited to bring you a conversation with Shevi Samet, a Jewish educator who, among other things specializes in working with women before and after marriage.  We're going super meta here today, talking about true meaning of marriage (we discuss this from the perspective of Torah concepts but feel free to use this as a springboard for your own belief work). We also dove into why we get married, the social and individual concepts that drive us that we sometimes aren’t even aware of, the difference between love and commitment, and some bizarre and yet very helpful metaphors about parenting and marriage.  Most importantly, make sure you listen to the end when Shevi explains where love and giving fit into a marriage and how neither have anything to do with selflessness.  You can find Shevi at @itsalearninglife on Instagram or by email at sametshevi at gmail.com 

In the second half of my interview with Jamie Geller, we moved beyond cooking to some other major areas where she's been an inspiration to those around her. As the head of the largest kosher food network, Jamie Geller has a lot to teach us about entrepreneurship. In this episode, she shares a bit about her background as a successful producer at HBO and the transition to building her own business. She also gives some really practical advice for those of us who are launching our own businesses. I also asked Jamie to talk about her family's decision to make aliyah. What was the inspiration? what were the challenges? Jamie was extremely candid about her inspiration but also her resistance to the move, and what it's really like to pick up your whole family and move across the world. Finally, we chatted about our great big cooking failures as newlyweds (and how our husbands helped us repackage the remains!). Enjoy! --------------- Sources from this episode: JamieGeller.com Jewlish on Instagram Jewlish on Facebook

WE GOT JAMIE GELLER!!! Can you tell I'm excited?!  Jamie Geller, today the head of the largest kosher network in the world, has been an inspiration to me from the time I was a newlywed and stumbled upon her first cookbook, Quick and Kosher. Reading about her transition from successful single professional to what-am-I-supposed-to-do-with-this-oven made me feel so validated in my total lack of kitchen know-how.  In this first half of our interview, Jamie opens up about her own newlywed transition, foods her audience loves the most, and how to make the never-ending chore of cooking something you can actually enjoy (actually, I was really surprised by her answer!). Whether you keep kosher or not, Jamie is such an inspiration and I know you're going to gain a lot from this interview. Enjoy! Sources from this episode: JamieGeller.com Jewlish on Instagram Jewlish on Facebook Make sure you've subscribed to hear part 2 of the episode, plus more amazing guests in our summer #whosyourguru podcast series!

Last week we talked about finding your inner guru, the voice of calm that you can call upon when your brain feels like it’s spinning out of control. This week I want to introduce you to the idea of finding an external guru. The concept is simple. Find an area where you struggle, whether practically or emotionally. And instead of troubleshooting, look for the person for whom this is natural, satisfying, even... dare I say it... fun? Actually, you don't need to go looking, because this summer I will be interviewing one powerful woman each week to be our guru in all the areas I hear most from you that you are struggling with. Whaaat!!! This is going to be so. much. fun. Make sure you subscribe so you don't miss a single episode! We have some AMAZING interviews lined up! https://firstyearmarried.com/ep-79-find-a-guru-and-summer-series-announcement/

In this week’s episode, I’m going to teach you a fun, easy tool that you can use to access the “wise” part of your brain when your thoughts feel out of control. When we get caught up in anxiety, insecurity, resentment, or other strong emotions, especially if we are also newly-married and those emotions can be super intense, it can feel like our thoughts are spinning out of control. We get caught up in playing out every scenario, every conversation, every imaginary argument, and it feels productive but the truth is it gets us nowhere. To recenter ourselves, to get back to a place where our thoughts can serve us and help us to get to a more balanced place, we need another “voice” that is distinct from the one spinning out of control. So on this episode, I’ll teach you how to access your inner guru and play out some fun scenarios of what that could look like. Want to take this work further and join a community of women committed to enjoying the newlywed season and growing as they do it? Check us out at www.firstyearmarried.com/course See more episodes at www.firstyearmarried.com/podcast

The best thing about working on your marriage is that you get exposed to patterns of thinking that have existed for years--maybe even your entire life--and never really surfaced until it affects you in this relationship.  What looks like a big problem is actually an amazing opportunity to improve your own self-mastery in a way you never could before. Anxiety and resentment both come from an essential judgement, either of ourselves or of another person. With many newlyweds, these emotions seem negative and sometimes even scary--because we make it mean that we can’t have a good marriage if we’re feeling bad emotions.  I often find that identifying the emotion of resentment can be tricky when we’ve spent our lives believing that there are “resentful people” and the rest of us. But gaining awareness is the critical first step towards gaining traction. These emotions aren’t dangerous and you’re for sure not alone. Check out the episode to get some tips on dealing with these feelings in your marriage. What You’ll Learn In This Episode: What drives anxiety and resentment Why we often mislabel them How to identify them more accurately, and why that’s important Why neither of these are a problem for your marriage What to be wary about when learning from a marriage educator or coach When you’re ready to take this work deeper, join us in the First Year Married Online community.

This isn't the podcast I wanted to record this week.⁠ I wanted to record a podcast to help you feel safe and connected even when you disagree with your husband.⁠ Even when you disagree about the big stuff.⁠ But right now the big stuff has me off-balance. So I'm taking some time to re-center myself.⁠ Remind myself of what I know to be true.⁠ This is the only way for me to be the best wife, mother, coach, and rabble-rouser that I can be.⁠ What do you know to be true, my friends?⁠ Stay centered.⁠ Ibram X. Kendi on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-ibram-x-kendi-on-how-to-be-an-antiracist/

Sometimes we get so caught up in "fixing" things that we lose sight of what we are actually aiming for. But what does marriage look like with *true* connection? What can we achieve when we allow ourselves to drop our agenda and truly experience our spouse? Disney may have given us one image of what "Happily Ever After" looks like. Design your own dream. Let's aim high.

In this week's episode, we're diving into what happens in your brain when someone gives you a compliment and why never manages to improve our self image in the long term. It's a brain-nerdy one, so I know you'll love it :)  Think about who you could be when you could generate your OWN confidence and self-esteem, whenever you need it. I'm going to tell you how. First Year Married Online Course First Year Married on Instagram