Sexplanations Podcast

Four years ago I made a video about using less harmful language, avoiding words that were exclusionary, offensive, or inaccurate. Soon after this Seththinksthoughts, a vlog-style YouTube channel posted a video adding the list of harmful words and suggesting alternatives. I loved it and reached out to Seth. Over these years we've kept in touch and tried to encourage intellectual growth in each other. So when it came time to revisit the Sexplanations episode about less harmful language, I knew exactly who I wanted to talk to about it! Seth is in Hong Kong (not Japan) teaching music and was willing to do a video call at 5 AM his time to pull this off. It was delightful! Here are some of the things we reference in the podcast: Joyful Heart Foundation Flagrant Conduct 99% Invisible Sexplanations' Less Harmful Language: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNMToK5tqBA Seth's Less Harmful Language: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3l6FSQdAX1M SEXtra Credit: find a word or sequence of words that rubs you the wrong way and come up with five other options.

Why are some people heterosexual? What informs this identity? What was it like to come out to your family? Have you ever been treated differently because of your attraction to men, as a woman? Have you ever seen Hysterical Literature? How do you imagine attraction to a woman to be? What narratives and representation do you have in media? How did attraction develop for you? Why do I like kissing this person? Silvia and I investigate a lot of the questions surrounding sexual orientation. SEXtra Credit: Practice coming out in one or more of your identities with different groups of people who share different kinds of spaces with you.

Logan is a gregarious, handsome, young hipster with a lot of ambition. He just finished building out a high-end touring van with the ability to play concerts out the back and he's traversing the country now to learn from others about life. I know him in a few ways but mostly that he's a well-connected friendly face. So I asked him to talk with me about coincidences and fate and whether or not the world is oriented more sexually for some of us more so than others. We tried some off-the-top-of-our-heads experiments and came up with some great hypotheses. SEXtra Credit: If you have a partner and there's someone you want to incorporate in your life, make this week to actually speak about it. If you don't have a partner, tell us in the comments, we'll be your surrogate. Also, play the free association game and see how quickly your brain networks to sex.

Stella and I first met on the set of Sexplanations How to Touch a Boob episode. As a model and a burlesque dancer she was comfortable working with me to demonstrate breast healthcare and pleasure. What I didn't know is that she's made a career out of removing pubic hair for people and this brings up many opportunities to help clients embrace their own unique genitals. Stella and I talked about her experiences in the salon and revisited some of the questions I've been asked about oral sex (not that those two are related). She was really easy to talk with and took the Main Squeeze Kegels segment to a new level: the floor. I hope you enjoy our sex curious conversation and learn something new. I'm still learning. SEXtra Credit: Perform oral sex on someone with consent if you have a partner who is menstruating and or try putting some of your own menstrual blood on your face. Acquire, offer, and or use dental dams. Bonus: experiment with different pubic hairstyles.

Sexplanations Podcast is not intended to titillate but it may lead to physiological changes. I would prepare yourself on this one. Jonathan and I hooked up when I when we were 20 and now, over a decade later, we're checking in on what that was like. We discuss oral sex, simultaneous orgasms, height differences, power dynamics, communication, raking dicks with teeth, sexual finesse workshops, Costa Rica, tightness, and then talk for about 15 minutes at the end about the controversy of circumcision. It's a whirlwind of sexual literacy and I hope you enjoy it! To support the show please visit our Patreon page: Patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast and for SEXtra Credit: find a time in the next week or two to perform oral sex on someone and see what it feels like to be passionate about doing it for yourself. More broadly receive something non-sexual with passion, or if you're doing something for someone, make it with passion and pleasure for yourself. Make something for your own benefit. Don't get fired; ancora imparo.

Anal sex video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sp9MT1di9as&t Before this conversation I hadn't talked with Sam about anal sex. I invited her to be on the Sexplanations Podcast and gave her the topic but we didn't say anything else. When we sat down to record it was really fun to hear how much she had to share about her own experiences, her interest in anal porn, and her feelings on negotiating anal in future relationships. We also talked about vibrators, masturbation, healthy lifestyles, meditation, pussy massage, trauma, and the difference between g-spots and prostates. Hopefully this episode serves as a model for how to talk about sexuality, specifically anal play. Anal is growing in popularity and traditional sex education hasn't kept us. We need resources like the Sexplanations Podcast to serve as a resource for people who are curious and or experimenting. If you're able to help support our project please go to patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast. SEXtra Credit: Look into a somatic body meditation. What is your body trying to tell you? A second assignment is to try a finger in your anus or someone else's with permission.

Jessi runs an animal rescue and care center in Montana. She also has an educational YouTube channel called AnimalWondersMontana. Who better to talk about anal prep then someone who works daily with many many species including the care of their anuses? We discuss prolapsed rectums (aka trunk butt), lube, irritable bowel syndrome, taking temperature anally, how beavers mate, anal sex in sheep, inter-species relations, and from 26:30 to 27:40 rape. Jessi is full of great tips on anal preparation! My favorites are giving treats and asking your doctor to explain what they're doing during a pelvic exam. Many thanks to Jessi for being on the show! I'm still learning. Here are Jessi's projects: http://www.animalwonders.org/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Nj4gkoi_n5eCcrKCVOXKA https://www.youtube.com/animalwondersmontana SEXtra Credit: Be gentle with others. (And if you know how beavers mate, please tell us).

Troy or Kujmous as you may know him from social media is what I like to call the 12th man of the Internet. He cheers on creators like the fans of a football team and on regular basis positively impacts my emotional health. This is why I asked him to talk with me about cognitive dissonance, a psychological conflict brought on when one's behaviors are different than one's beliefs. This happens a lot in my life: killing animals is unethical/eat meat; abstinence is the only 100% effective method/use other protection methods; our government is really unhealthy/live here anyway. Troy accepts me in my wobbly attitudes and actions which makes it easier for me to continue doing what I do for others. We're a team. SEXtra Credit: Select clothes, shows, jewelry etc. for the following day and lay them out nicely folded or hang them up prepared to put on in the morning. This way the first bit of energy you give to your day is for you. See if this energy and kindness inward projects energy and kindness outward. Is there a stronger continuation of kindness if it starts from yourself?

Reese has entertained me for years. He has a great stage presence and a hilarious bit about the ridiculousness of the phrase 'gold star gays.' I appreciate how comfortable he is talking about sexuality to new audiences and that there is a component of education built into the laughs. In this episode of the Sexplanations Podcast, it's no different. Reese has me laughing and learning as usual. SEXtra Credit: learn more about asexuality (asexuality.org), tell someone you are aesthetically attracted to them.

I went on a date with Amy in 2017. She tells the story of how we met and how it went. Then I do. I basically didn't know how to flirt with her beyond the scientifically prescribed steps and she points out that yeah, she didn't know I was trying to make advances. Is it because I'm heterosexual? Am I baby gay? How much of it is fear? What can I do to signal that I want to be hit on by women? Why don't I hit on women? SEXtra Credit: The next time you're out with friends, ask a friend to choose a person in the room for you to talk to/flirt with. Then switch and identify a person for your friend to talk to/flirt with.

If you want your brain rocked this is the episode for you. Soft science whimsical sexologist Dr. Doe talks with hard science genius-type Henry Reich. How are relationships and sexuality going to look as technology progresses? Will human beings have precocial young that are born able to care for themselves? How will internet interacting come into the real world? Can artificial intelligence mimic human touch? What is going to happen to match-making in the future? What is going to happen to our measures of attraction in the future? SEXtra Credit: Take one step that increases the diversity of peoples' experience of other peoples' appearances. Sexplanations YouTube episode on attraction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQp43ozsP3c&t Henry's YouTube channel Minute Physics https://www.youtube.com/user/minutephysics

Neil and I were classmates in our human sexuality doctoral program and we've been supporting each other professionally since then. In this conversation we discuss our careers, the similarities and differences. He's a sex therapist. I'm a sexologist. He teaches in a classroom. I teach online. We're both really passionate about serving others and love welcoming newcomers to the field. Join us for a chat on facing challenges, fulfilling dreams, and starting a sex school. SEXtra Credit: Catch the important people in your life doing good things and notice that out loud or in a note.

Roe and I know each other in a lot of different capacities. That's the nature of Missoula, Montana where we live. Roe's been a friend, a colleague, and most recently the director for the outdoor leadership camp my kids have attended. Roe is impressive and in this episode you'll hear that. We talk about one of the smartest approaches to healthy relationship education and how to make moon bags. We plot our own programs and ask questions about some of our curiosities. Ancora imparo; I'm still learning.

The brain is trained to find shortcuts in sex and theater and education. They're called heuristics and we use then in all aspects our lives to make things easier. Unfortunately because they aren't the whole story they end up messing things up for us a lot. Brit Garner prides herself on failing (as do I). We both see it as a measure of our efforts to live and learn a lot from the experience. This episode is about some of those fails, the psychology behind them, and what our take-aways are. SEXtra Credit: Find three things you've assumed incorrectly. Challenge your assumptions.

What it's like to have mom who is a sexologist? Can an ace have a sex blog? How would you describe sexual attraction? Should I feel bad if my partner doesn't come? Tips for long distance relationships? Advice? Talk. SEXtra Credit: Get involved in your community by volunteering at Planned Parenthood or another sexual organization. And if you can't do that go and pick up trash along the river or highway. Do the best you can to improve the community in some way. Go hand out condoms. Be safe, kids! To support the Sexplanations Podcast existence go to patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Twitter: @elleteedee Tumblr: tumblingdoe Facebook: Sexplanations YouTube: Sexplanations Merch: sexplanations.com