Pure Sex Radio

What does our sexual sin cost us? Do we take time to evaluate the losses and how they are affecting our lives today? In this episode, we share a story of a man who had a terrifying nightmare that vividly illustrates what it’s like to be confronted with how evil steals innocence and peace from our inner child. We then explore what this man discovered from this dream and how to respond to your own losses of innocence and peace, and what the journey back to protecting your innocence can look like. For help with understanding how the inner child impacts sexual acting out, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com. More Resources:Going Deeper by Dr. Eddie Capparucci40 Days of Purity Online CourseFind a Counselor Related Podcasts:Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex AddictionUnderstanding Fear and SadnessWhy Your Family of Origin Matters ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way? Today we have back with us Karla Downing to help us answer these important questions. Karla is the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She offers Christian marriage help and Christian relationship help as a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible study teacher. As one who has walked her own path of relationship struggles, she can speak to these matters with both experience and empathy.  In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and what the real “goal” is of restoration.  To learn more about Karla and her relationship resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com. More Resources:Help for HusbandsHelp for WivesGod, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Related Podcasts:Helping Wives "Detach with Love" in a Difficult MarriageRecovery Discovery 026: BoundariesGaslighting and Deception ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Why does most “accountability” not work in recovery from unwanted behaviors? Is there a better way to engage others in recovery that does work? My guest today is Chandler Rogers. He is the creator of Relay, an online platform that helps you discover a team of support. It is built on two key principles that are foundational to recovery:ConnectionTeamwork In our conversation, Chandler shares his own story and struggle with porn and the keys to his healing journey. We also talk about the importance of authentic community in recovery and how the Relay app can help in that quest. To learn more about Relay, visit JoinRelay.app. More Resources:Be Broken Support Group NetworkFirst 7 Days for MenIntegrity Webinar for Men Related Podcasts:Recovery Discovery 024: Community & Accountability (Part 1: Defining It)Recovery Discovery 025: Community & Accountability (Part 2: Living It)Porn, Technology, and Self-Control ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

“Most married Christians cannot answer the question, ‘What does God say a good sex life is supposed to look like?’” This statement is made by our special guest, Dr. Juli Slattery. Juli is an author, speaker, and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality.  In our conversation we discuss how Juli answers this question about a good sex life from her latest book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage.  We first cover why there is a disconnect between God and sex, even in the church. Then we unpack the four pillars of a great sex life: FaithfulnessIntimate KnowingSacrificial LovePassionate Celebration To learn more about Juli and her ministry and resources, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com. More Resources: Java with Juli podcast40 Days to Oneness devotionalMade for Purity online course Related Podcasts:The EPIC Challenge for a Great MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations? What is Intimacy? ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Is all fighting in marriage bad? Don’t most of us hate conflict and try to avoid it at all costs? What if, however, there is good to be found in conflict and disagreement? In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to unpack the positive dynamics of fighting in marriage. Discover what anger often means, how conflict is revealing what your spouse truly wants, and how to develop gratitude for the passion of differences. For helpful resources, visit Bebroken.org. More Resources:40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesNot All Stress is BadMarriage Restored Related Podcasts:Finding Rest for Your Marriage4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired on February 22, 2022 View this episode on Youtube In this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode. If you are a man who wants to grow in integrity by digging deep into what goes on between your ears, listen closely because true sobriety goes beyond just eliminating unhealthy behaviors. You must work on your thoughts and this episode will help you with practical ideas for thought sobriety. A resource that will help you retrain your mind toward a life of sexual integrity is our 40 Days of Purity online course. Learn more and enroll at 40days.PureLifeAcademy.org. More Resources:Grace-Based Recovery by Jonathan DaughertyUnwanted by Jay StringerGateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men Related Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingReplacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts & BehaviorsGuy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired on March 8, 2022 View episode on Youtube LAST WEEK to make your generous year-end donation at Bebroken.org/give. Thank you for your partnership! Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the destruction caused by sexual sin and shame.  In this episode, Matt shares some of his story and key principles and insights that are proven to lead people from brokenness to wholeness. Our conversation addresses taking a serious view of sin, combating shame, understanding your true identity, and reclaiming a godly perspective on the body. Learn more about Matt and his ministry’s resources at RestoredMinistries.ca. More Resources:Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.com Related Podcasts & Media:Recovery Discovery: IdentityRecovery Discovery: No More ShameHow Identity Shapes Everything ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Make your generous year-end donation today at Bebroken.org/give! How does brokenness fit with wholeness in Christ? Are these contradictory or might they be explained as a paradox that actually unlocks the door to experiencing God’s grace and transformative work in our lives? On today’s episode, I’m flying solo to help unpack this amazing paradox between brokenness and wholeness. I will share three “types” of brokenness and three contexts for wholeness and how this all fits together on our journey of transformation in Christ.  You may download my outline for today’s episode at Bebroken.org/paradox. More Resources:Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestHumility by Andrew MurrayGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups Related Podcasts:The Immanuel Approach in RecoveryThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthWhat Can We Learn from Lust? ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Pastors are not immune to sexual temptations and sexual strongholds. But many pastors feel isolated and “trapped” from reaching out for help with their private sexual struggles.  On today’s episode, we have Mark Denison join us to share with us some key principles from his new book, Broken Vessels, on how pastors can get help to break free from sexual strongholds and even still be used by God for kingdom work.  To learn more about Mark and his ministry, visit TheresStillHope.org. More Resources: Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveRecovery Minute Related Podcasts:A Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on PornReframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guests are Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. They are the directors of The Raabsmith Team, coaches and therapists that love to help individuals, couples, and families create life-giving change in themselves and in their relationships. In today’s episode, Matthew and Joanna will help couples understand the ins and outs of rebuilding a healthy marriage after betrayal. There is hope and thriving intimacy is possible even after betrayal. This conversation will be especially beneficial for couples who are wanting restoration.  For more information about Matthew and Joanna and their resources, visit RaabsmithTeam.com. More Resources:Intimacy Pyramid Training (virtual workshop)Online Care Groups for WivesFirst 7 Days programs (for men and wives) Related Podcasts:Affair Recovery Through a Trauma LensRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalHope After Betrayal ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

For nearly two decades we have been inviting men to embark on an emotional growth mission, not merely a sexual purity mission (as good as that is). But what is an emotional growth mission and what are the challenges and possible stumbling blocks to emotional growth?  In this episode, Stephen and I define the emotional growth mission and share over 10 thoughts and ideas that could stunt this mission.  To get started, or keep going, on your emotional growth mission, watch the 7-part Emotional Training for Men webinar series at Bebroken.org/etm-webinar. More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithFree Integrity Webinar for Men Related Podcasts:How to Experience Excellent Emotional ConnectionsEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection? ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Porn is not victimless. In other words, porn use has consequences that negatively impact the viewer.  This may seem obvious, especially to those who have developed an addiction to porn. But it’s important to state the impact of porn bluntly and clearly in order to help you see it for what it really is: dangerous and harmful. In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you see multiple ways in which pornography impacts your life – things like escaping, avoiding relationships, unhealthy fantasy, the pain and difficulty of repairing what you have broken, and more. For help in overcoming unwanted porn use, visit Bebroken.org. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive40 Days of Purity Online CoursePersonal Ministry Consultation Related Podcasts:Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamOutgrowing the Porn PacifierHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Thousands of men over the past 20 years have reached out to our ministry to get help in overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. Our desire is to help them experience long-term freedom, not merely short-term abstinence. So, what are the keys to long-term freedom from unwanted behaviors? Our guest is Jason Martinkus. He is the founder and president of Redemptive Living, a coaching and speaking ministry helping men find freedom from sexual integrity issues and marriages find redemption beyond betrayal. Jason has 19 years of personal sexual sobriety; he has walked the walk. In this episode we talk about key principles of freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors, such as humility, confession, authentic community, and more – principles that are vital for both short-term and long-term freedom.  To learn more about Jason and his ministry, visit RedemptiveLiving.com. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveIntegrity Webinar for MenGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups Related Podcasts:The Freedom Fight with Ted ShimerRecovery Discovery 030: Lifelong LearningThe Last Relapse with Sathiya Sam ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

The father-son relationship is vital to boys learning how to grow up into manhood. And part of maturing into manhood is understanding sex and sexuality. But how can fathers and sons talk about sex and sexuality?  Our guests today are John and Lucas Fort, the father-son duo who wrote the book Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship. They share their story of how they learned to talk about sex and other difficult topics – and offer tips and pitfalls they discovered along the way. If you are a dad (or son) who wants to gain insights and helpful tools for talking about sex, this podcast will give you confidence to engage such conversations. To get the Father-Son Accountability book, visit Bebroken.org/store. More Resources:Bebroken.org/familyFather-Son WebinarHonest Talk by John Fort Related Podcasts:The Identity of My FatherA Son Talks to His DadWhat to Tell Your Son about Sex ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Everyone in life has struggled with something. Struggle is part of being human. Here we see it in all forms of sexual brokenness. We have staff and ministry partners who are trained in helping such strugglers. But what if you wanted to help someone who is struggling? Do you know what to do or what to say? Have you ever given bad advice? Does it scare you when someone shares their pain?  In today’s episode, Stephen and I will share with you some practical things to do and say when someone shares their struggles with you. You don’t need to be an “expert” in order to truly help a struggling friend. More Resources:Bebroken.org/counselorsUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithBetter Together (blog post) Related Podcasts:How Do I Help My Wife When She Falls into a "Pit"?The Immanuel Approach in Recovery50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations