The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

Ashlynn and Coby are guided by Brannon how recovery can be a drag and what that looks like. It can be such a hardship to put so much time, energy and resources into such a devastating thing when you don't feel better.

When things went wrong for Ashlynn and Coby, then they developed eyes to see all the things that were bad, hard or fell short of expectations. This episode describes what that looked like how and how Coby developed eyes to see his failings from a young age and how that carried into his marriage and perpetuated addiction.

So much of addiction creates chaos not only in the life of the addict but the life of the partner too. Chaos was a part of the lives of Coby and Ashlynn and in a strange way they found a twisted sort of connection and that developed a pattern that lasted for years and ended up creating more disconnection. Listen as they share their experience.

How do the therapist and the recovering betrayed and addicted define the term failure? What is the real-life experience look like?

Holidays can be hard and challenging for so many so how do we roll with them and keep from being highjacked by addiction or betrayal?

When it comes to intentions, Coby openly discusses the intentions that drove him to start specialized therapy. He was afraid of his own eternal torment in hell for cheating on Ashlynn a second time. However with time, education and the right kind of help those intentions evolved. Listen as they discuss what factors helped change his intentions and why.

Ashlynn, Coby and Brannon discuss the role of transparency in their relationship and especially when Coby was acting out in addiction. This episode will contain stories from Coby of not being transparent and what the impact on Ashlynn was. Transparency in recovery will also be shared and what that looks like.

Coby recently was diagnosed with anxiety. This was in August 2018 and he has been trying to figure out what role it plays and how it affects their marriage but also the potential impact of recovery. LIsten as they share first-hand accounts of what it means for Coby but also Ashlynn's view and perspective.

Addiction can change everything about what one thinks, desires acts and ultimately who they can become. What happens when you are repelled by your partner and not attracted to them anymore? Listen as Brannon walks Ashlynn and Coby through their own experience in this arena and what lead to it. More importantly they talk about what lead them back to each other to grow deeper love than ever before.

What is the right approach when it comes to specialized therapy. It can be so challenging for couples to be in the same room talking about deep wounds when there are no skills developed to deal with them. Ashlynn and Coby took the approach of working individually before they worked as a couple. Listen to find out why.

Sometimes loved ones just don't understand the place we are in and what we need. Worse yet is we have no idea how to really tell them about the place we are stuck in. This episode will allow Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby do the work for you and describe generally speaking, where you may be. This can be shared with all kinds of people.

Sexuality is so individual and can be scary, shame-filled and vulnerable. Listen as Brannon walks Ashlynn and Coby through individual sexuality

Owning and embracing your sexuality can be scary, tricky and even shame-filled. Listen as Brannon walks Ashlynn and Coby through this conversation about embracing your own sexuality despite what you have done or what you have experienced.

Coby and Ashlynn brought their own shame into the bedroom. Coby's shame about addiction and sex was not known to him at the time but listen as Brannon uncovers what was always there. Ashlynn also shares how her shame about sex played a role.

Brannon walks Coby and Ashlynn through a reveal on the problems that manifested as a result of porn use and sex addiction. Listen as you hear the perspective from both parties on what they faced on the road to healing.