Something Like Marriage
Summary: Jon & Jema Anderson share a relationship journey that began at eleven years old. They tell stories about conventional life, a failed marriage, and choosing to raise their four children while traveling full-time in an RV. As passionate coaches, they encourage couples to embrace their own curious journey of imperfect relationship.
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- Artist: Jon and Jema Anderson
- Copyright: 2017 Something Like Marriage
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Morning and evening rituals invite connection in your relationship. They can be as simple or as complex as the two of you would like.
Finding a loving spirituality has been important in our relationship. We can make decisions when we ask, what feels the most loving?
Non-sexual touch in a relationship is about connection and affection without the intention of sex. We talk about how both men and women desire loving touch.
If you haven't had practice at sharing your feelings before, where do you start?
When we share our gifts and passions it connects us with others. Let's spend our life energy doing something that brings us and others joy.
Comparing your relationship on Facebook can bring feelings of discontentment to a couple. However, it could be turned into inspiration for future plans.
It was a flip-flop fail that lead to a chat on accepting ourselves. It takes time to accept our weaknesses and flaws as we become aware.
Safe spaces for loving conversation include deciding on your loving guidelines, choosing a loving physical space, and creating a safe emotional space.
In desiring to learn more about one another, we ask each other three questions which lead to chatting about our useless superpowers and chin implants.
Sexual anorexia refers to the compulsive avoidance of sexual nourishment and intimacy. Jema dealt with sexual shame through repression of secrets. Healing has been possible as she learns more about who she is and shares her truth with loving and supportive people.
Sex was not really a topic they had practice talking about with anyone much less in their marriage. While Jon was caught up in a cycle of abstinence and binging, Jema was in her own cycle of repression and avoidance. Jon shares how he came to a place of being open and honest about his sexuality. Jema shares that she is just beginning this journey.
Why do men hide their feelings? Jon talks about how he learned early on it wasn't safe to share those vulnerable feelings such as sadness because it would be meddled with in some way. Perhaps, men and women hide their most vulnerable of emotions.
Letting go of the outcome in your life can be similar to the thrill and adventure of trusting in the safety harness of a roller coaster. You let go and enjoy the energy of the moment even though the ride has unexpected twists and turns.
"I can't hear you over my anxiety" was a phrase our son told us during a conversation. It has become a fun way to express how powerful anxiety can be in our lives when it demands to be heard. Anxious thoughts like to be the loudest!
We are still learning to talk about sex as a couple. We began our relationship with two separate sex lives, and through therapy have learned how to talk about our sexuality. Although sometimes find we still want to whisper the word "sex."