Honey Help YourSelf

One of the many benefits of the work I do is connecting with an array of thought leaders and teachers in the realm of spirituality and personal development. I recently sat with the brilliant teacher and author, Ruth King. She’s an expert on a topic that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: rage. In this conversation, she shares how […]

I’m not what you’d call a capital ‘A’ Activist, but after so much violence aimed at Planned Parenthood last year—the shootings, the threats, repeated government funding cuts to vital healthcare so many women and men needed—I decided to have my annual exam there this month. It’s not that I thought I was some kind of super […]

I was at a business workshop a few weeks ago when the instructor told us to break into pairs and ask each other, ‘What do you want?’ I doubt anyone in the room was prepared to be made vulnerable by such a surprisingly deep and personal question as that. ‘What do you want?’ ‘Well,’ I began, […]

I love the effect of surround sound when I’m watching a good movie. The noise and music bouncing off of the walls, pulsing through my body and in my ears, there’s magic in the way it expands the experience of sitting still in an otherwise quiet theater. To my rational mind, I know I’m suspending my […]

  According to the Buddha, “True love is born from understanding.” But when a relationship ends and the heart breaks, it can feel as though love itself has abandoned us, and understanding seems an even longer way off. For six years Dale had been the great love of my life. In nearly everything I did […]

  Spring has officially become my favorite season of the year. Never mind how much you’ve heard me gush about Summer. Each season has its magic, but Spring sings to me of rebirth, renewal, the majesty of starting over and making way for the underdog, the babies and fools. Spring gives us all a level […]

Sometimes it’s necessary to slow down—in order to navigate around obstacles, to avoid accidents, to keep ourselves safe. We might even have to stop altogether and wait for the way to clear. Such are the rules of the road. However. When we lose momentum on our pet projects or big dreams, it has the opposite […]

Whenever I ask for change, it’s the one thing I’m sure I’ll get. Actually, it doesn’t matter whether I ask for it or not. But the thing is, the process of change can be overwhelming. Ever been in a classroom or work or relationship setting where it felt like everybody was smarter, better, faster and […]

Do you know any cheapskates—those people who hold so tight to their money, they kill those dead presidents all over again in their grip? Beyond being frugal, cheapskates are downright excessive in their non-spending habits. To be clear, there’s a difference between budgeting—or being broke—and being straight-up cheap. Cheapskates are easy to spot; they’re also […]

Have you been feeling stuck or overwhelmed lately? Has your energy been ‘off’? I ask because I’ve certainly felt that way here and there lately. Whether or not it was the Mercury retrograde business these last few weeks, my communication—specifically, my internal self-talk—was inconsistent and riddled with mixed messages. Yes, I wanted to create new […]

When I was little I did fashion shows, hair, and painted and pampered the hands and feet of anyone who’d let me; I chain read books, sang loud into hairbrushes and broomsticks for an imaginary audience of many; I wrote my life out in crinkled letters to pen pals a world away; I told stories […]

Christin Myrick is a coach, speaker, facilitator and author of a forthcoming book about her 7 Soul Gifts typing system. We first met when I attended a misnamed Orgasm workshop a couple years ago. You may recall this post I wrote about it at the time. S...

  On January first I started a 21-day no-junk food diet. I’d been threatening to starve my sweet tooth for weeks—having spent the holiday season high on sugar—so, when a Facebook friend threw out the challenge, I answered. But I knew that if I was going to do it well, I’d need help. So I […]

At the start of each week I’ve taken to looking back at the previous seven days to ask what I’ve learned as well as what I can do better. Sometimes these questions are more rhetorical than anything, because it’s easy to lose steam by backsliding into old habits and moving the challenge of growth and change to the back burner—all because life happened. Just yesterday I was on the phone with a friend reviewing the things we declared around this time last year that we’d do in 2014. As we reviewed our achievements, we were surprised by some of the strides we’d taken and with the dust we’d kicked over a handful of ambitious plans. One year ago I said I wanted 2014 to be about growth and CPR: Connection, Prosperity and Radiance. These principles, I said, were to be my cornerstones. Not being a stonemason, it occurred to me that a corner is square and should probably have four sides. So, yesterday I retrofitted Intention into the year’s projections and, although it messes up my beautiful acronym, it’s still mostly appropriate. I give you some of my biggest lessons, gains and losses of 2014: 1.) Discomfort & Change. A huge takeaway from this year is that discomfort is proportional to the level of growth and change being sought. I’m all about working beyond the edges of my comfort zone, but this year pitched me pretty far into the unknown and forced me to let go of tired assumptions and business as usual. As Einstein said, we can’t solve problems—or challenge our limits—with the same approach that created them. For me, it meant I had to forge new friendships, seek out new mentors and boldly test my mettle. New writing and speaking engagements pressed me to revisit aspects of my past that I needed to make peace with by calling them out from the shadows for a good long look. If you followed me even a little bit this year, then you’ve seen me lay bare my tales of bad relationships gone worse, old programs of poor self-esteem and past failures aplently. In the telling, I seem to have established a toe hold in the relationship writing arena and I’m happy to know that by rattling the cages of my own experience and misadventures—as well as my successes along the way—it has helped readers see in themselves new opportunities to embrace themselves, drop old baggage, forgive their pasts, and love with wholly open hearts. This is also a big part of the Radiance principle. It's all about embodying our information and letting it communicate outward. Radiance works like grace in that we can't control how it emanates from us, but we do well to nurture it in thought and action. 2.) Connection & Disconnection. My goal of greater connection in relationships and business held lots of surprising challenges and opportunities for growth too. In the same way we have to say no to what we don’t want in order to say yes to what we do want, we also must disconnect from relationships or ideas that keep us stuck. Breaking up with a partner you no longer love is one thing, but what if the draining relationship is the one you have with yourself? Some questions to ask yourself here might be: What old stories or beliefs am I holding on to? Who’s really keeping me from my life? An epiphany that landed like rocks on my head was that being the change required me to change. This is what Radiance is all about: embodying Color me simple on this one, but being of service means more than lip service. How easy is it to say we’ll do a thing and then trod the same path we’ve always known when no one’s looking? Aligning myself in word and deed to true connection meant I had to make myself available to new experiences, responses and ways of thinking. I asked lots of new questions this year, learned gobs of new information and shed a heap of protective layering I'd built up over the years. Nowhere was this growth challenge put more squarely to me this year than in the surge of publicized violence committed against innocent people,

Marc was beautiful. He had a lean swimmer’s physique and a tiny gap between his front teeth that made me smile anytime he did. He had kissable freckles and ice blue eyes that warmed me. He was funny and smart and easy to be with. We were barely twenty-...