Sexplanations Podcast

When we first started Sexplanations YouTube channel Nick Jenkins and I were putting out two videos a week. Two videos?! I think back on those days when I was also teaching at the university, seeing clients, raising kids, and three dogs. It's mind-blowing to me that we made twice as many videos in a year then, as we've made podcasts in just this last year. It explains why the topic of today's podcast is about a Valentine's Day villain, Anthony Comstock. To give a quick summary: Comstock convinced the U.S. government to let him regulate the postal system with a gun. He was responsible for keeping information about contraception, sexual health, erotica, sex ed etc out of circulation. Nothing lacivious was permitted in the mail so hundreds of thousands were left without access to information or if they sent it or got it anway -- they were jailed. What an evil baby!! There are things happening now that censor of sexuality too -- demonetization of channels by LGBT and sex educators, denial of comprehensive sex education in schools, outright lying about our bodies and our identities. I hate it. It's harmful to withhold what we all need to protect ourselves. So this episode of the podcast is all my feelings on it and a quick run through of solutions. SEXtra Credit: watch past episodes of Sexplanations. Anyone who has seen them all may call themselves a Sexual Scholar. Link to the Comstock episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYY1wr4lBMc Link to support the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Link to the tank top: https://store.dftba.com/products/stay-curious-rainbow-shirt

Mija (pronouns they/them/their) and I have worked as sex educators together for a long time. They're one of the most sex positive people I know, very conscientious about prevention and consent; they're incredibly experienced and care a lot about the sexualities of others. It was difficult determining which topic to discuss with them because I knew that a really powerful conversation would ensue. I chose condoms because it's such a strong part of Mija's identity -- they use condoms consistently and happily and in a way that makes latex and polyisoprene sexy. SEXtra Credit: Put condoms on household items that won't hurt your body and use them for self-stimulation. Mija's favorite pervertible is the cucumber. To support Sexplanations Podcast please visit our Patreon page and subscribe.

Turns out Chase is a penis expert, or an expert on what he calls peens. This month we were lucky enough to have him here in Missoula and I sat down with him in the recording studio to learn what he does with his knowledge. Hopefully after just one minute of listening you'll enjoy Chase's spirited banter the way I do and find through the hour how much this carefree YouTuber is doing for sexual health. SEXtra Credit: Look up genital prosthetics; go to Chase's website and channel and watch some of the videos in his Trans 101 series.

In the early days of Sexplanations I traveled to Iceland, visited their phallological museum, and recorded my experiences there. To revisit this topic I invited warehouse manager, Caenaan to talk about penises and organizing things, seems like curating. Our conversation becomes a when-has-Caenaan-dick episode (which I'm pleased with) and a tangential adventure into opening our own sex museum, the value of positive body image, shipping sex dolls, and his wonderful definition of good sex. SEXtra Credit: Watch the episode of Sexplanations on the Icelandic Phallological Museum here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9L_qB3pdjk&t and write a letter that declares whether or not you'd like for your reproductive organs/genitals to be donated. To support the Sexplanations Podcast go to Patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Four years ago the original videographer and director of Sexplanations YouTube channel made a video for the channel on identity. Other creators picked it up and soon it was a phenomenon. Ashley is a creator who makes a lot of content on identity so I asked Ashley to unpack it all with me. We talk about whether or not we can have identities, change them, and what to do with them. SEXtra Credit: Have a conversation with someone from the LGBT+ community who experienced "queer" as a slur. To support the podcast each week please go to: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast and subscribe.

Zack is a nice guy and a funny guy so I invited him to talk about masturbation. In this episode of Sexplanations Podcast he shares his personal experiences of overcoming sexual shame, his thoughts on dry-dogging, where to put the semen, third-person stories of his penis, and responses to this episode of the Sexplanations YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaHudJWwM8I&t. SEXtra Credit: Masturbate using coconut oil with and without porn (and tell us which fictional character or celebrity your genitals are).

In this episode we reflect on our memories of masturbation, how we like it best, and the many ways we want to keep learning how to do it. When did we first discover masturbation? What are our favorite techniques for getting off? How did we navigate society's anti-masturbation messaging? What's best to say to kids who masturbate? Sex Toys. Mutual masturbation. Anatomy. Clit lock. What do you masturbate to? SEXtra Credit: Masturbate in an upright position, standing, sitting, racing someone, while in traffic, while reading, using your non-dominant hand, in the shower, with penetration, in the garden, on the beach, and in the bath. To support the show and get your own shout-out, visit patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Marcia teaches sex ed in the Midwest. She has been teaching in many capacities for decades, preschool to college, physical education and health courses. Now human sexuality at a university in a suburb of Chicago, Illinois. I sat down with her to ask the most common question I get -- how did you choose this career path and what advice would you give budding sex educators and sexologists? We compared journeys and suggestions, the adversity, and the rewards, and as the conversation went deeper I wondered what her thoughts were on restricted education that only teaches abstinence or false education that offers up incorrect information/lies. Which is worse? SEXtra Credit: Interview a relative about their sexuality education. Should it change or not change for today's youth. AND come up with a trivia name that's sex related.

I've been so fortunate to work with incredibly talented and hilarious people on Sexplanations' projects. Maia is one of these magical people and so I sat down with her to talk about our days together, our show, how we get things done, and the many other interests we share or encourage each other to have. It is a precious conversation full of emotion and laughter. We visit about what it's been like working together and some of the ideas we have for future episodes. Trans history, brothels, travel, juggling... Thanks, Maia! Sextra Credit: Write down 10 new ways you can be kind to yourself and enact them. To support the show: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Count Boogie and I met in the Los Angeles area when I visited his dungeon called Threshold. He gave me an interactive tour which we recorded for the Sexplanations YouTube channel and taught me about some of his kinks. Kinks aren't synonymous with paraphilias (non-traditional attractions) but there's a lot of crossover so I asked the count to talk with me about his world -- the paraphilias, specifically fetishes, consent, desire versus behavior, male Kegels, and communication. One thing I learned is that skin gets more sensitive just before one's menstrual period! Very useful information! To support this podcast please visit Patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Sextra Credit: find an inanimate object, put a condom on it, and explore sexual arousal with it.

Teenage boys, mind-blowing consent, new bodies and old bodies, monogamy, and sexual therapy for reasons besides dysfunction -- it's a jam packed episode starring Elke, the founder of Mamalode (website and magazine), citizen extraordinaire, and my client. With her permission we discuss her first appointment almost eight years ago, what it was like seeing a clinical sexologist for the first time, and her answers to your questions about whether or not to see one yourself. Sextra Credit: Create a WANT/WILL/WON'T list t-shirt in the shower Sexplanations YouTube episodes referenced: 1st Appointment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rOXXgH3AqH4&t Getting the Sex You Want: https://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_1570565553&feature=iv&src_vid=jqnkXufLM4A&v=jqnkXufLM4A 150 Sex Acts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqnkXufLM4A&t

Among the many influential people and experiences in my life, my mother has been responsible for a great deal of the permission I've had to be exactly who I am. She instilled me a belief that it's okay to call out sexual abuse, to express my passion for sex, and to be sex curious. I asked her to recount with me my childhood and the memories I have of how my sexuality development during those formative years. We discussed sex education in school, sex before marriage, dating, sexual harassment, career choices, and the playfulness of our household. New word: disturbation. Sextra credit: Call your mother or a similar relative and have a discussion about sex. Ask them if they want to do Kegels together or listen to this episode of the Sexplanations Podcast. Some of the things my mom has shared with me on Facebook: https://www.artsy.net/article/artsy-editorial-ancient-greek-sculptures-small-penises?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=sm-editorial-evergreen&utm_content=fb-1-why-ancient-greek-sculptures-have-small-penises https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3s2qyLdg7c https://www.mimibazar.sk/recept.php?id=36763

Last year I met charismatic wonder woman on the plane returning to Missoula named Princess. We both had similar fast-friends personalities and joie de vivre so a year into our friendship I asked her to be on the Sexplanations podcast and talk about mania with me. How do we as passion people navigate the ups and downs? Where do we find stability? How do hormones play a role in the destruction of love, or is it not that at all? What would we tell our past selves? Are we bigger fans of penetration or vibration? Thoughts on oral sex? Thoughts on being single? We discuss fantasies about veins and water masturbation. We discuss friendship and romance and sex. That's what you're here for, right? Sextra Credit: Identify unhealthy manic behaviors and contemplate how you want to turn them into positive behaviors. If you don't have mania in your life, do an evaluation of mania in songs or films.

Dustin and I met on a rideshare and talked about love and relationships on that drive together. Then he spoke on a panel in my human sexuality class, photographed me for a calendar, and acted out 30 orgasmic sex positions in a green-suit for a Sexplanations episode. The two of us have a very playful connection and I wanted that for today's podcast on love. Going through an 18-question assessment of love styles, Dustin and I talk about passion, romance, dating, honesty, and intimacy. Sextra Credit: Take the love style test yourself

Learn at least one new sex term for each letter of the alphabet, all about tucking technologies, the history of A. Mick, a co-founder of polyamorous programming in Montana, and now founder of an undergarment company goes through every letter of the alphabet from Z to A sexology-style. This episode of the podcast is based on this episode of the Sexplanations channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9dAOeblsA0&t Sextra Credit: Journal about your relationship to gender and body hair. To support the podcast go to patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast