482 - Un-Diagnose Yourself with Todd Baratz
482 - Un-Diagnose Yourself with Todd Baratz

Join us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz. Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle @YourDiagnonsense.

Visit his website at toddbaratz.com and to order his new book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.

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PodcastMultiamorytherapist, Todd Baratz, mental health, author
480 - Communication Hacks: Remastered
480 - Communication Hacks: Remastered

This week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships.

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PodcastMultiamorycommunication hacks, communication, switch tracking, switchtracking, bids, micro scripts, microscripts, throwback
479 - Grief, Breakups, and Hope for What Comes Next
479 - Grief, Breakups, and Hope for What Comes Next

This week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Long relationships in particular can have difficult breakups and it can be hard to know where to turn. We're going to explore the stages of grief, healing, and recovery, and hope our musings can be helpful for people going through hard breakups.

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PodcastMultiamorygrief, breakup, breakups, recovery, healing, 5 stages of grief
478 - "How to put RA principles into practice when most people you interact with don't subscribe to it?"
478 - "How to put RA principles into practice when most people you interact with don't subscribe to it?"

This week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is.

If you want your question answered on a future Q&A join our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory.

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PodcastMultiamoryQ&A, Q&A episode, relationship anarchy, RA, listener questions, patreon questions
477 - I Love You But I Don't Like You
477 - I Love You But I Don't Like You

This week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but also not like being around them very much, and if one feeling is more important than the other. We'll also be talking about how knowing the distinction between liking and loving can help us show up in our relationships, and as always we'll have some takeaways to help you navigate these distinctions.

Take the Love & Like test we talk about in the episode here: https://www.idrlabs.com/love-and-liking/test.php

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PodcastMultiamorylove, like, love vs. like, Zick Rubin, Sternberg's theory of love
475 - Is It Better to Settle in Relationships?
475 - Is It Better to Settle in Relationships?

Today we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship.

We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible.

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PodcastMultiamoryexpectations, settling, compromise
474 - "How can I know if sneakiarchy is happening in my relationship?"
474 - "How can I know if sneakiarchy is happening in my relationship?"

This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more.

If you want your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! Visit www.multiamory.com/join to sign up.

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PodcastMultiamoryQ&A, Q&A episode, listener questions
473 - Love Languages Might Be Bullsh*t
473 - Love Languages Might Be Bullsh*t

Today we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework.

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PodcastMultiamorylove languages, Gary Chapman, gottman, communication
469 - Discomfort is Good For You
469 - Discomfort is Good For You

Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships.

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PodcastMultiamorydiscomfort, avoidant, avoiding discomfort, emotions, feelings, feeling emotions
468 - "I want to fix our desire mismatch, but my partner doesn't."- Listener Q&A
468 - "I want to fix our desire mismatch, but my partner doesn't."- Listener Q&A

This week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode."

If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory.

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PodcastMultiamoryQ & A, listener questions, minisode, mini episode
467 - "You're gonna need therapy until you die" - A Conversation with TherapyJeff
467 - "You're gonna need therapy until you die" - A Conversation with TherapyJeff

Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more!

Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Honestly, we can’t believe he is on our show. What a blessing! Learn more about him at TherapyJeff.com.

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PodcastMultiamoryTherapyJeff, therapy, guest, monogamish
465 - Is Single Life Superior? Why Independence Matters for Everyone
465 - Is Single Life Superior? Why Independence Matters for Everyone

Breakup season has passed, so we're going to spend an episode talking about independence is important for everyone, regardless of your relationship status. We'll go over some research and demographics, some common misconceptions about singlehood, and finally, some lessons we can all take to heart about being independent and prioritizing our own desires.

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PodcastMultiamorysingle, being single, single life, independence
464 - This Is Why You Struggle with Honesty
464 - This Is Why You Struggle with Honesty

Today, we're talking about honesty, and what makes it difficult to be honest with a partner. We all have difficulty with being honest sometimes, whether it's sharing a negative opinion about something or disclosing information about other partnerships. We're going to go over some of the research about what sometimes stops us from being honest in our relationships, and share some tools that can help you feel more comfortable being vulnerable and honest with people you love.

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PodcastMultiamoryhonesty, partners, relationship, difficult being honest, honest
463 - You're Not as Open-Minded As You Think
463 - You're Not as Open-Minded As You Think

Today we're talking about being open-minded: what it means, how it's often misunderstood, and how we're probably not as good at it as we think we are. Typically people think of open-mindedness as a good thing, especially among younger folks, but it's hard to research it, given how difficult it is to objectively measure. We'll be going over some of the research that has been done on open-mindedness, as well as some actionable tips about how to actually be more open-minded in everyday life.

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PodcastMultiamoryopen-minded, open-mindedness