The Dating Advice Girl Podcast

Ep.191-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison (www.JettGarrison.com) & I talk other interracial couples about they are supporting their Black partners, what allyship looks like, and conversations with their children during this time of great change and racial justice. Backstory: I’ve been receiving messages from interracial couples saying that for the first time in their relationship, they’ve been having some hard conversations about race, that their partner is struggling to understand the emotions their partner is dealing with, or that their partner doesn’t fully understand the importance of this current movement. My intention in putting together this panel was to help couples, whether in a new #relationship or a long-term partnership, gain a better understanding about what their Black partners are experiencing, and therefore create more empathy and support. A big THANK YOU to our panel participants (Jett Garrison, Rikesha Lane, Rachel Rae Lane, Shawn Richardz, Cary Millman, Chad Davis, Carl Hampton Jr, Jeremy Holmes & Erika Holmes) for sharing their experiences and taking the time educate the listener.

Ep.190-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison & I talk about interracial relationships in this time of Black Lives Matter protests, social justice, civil rights for Black people, and the importance of having supportive conversations with your partner regardless of gender or orientation. Jett talks about his experience as a transgender man dating me and having other Black people in his life during this time.

Ep.189-On this episode, Pickup Artist and Dating Coach for minority men, JT Tran discusses how he coaches and empowers his single clients through his company the ABCs of Attraction. We have a wide-ranging conversation about the specific challenges facing cis-hetero Asian men, standards of beauty and masculinity in American culture, the mental/physical/verbal elements he teaches to boost confidence, the gender imbalance in some Asian countries, consent and digital dating. This episode's Consent Corner focuses on interpreting nonverbal cues and signs of disinterest from Chapter 4 of my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com). About JT: The Asian Playboy, JT Tran, is the founder of the world-renowned ABCs of Attraction, one of the world’s first and most successful indie pick up companies focusing on helping minority men meet, attract and connect with the women of their dreams and reach new levels of success in all areas of their lives. Known as the World’s Greatest Asian Pick Up Artist, he is the creator of the revolutionary Holistic approach to pickup and has transformed the lives of thousands of men with his groundbreaking products and programs and the help of his dynamic coaching staff. He is the founder of one of the longest running and most widely read seduction arts blogs in history, which recently surpassed more than two million site visits. JT has several e-books, DVDs and CDs, and other multi-media personal coaching resources and has provided thousands of hours of training and coached students in 20 cities on five continents. www.ABCsOfAttraction.com

Ep.188-Licensed Therapist and Sex Educator Jamila Dawson and I have a wide-ranging convo about bringing more pleasure into our lives, repressed trauma, dealing with major shifts in relationships, consent within kink/power dynamics, and more! This episode’s Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), focuses on enthusiastic consent.  About Jamila: Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, holds a master’s in clinical psychology and is a sex therapist, pleasure activist, and speaker. Her focus: break down sexual stigma in order to design relationships that center imagination, connection, and liberation. She sees clients in her private practice, presents nationally on sexuality, neurobiology and wellness to mental health professionals and teaches classes on kink/BDSM and sexual enhancement to individuals, partners, and groups. www.JamilaDawson.com

Ep.187-Licenced Marriage and Family Therapist James Guay and I chat about specific dating and consent challenges that LGBTQ singles face, LGBTQ sexual violence stats, the importance of self-love, and how his upbringing brought him to where he is today personally and professionally. About James: James Guay is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#lmft39252) in private practice since 1999 and has used various platforms to promote greater compassion and advocacy for human rights. He’s the Co-Chair of the #BornPerfect Advisory Committee for the National Center for Lesbian Rights — providing expert testimony against the use of conversion therapy at California’s State Capital. He’s taught several classes & workshops related to LGBTQ topics at Esalen Institute, JFK University and UC Berkeley’s School of Law. James has produced digital content on Friendships, Mindfulness, Perfectionism and other LGBTQ topics of interest. www.livingmorefully.com ... Instagram: @jamesguaylmft

Ep.186-This episode features a compilation of my holiday dating tips for singles and those in new relationships, situationships, and flirtationships from past episodes! Topics include surviving the holiday season while single, asking someone new out during the holidays, gift giving basics, inviting your potential love-interest home for the holidays, keeping in touch if you are traveling solo, and being honest about your feelings before making seasonal decisions that could unexpectedly accelerate your situationship. Plus, this episode's Consent Corner comes from Chapter 7 of my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) and focuses on positive reinforcement with someone you like after an encounter that possibly didn't go so well.

Ep.185-Sex & Cannabis Expert Ashley Manta tells us about the benefits of integrating cannabis into our sex lives, consent when using substances, the importance of exploring your own body, and more! We are also joined by colleagues Halcyone (www.relationshiprejuvenation.com) and Courtney (www.intimatehealthyoga.com) for this lively conversation. This episode's Consent Corner from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on respecting and validating the boundaries of others. About Ashley: Ashley Manta has become known as "the CannaSexual" as a result of her passion and her expert knowledge about sex and cannabis. She offers premium Skype coaching for individuals or couples who are interested in creating more intimacy and pleasure in their lives! Ashley was dubbed "America's High Priestess of Pleasure" when she appeared on the January 2019 cover of Sexual Health Magazine. She documents her hedonistic lifestyle on her Instagram account. Her CannaSexual work landed her on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019 and she has been referenced in Forbes, The London Times, Newsweek, Rolling Stone, Globe and Mail, LA Weekly, and more! She was also the featured expert in the "Stoned Sex" episode of Slutever on VICELAND TV. www.CannaSexual.com

Ep.184-Dr. Hernando Chaves and I talk about the sexual shame, importance of Sex Ed and consent education at all ages, choosing partners who are a good fit, and the sometimes difficult evolution of an individual within a relationship. This week's Consent Corner focuses on Emotional Intelligence & Consent Comprehension from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com). About Dr. Hernando: Dr. Hernando Chaves holds a B.A. in psychology from University of California Santa Barbara, a M.A. in marital and family therapy from University of San Diego, and a D.H.S. doctorate in human sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in CA specializing in intimacy/relational difficulties, sexual concerns/dysfunctions, and with sexual minority communities (LGBTQ, BDSM, fetish, sex work, nonmonogamy), Dr. Chaves is a psychology and sexuality professor at East Los Angeles College and Pepperdine University, presented at various academic institutions including Alliant, Cal Lutheran, CSULB, NYU, Pepperdine, USC, USD and conferences/shows such as AASECT, AVN/AEE, Catalystcon, SSSS, SHE and a Western Region past president and board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. He has written/consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, co-host for Penthouse's Sex Academy instructional series, and BaDoinkVR virtual reality sex therapy instructional video. Dr. Chaves has written for AskMen.com, Sexpert.com, a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality, contributed/featured in publications such as Rolling Stone, The Guardian, Marie Claire, Bustle, Vice, Maxim, Mens Health, The Daily Star, Esquire, and Alternet, as well as radio and podcast appearances on Sirius XM, 96.3FM, Playboy radio, Sex Nerd Sandra, Sex Out Loud, and Sex with Emily. www.DrHernandoChaves.com

Ep.183-Marriage and Family Therapist Kate Loree and I discuss how she came to focus her practice to help non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities, how she helps her clients, and advice for couples who want to explore non-monogamy. This week's Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on boundaries and positive reinforcement around boundaries. About Kate: Kate Loree, LMFT is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities. In addition to her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, she is also a registered art therapist (ATR) and has a second Masters in Business Administration (MBA). She has been practicing psychotherapy for sixteen years and has additional training in EMDR and the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma, such as sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She has been featured in Buzzfeed videos and been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, such as, American Sex and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. She is currently writing her first book due to be published at the end of 2020. Privately, she has been connected to non-monogamous and kink communities since 2003 and understands the hurdles, massive emotional growth, and amazing joy these worlds can provide. Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at www.KateLoree.com

Ep.182-Comedian Lianna Carrera and I examine the argument that it's hard for comedians to do stand-up in a politically correct world, how a comedian's dating life can work its way into their comedy, the importance of diversity in the entertainment industry both in front of and behind the camera, and her new show 'The Q Agenda'. This episode's Consent Corner is from Chapter 5 of my book, The Consent Guidebook ( www.TheConsentGuidebook.com ) and gives examples on how to hold others accountable. About Lianna: Lianna grew up as the gay kid of a Southern Baptist Minister and her mother and brothers are Deaf. This background propels her to authentically maneuver, create, and connect with a wide array of audiences that have two things in common: the belief that we are more alike than we aren't and the desire to laugh. The result is a rare find both as a comedian and as a human being. Lianna has toured as a professional stand-up comedian for a decade. She has developed original concepts (www.boyishontv.com) and just sold her first film to a production company. She recently recorded a stand-up comedy special with Seed&Spark as one of comedy’s six rising stars in Los Angeles, and landed her first interview on NPR’s The Frame. She is currently one of the hosts of ‘The Q Agenda’ on LATV. www.LiannaCarrera.com

Ep.181-On this episode, Sex Educator, Speaker, and Event Host Dirty Lola and I talk about her Sex Ed variety show 'Sex Ed A Go-Go', the importance of making Sex Ed more accessible, a recent 80 year-old client, and the healing that happens when helping clients work though a range of experiences. In the Consent Corner, we focus on the the basics of respecting boundaries from Chapter 1 of The Consent Guidebook www.TheConsentGuidebook.com About Dirty Lola: Dirty Lola started her journey into sex education by sharing her personal discoveries in the kink and polyamory worlds through the internet. From there, she became interested in the stigma, shame, and lack of accurate and accessible sex education available, and started sharing her exploits with her friends in her living room after parties. Once she amassed a following, she was encouraged to do something with her popularity, and started Sex Ed A Go Go. Lola has spent over 10 years kicking ass and using her platform to encourage a warm, no holds barred approach to body and sex positivity. She has presented her brand of sex education and positivity at a variety of events and venues, including Catalyst Con, SHE, GKE, Baruch College, and UNM. When she isn’t on the road and spreading the sex positive gospel, you can find her peddling chic sex toys and running workshops at Shag Brooklyn.

Dating Coach & Media Personality Damona Hoffman and I discuss vintage dating advice from an issue of McCall's magazine from 1958! How much has dating advice changed since the 50's? How hilarious is the advice? Listen in as we go through some of the 129 tips from the throwback article! In this episode's Consent Corner (from www.TheConsentGuidebook.com ), we talk about why 'No Means No' can be problematic. About Damona: Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach, radio host, and TV personality. Damona starred in the TV series #BlackLove and A Question of Love on FYI TV (A & E Networks), she hosts the Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Radio Show & Podcast, she is the Love Expert for BET.com, and she writes for The Washington Post’s long-running column, Date Lab. Damona was a finalist for iDate’s Best Dating Coach of 2014 and 2016, has been named one of the top dating experts in LA by DatingAdvice.com, and she’s made hundreds of media appearances on NBC, Fox, Animal Planet, SiriusXM, Woman’s Day Magazine, Essence Magazine, People Magazine and more. www.DamonaHoffman.com

Ep.179-On this episode, we explore the connection between bullying, consent, boundaries and coping skills in connection to the new celeb anti-bullying doc #NoJoke. In #NoJoke, singer Andrew Cole sets out to convince his musical idols to help him make a song for victims of bullying. He’s joined by Jeff Goldblum, Slash, Patrick Stewart, Lemmy, Chad Smith, Charlie Sheen, Jane Lynch, Cedric The Entertainer, Sharon Osborne and more, who share their talents and their sometimes painful experiences. Andrew’s journey to understand bullying leads him to Conflict Resolution Author & Speaker Barbara Coloroso, School Psychologist Izzy Kalman and to the ghosts of his own past—going beyond the tropes of today’s anti-bullying campaigns to the heart of the issue. #NoJoke is available October 22 On Demand and Digital from Indiecan Entertainment, and written & directed by Manfred Becker. We also feature another installment of The Consent Corner, highlighting consent tips, insights, and advice from my book, www.TheConsentGuidebook.com This episode is sponsored by dating app www.HashtagOpen.com ...Check it out for free in the app store avail for iPhone and android. www.nojokefilm.com proceeds go to www.AbuseHurts.com

Ep.178-On this episode, Legendary Founder/Curator/Host of Bawdy Storytelling Dixie De La Tour and I discuss how her sexual storytelling show has brought people together and has been healing to both the storyteller and the audience for 10+ years. For more Bawdy Storytelling, visit www.BawdyStorytelling.com ...we also introduce a new segment called The Consent Corner, featuring consent tips, insights, and advice from my book, www.TheConsentGuidebook.com This episode is sponsored by dating app www.HashtagOpen.com ...Check it out for free in the app store avail for iPhone and android.

Ep.177-On this episode, Intimacy Architect and Speaker Christi Anne Bela and I talk about enthusiastic consent, the importance of knowing your own boundaries when getting intimate, tips for talking about consent with potential partners, and how the action of throwing and catching a ball relates to consent. About Christi Anne: It was 2007 when Christi Anne began the first of many Yoga Teacher Trainings that lead her to work with Autistic people and begin Practical Happiness Living. Since moving to Nashville, Christi Anne has been on the leadership committee for Sex Positive World. As an Intimacy Architect, she educates people on consent, boundaries and how having a healthy sex life makes for a healthier life. In May of 2017, Christi Anne spoke at the Mega Conference for Disabilities on “Self Care, Consent and Boundaries."